High Praise

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Shit happens, bad shit, good
shit, crazy shit, and it usually

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happens when we least expect it.
So tune into the Shit that Happens to

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Me podcast and hear me and everyone
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These are mostly funny stories. You'll
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Honestly, you can't make this shit
up. Hey, everyone, my

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guest today is my husband, Steve
Nye. Steve has joined me for several

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episodes so far. He was in
episode eight The Natcho Man, Episode forty

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The Underground City, and episode fifty
nine Steve Nye The Pickle Guy. He's

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back today after listening to me edit
Martin Moore's most recent episode, Not Up

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to par I think he was offended
by my talking about all of the things

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that have gone wrong with our various
house projects, and while I try to

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explain to him that the podcast is
called The Ship That Happens to Me and

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not everything that goes right, he
wanted a chance to talk about how much

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he does around the house and just
for the record, I've never actually said

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he doesn't do a ton around the
house. Just today, he got a

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text from me about the basement toilet
not flushing properly. Poor guy probably gets

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a text like that at least once
a week, and he dutifully responds every

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time, and ninety nine point nine
percent of the time he's able to fix

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it. He's a wonderful husband and
I love him dearly. Well, let's

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hear what he has to say.
Hi, everyone, welcome to another episode

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of the Ship That Happens to Me
podcast. My guest today is my husband,

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Steve ni Hi. Steve Hi,
Stacy, it's great to be back

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for another episode. You've been on
a few episodes now already. You were

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on number eight, which was The
Nacho Man, where we talked about our

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love story. You were on number
forty, The Underground City, where you

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talked about your experience working for the
Milwaukee Brewers, and you were recently in

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an episode number fifty nine, Steve
and I The Pickle Guy, where you

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talked about, you know, your
love of pickle make gang. So it's

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been great to have you on.
Well, thank you so much. And

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but let us point out that I
was asked to come back for the third

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episode to talk about pickle making from
the great Glenn gardthinkle, I think we

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should just mention Glenn's name in every
episode and see what he thinks about that.

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That's right, yes, And the
reason why you're back today is because

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I think you were you you heard
me editing Martin Moore's recent episode. He

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did an episode called not up to
par where we were talking about various house

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projects, and you heard me talk
about like all the things that like go

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wrong, you know, around the
house, And um, I think you

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got a little offended by that.
And I try to explain to you that

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the episode that this podcast is called
the Shit that Happens to Me, not

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all the things that go right.
But um, we then had the idea

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that you come on and talk about
yourself, you know, all of the

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wonderful house projects you've done around the
house and and my reactions to them or

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lack of reactions to them. So
so this is your episode, Steve,

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to talk about like all of all
of the great things you do around the

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house. Well, I just I've
been thinking about this and and I think

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what it really comes down to is, and we've talked about this it's about

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praise, and it's about high praise. Okay, can you define that high

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praise? High praise is a bubbling
over of joy that one has when their

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spouse um completes a project or or
fixes a project not in their normal,

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you know, routine. So you
may recall that I have a bachelor's degree

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and a double major in molecular biology
and biochemistry and a PhD and cell molecular

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and structural biology from Northwestern I don't
have I do remember that, Yes,

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I don't have a degree in plumbing, electricity, landscaping and all that stuff,

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you know. And and it's it's
a funny story because years ago when

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when my father Marvin, and he
was very handy, self made man,

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could learn and do things. He
had the innate skills that he could fix

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or create anything around the house.
I don't have that innate skill. And

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I remember he was helping helping us
at this house we live in. And

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I want to talk about that house
we live in for after I finished this,

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But you know, my dad came
over and we were about to do

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something and I said, Dad,
hold on a minute, are we sure

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we're doing it right? Let's think
about it for a moment and he looked

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at me and said, come on, Stephen, you don't need a PhD

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to do this stuff. And I
looked at him and said, but Dad,

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I have a PhD. Right,
so um, And I thought more

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about that because I was riding riding
my bike earlier today and I was thinking

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about that moment with my dad,
And the answer is, you don't need

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a PhD. And you don't necessarily
need a need ability. Right. You

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need two things. You need confidence
and my dad has so much confidence that

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he was going to get the job
done. And you need practice. So

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as you see these problems with a
toilet or the fawcet over and over again

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over a period of thirty years,
you begin to learn how they work.

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And if you're you, if you're
Steve, Nye Stacy and I doesn't do

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that, well, you have to
pay attention. Yeah right, and so

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um, and I don't. I
don't think I have that in need ability,

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but I pay attention, and I'm
I'll be honest with you, dear,

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and you know this. I'm afraid
of electricity and I'm afraid of plumbing

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because if you don't do the plumbing
correctly, you get a flood. The

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floods are bad and electricity you can
get a shock badly, you can get

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a fire. All these bad things
can happen. And how my dad was

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fearless. My dad was fearless with
electricity. I remember in the first version

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of our rec room, we put
in these fluorescent lights and he was he

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was connecting one of the lights and
I said, Dad, should we turn

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off the electricity? Perhaps we should
do that, and he said, no,

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it will be okay. And then
I went in the other room and

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I called my brother and I said, recum, you know we're installing this

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this fixture. Should we have the
electricity off? And he's like, why

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why is Dad not turning electricity off? And I said no, he says,

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we don't need to. He says, of course you have to.

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Then I went back into the other
room and my dad had this strange look

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on his face, and I'm like, Dad, everything okay. He goes,

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oh, I just melted my screwdriver, you know. But he had

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this confidence. He was so confident
that he was going to get the job

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done. And so was that confidence
just like not not turning the electricity off,

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Like, didn't he shock himself more
than once. Oh yeah, he

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used to. He used to shock
himself and he go he was saying things

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like, oh boy, that's that's
that's really smart. Smarts. Yea smart

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smart. You know. He had
confidence and an ability and that's very powerful.

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So I don't have that. But
there are things around the eyes I

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enjoyed doing. You know that I
enjoy doing landscaping, and if I have

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to self praise myself, I have
a green thumb that I inherited from my

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maternal grandmother. It just seems to
make sense to me. And mostly everything

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grows around the house, inside and
outside, and I enjoy that. I

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enjoy fixing drywall because the boys have
smashed up the drywall and I really started

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to enjoy drywall after my drywall Svengali, the Great Tommy Skiba actually showed me

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the art and the thing is drywall. It's artistry. Okay, it's not

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really work, it's it's it's art
and that's why I enjoy that. But

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I feel like you wanted this house, and you fell in love with this

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house, and it's taken us twenty
five years to fix up the house.

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It's pretty nice now, but it
was a real it was a real nightmare.

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And we didn't have a lot of
money back then, so we became

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do it yourselfers, and a lot
of it fell onto me. And I

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remember, remember we had that old
shot in the backyard. So I was

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trying to remember the first moments where
I thought I was worthy of some praise

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that I never really got. And
we had that shut in the backyard that

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was falling apart, and there was
a spruce tree next to it. That

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was when the first owners planted this. They planted it too close to the

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shed, so of course it didn't
grow. It was a dwarf spruce tree.

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And I said, that has to
be removed. And you said,

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well, we have to call some
landscaping guy. And I said, well,

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let me get the saw. You
said to me, oh, you

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will never be able to do that. And so I cut down this little

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spruce tree and I dragged it over
to the kitchen window where you were,

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and I bench pressed it over my
head, and I think you gave me

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a thumbs up the second moment.
Wait wait wait, wait wait wait wait

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wait, I am I am in
shock that you have remembered this event twenty

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seven years ago that I didn't give
you this praise. You've been keeping track?

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Is there a notebook of all of
the times that you've you've accomplished these

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tasks, and I haven't given you
enough praise. It's burned in right here.

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So but but it's not it's not
just you, okay, it's this

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experience that we had in the Sherman
Williams store with my mother. And I'm

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not just going to sure why my
mom was in the show of Williams store

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with us to buy paint our first
our house, our first paint that we

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were ever going to buy for this
house. Is it badly needed to be

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painted? And I remember you picked
out a collar and my mom said,

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to God, the guy, can
you can you give him the smallest possible

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amount, maybe a quart, because
he'll never be able to do it.

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And that really, Dad burned inside
of me so much some of that,

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and I've almost become what I would
consider to be an expert at at painting.

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I painted this house many times,
and every time I know, just

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before that first brushstroke on the wall, I hear my mother's words, He'll

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never be able to do it.
Okay. So she's been a crusade to

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prove that you can can be accomplished
at these things. Well, it's it's

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a it's a crusade. It's a
challenge. Okay. And but here is

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myne the reason why I said to
you, I need you to offer me

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a high prance because it keeps me
going. You know that this morning when

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I went and harvested the most beautiful
dozen radishes from our garden, they were

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beautiful and they are absolutely delicious.
And I sent I text you a photograph

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of the bunch of radishes to you
and the boys, and you wrote back

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the whole family. You texted it
to the whole family. Yeah, family,

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you text back right away. Eya, yeah that little yea. I'm

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honey, I want to run out
to that garden and plant a whole nother

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row of radishes. Because that's what
that high praise gets you, is you

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get more Steve doing things Steve.
Conversely, we had I think I would

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call it a difficult moment in a
kitchen um the other day. So it

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turned out which one this is the
the where the remember I had install new

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kitchen faucet and everything's going well until
of a sudden it starting to slow down,

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m right, and the water flow
down, the waterflow is slowing down

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and slowing down, and you know, I you know, because I installed

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it. I have a thought on
why this was happening, which is the

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fun part of doing things when you
when you can sit back and go,

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oh, I think I know why
this is going bad, which happens often

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at this house. Um. And
your comment to me was, as you

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were by the faucet, you said, well, now, what are we

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going to do about this? And
I said, what do you mean?

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And you said, let's call plumber. WHOA I haven't learned. I haven't

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learned to say that. I feel
like I was at the Olympic Games and

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a javelin thrower, you know,
through the spear, and it impaled me

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at that moment, you know,
dramatic at all because because what I what

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I thought was happening is that this
faucet had a check valve in it.

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And I thought to myself, you
know, and well, let's have our

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whole separate podcast on check valves.
A very interesting time. But I'm about

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to fall asleep. But there's a
check valve in there, and it does

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two things that it prevents the water
from going backwards right, and it also

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helps regulate the flow. So if
we lived in California, where they minimize

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the amount of water that you can
use. That's one of the reasons.

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Apparently came from California. So what
I did was I constructed a rudimentary tool

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out of a out of a paper
clip in order to take the check valve

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out of the faucet. I think, didn't Alice construct that rudimentary to it?

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I did instructed that tool. Sorry. After trying several you know,

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already made products that we have tools
that didn't work, I realized I had

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to construct my own tool. I
got it out and when I tapped it,

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a whole bunch of jump came out
of the check valve. I was

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like, oh, this is what's
happening. The check valve is clocked.

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So what did I do next?
I made a fifty percent solution of distilled

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vinegar soaked in in that, and
then I blew that out with my mouth.

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See this is who are you married? You married a guy dedicated enough

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to blow vinegar out of a check
belve with his mouth. Yeah, all

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kinds of stuff came out. And
when I reconnected everything, now the water

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is flowing as it should. Yes, it works really great now, Yay,

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exactly. That's what all right?
Crazy? And so I feel that

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after thirty years, when catastrophic events
happen and it's like, oh Dad,

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this isn't working. Oh Steve,
this isn't working. You know, it's

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just become commonplace for Oh Steve will
fix it. You know. The bathroom

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handle comes off of the of the
bathroom the shower that Zach is using.

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Oh Dad, this isn't working,
you know. And and so I have

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to run to home depot and I
put it on and I didn't even tell

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your son that I had fixed it. And days go by, he's using

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the shower. I'm like, how's
the new handleworking. That's what I mean.

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Let's go to high praise, really
high praise, you know, that's

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what That's what drives me. Yeah, And and the reason is, you

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want to know why I need high
praise because your mother said you want to

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be able to do it because I
don't self praise. But you have already

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self praised in this episode like five
minutes ago, because the episode is about

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high praise. But I normally,
in my civilian life, I do not

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walk around self praising. I just
do it, gets done, and I

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move on and hopefully somebody will notice
that I've done something tremendous around the property.

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I don't. I don't self praise
except for one thing. Do you

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know what one thing I self praise
O drywall painting pickles. I s because

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the twenty twenty one nine pickles were
the best ever, and I walked all

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around mek One. I'm telling everybody
I've just made the best pickles ever,

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the twenty six people that live in
mek One. But I don't self praise,

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so I need high praise you.
On the other hand, I've discovered

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that you thought you self praise.
Do I know? Yes, you do

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most recently, and it's mostly about
cooking. You made the dplant meatballs.

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Yeah, I had a banner week
in cooking this week. Oh well,

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you're not praising my cooking. I
mean, let's turn it around for a

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minute. Like I had a banner
week of cooking, which goes back to

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since Dak and Alis have been living
with us and they're vegetarians, I've had

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to really adapt kind of meals I
make. And I made both curry.

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I made vegetable curry, which I
didn't even know I liked, and turns

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out it was so delicious. I
wanted to take a bath in it.

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And I made eggplants, meatballs,
meatless meatballs, which were like, we're

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a lot of putsing and were amazing, and I'm I'm serving these meals and

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everyone's just like eating it. In
fact, you didn't even eat the curry.

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You never even dipped a fork in
the garden. I wasn't in a

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curry mood at that moment. But
a lot of times, before we can

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high praise you, you've already self
praise the entire moment, which is it's

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okay, So you need you need
to kind of you need to wait a

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little bit so that you can let
the high praise come in. How long

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should I be waiting, like you
mean minutes or hours or days? Like

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days later, someone might say to
me, well that you made you know,

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like last week Monday was great.
I think that after we eat,

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before dessert, before all the dishes
are cleared as appropriate with people, can

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I praise you. But you know, I just want to say one thing

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I want to I do want to
high praise you for for the effort that

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you make to explore these new foods
for Zach and Alice. I you've done

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a great job, but I want, I want you to know I missed

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my old favorite foods. You miss
chicken breasts with now on them, dried

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out chickens, chicken breasts. I
missed the well done you know, destroyed

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broccoli and oh wait, I never
made that. I didn't make that.

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Your mother made that. When I
make at it, it doesn't come out

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right. And I missed the burned
French fries. You know that I can

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make those again. Yes, pretty
soon, they're gonna move out. They're

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moving out August first, and I'm
thinking, oh my god, I mean,

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I'm looking forward to eating chicken and
beef again. I just you know,

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haven't wanted to make it in front
of them. But yeah, I

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won't be able to eat dried out
chicken breasts anymore. So we'll see what

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the what the new kind of what
I start making? None, but so

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realizing that. You know, my
dad was incredible and I never heard my

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mom really high praise. I mean, he installed an air conditioner in our

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house, he installed himself. He
would change back then. You know,

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they had winter tires with studs in
them. My dad would change the tires

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himself. He'd be in the garage, you know, like in late fall,

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early winter, changing the tires.
He did all this stuff. I

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never heard my mom say, you
know wow, And so I'm not sure.

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Like with with your mom and dad, like like Irwin, he was

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pretty handy at some things. Did
your mom high praise earth? You know,

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I don't remember that? Um,
I mean he my dad dabbled in

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electricity, and if you if you
ask Evan, our brother in law,

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he will tell you that my dad
did some dangerous things with electricity, like

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just like use multiple electric core like
what extension chords. And I'm sure there

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were many code violations. I'm sure
there were many code violations. My dad

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did other quirky things. He used
to smoke and for whatever reason, he

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saved all the matchbook covers and then
he took them all and we had like

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this crosspace in the basement. He
stapled them all together and like while papered

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the cross space with these matchbook covers, which was kind of amazing to see.

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So didn't he also wallpaper at TV? I he got me this TV

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from the bank. It was like
one of those free giveaways we used to

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give you things when he opened a
bank account, and this TV was like

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p green. It was so ugly, and so he had extra wallpaper from

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my room, which I didn't like
in the first place, and he wallpapered

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the TV so that I wouldn't be
able to see the green. And you

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know, this was an example of
him like really trying to meet my needs.

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And I probably wasn't very appreciative because
I probably was a brat. But

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well, so I realized, sure
enough, maybe you and some of your

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listeners needs some education. So I
have a list of six catchphrases for everybody

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when and these are for when when
somebody there with yes their partner does something

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that might seem ordinary, but I
guarantee you it isn't. Oh and by

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the way, by the way,
I have a new rule, Steven's rule,

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and it's a calculation based on the
difference between a weekend warrior like myself

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and a professional. So let's say
you asked the plumber to come to the

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house, which one just walking in
the door. Hello, that's one hundred

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and sixty dollars right there. They
haven't even done anything, one hundred and

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sixty. And then let's say it
takes the plumber fifteen minutes to fix the

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faucet. My rule is you have
to multiply by sixteen. So if a

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plumber or electrician, a landscape architect
can do it in fifteen minutes, it

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takes me four hours. Okay.
So you saw me last week in the

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garage at ten pm, right on
the ground with a chainsaw. Okay,

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and now once again, what am
I doing with a chainsaw? That's a

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good question. What were you doing
with the chainsaw? I understand cell biology.

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I don't cut down trees, but
now I do. I cut down

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trees. Now you got down trees. No, I cut down the trees

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because of the Lilac restoration project,
and which in conjunction with that is what's

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the stuff for trying the buckthorn removal. So now I have a chainsaw and

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the chainsaw I didn't know this.
The chain gets dull. I had to

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replace it. So I'm laying in
the garage learning how to change change the

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chain on a chainsaw. Now,
the first time I did this three hours

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okay, And then you know I
actually readjusted the one we have. That

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was three hours. Then I decided
id better just go get a new one?

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And that was only like an hour. The next time will be fifteen

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minutes, which is what I was
trying to tell you. Like my dad

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said, you don't need a PhD. You just need experience because once you

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kind of trying to do these things
and figure it out, right, then

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it goes much much quicker. But
getting back to catch phrases and some education,

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and the key of this is don't
don't think anything is or mary right.

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Assume that the finished project had layers
of problems underneath it, like in

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the lilac restoration project. Right,
simple thing. Hey, honey, let's

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take away the invasive buckthorne. Isn't
that a great idea? So when I

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took away all the invasive buckthorne,
right, which was killing our lilac,

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what happened the wind down the lilac? Right, But that's okay. I

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have a chainsaw, so I could
deal with that anyhow. Here are the

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catch phrases. Wow, okay,
yeah, here's another one great job.

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Number three, that's amazing. And
here's when you should use often. Your

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dad would be proud. Oh okay, here's the one best work you've ever

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done. M which is kind of
like uh an off offshoot of and France.

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You know, this is the best
you know, chicken soup. I've

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ever made. And then here's the
ultimate one. You have a gift,

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okay, And what happens is you
throw any of those six and your personal

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handy man, handy person, personal
handy person, you you, you,

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you get more done. It just
lights a fire, you know, because

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the the root of all of this, the basic core element of all of

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this is I'm trying to impress you. M m. That is the root

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of it all. M hmm.
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And what have I said back to
you? I mean, you know

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that if it was me that I
would have just called the plumber or the

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electrician. I thought of that today
because I sent you a text today.

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The toilet in the basement is not
flushing. And I thought about what I

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would do, like if you weren't
here, I'd probably call a plumber.

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Now five minutes later, the toilets
blushed and everything was fine. But I

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would have spent thousands of dollars by
now on the plumbers and handy people,

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you know, to get these things
done and so and it never it never

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occurs to me to try to fix
it myself. Now wait, wait,

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let me say what other thing.
To be fair, I fix other things,

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like if something goes wrong electronically,
then I will spend countless hours trying

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to figure that out. But um
things around the house, No, I

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well, that's just not my gift. So well, you do have a

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gift with all of the teams and
remote and all of that, you know,

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WiFi, you do have a gift
for that. And you could work

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at Best Buy on the keek squad. I don't think if after you retire

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you could do that. So uh, all all good on that. There

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is one other, one other point
of praise that you need to be careful

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about. And you ran into a
little problem this week with in sincere praise.

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Yes, right, and so I
don't know what I did. Something

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happened that I did, but you
started praising in a way that didn't come

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off as sincere. And for me, you know, most of that's just

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white noise. It goes right past
me. Oh okay, Stacy, whatever

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you know, blah blah. But
Zach Zach stopped the conversation immediately, Hold

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on time out. Mom. You're
not being sincere with the high praise you're

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giving. Dad. I don't remember
what it was about you. I don't

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either, No, I don't remember. So I think as part of the

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education, uh you know, the
sixth great catch phrases to use, they

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have to be they have to be
said in a way that is sincere.

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Yeah, okay, yeah, I
agree that they that they do. I

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mean, um, So one of
the things that you overheard me talking to

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Martin about was the was the toilet
upstairs and how I gave it a B

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plus? So how are you feeling
about that these days? So at first

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I was I was repulsed that you
had a scoring system at my expense.

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They are now grading great different grading
the different projects that you're handy person that

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you married, you know, you're
grading his work. I thought to myself,

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how dare how dare her? I
thought, she's crossed the line.

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I thought. I thought, I
am now demotivated, because how can I

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ever earn an a right? But
then then I started to embrace it,

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you know, because you usually are
right about most things. I thought to

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myself, we do need a scoring
system. I don't have a scoring system.

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It was just for that one thing, because I think you were looking

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so you were really looking for high
praise on that toilet, and I wasn't

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really happy with the I'm still not
happy with that toilet. In fact,

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I think it's getting worse. I
have something to say about the toilet.

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But wait, wait, wait,
So it was just about that that.

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I was like, that's a B
plus that that I didn't feel like that.

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Now I could have praised your efforts
a for efforts, but you know

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that doesn't sound great either, but
I just I didn't. That thing wasn't

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perfect. So it's not like I
have a scoring system for every project you

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do. So I recollect that you
scored it and it was not a work

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by any means. And let's tell
your listeners. It was a I had

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to replace the handle mechanism that flush
is the toilet. It was the handle,

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and as you know, everybody out
there in Stacy podcast Land. When

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you replace a part, if it's
not the OE and if it's not the

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original Engineered Manact part, you know, good luck. Start to pray that

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it's going to work. So what
I ended up having to do was,

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and you don't you don't know this
because I do this stuff. You're asleep.

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Usually there's like an elf that goes
around our house, you know,

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when everybody else goes asleep. There's
an elf who goes around and and fixes

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all the things that I've broken during
the day. And he's the same elf

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who shampoos the carpet at midnight,
you know, so that everybody wakes up

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in the morning, Oh wonderful carpet
and the great big beard. But you

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know the thing is, and I
don't want to go we could do a

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whole podcast on carpet as well.
That's sounds interesting. I don't, I

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don't. I don't mind doing that
carpet. I love doing the carpet,

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which you know, when I was
a kid, my emper niece would actually

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pay me to vacuum her carpet and
that's how it all started. But but

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um, you know what I had
to do was super Blue. This part

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of the parts of this altogether right, And I recollect that you had it

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scored as like a C plus B
minus. Oh that's not true. It

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was a B plus originally, but
there was there was something that you had.

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You had to relearn how to flush
that toilet. Yes, you have

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to flush and hold for a second. I count to A thousand and three

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thousand, one thousand and two thousand
and three, and I think that kind

408
00:37:23.800 --> 00:37:28.960
of turned the corner for you on
maybe scoring at a B plus. I

409
00:37:29.000 --> 00:37:30.880
do not think it's a B plus. I think it's a B. So

410
00:37:31.000 --> 00:37:37.039
how have I embraced your scoring system? Stacy scoring system for the handy person.

411
00:37:37.760 --> 00:37:44.360
We had this siding project done at
at the house and it was more

412
00:37:44.400 --> 00:37:49.440
than siding, you know, it
was a complex project. And when our

413
00:37:50.079 --> 00:37:54.800
project manager would come over, I
would go through each part of the project

414
00:37:54.840 --> 00:38:00.920
and I would say, oh,
this siding here, that's a work.

415
00:38:01.960 --> 00:38:07.800
And then in the front by the
hentranceway it just happened the other day,

416
00:38:07.320 --> 00:38:14.199
I said, look at that sloppy
that's B minus right there. So that

417
00:38:14.280 --> 00:38:19.320
actually was C minus work that they
did in the no's they improved it to

418
00:38:19.360 --> 00:38:23.320
be minus. Yeah, But then
handy person Steve will go out there and

419
00:38:23.400 --> 00:38:28.800
bring it up to a minus.
So so I need to go back to

420
00:38:28.840 --> 00:38:35.360
the toilet for just a minute,
which is that I think I think it's

421
00:38:35.559 --> 00:38:39.679
getting worse the toilet, like you
might have to count to one thousand and

422
00:38:39.719 --> 00:38:45.440
five. But here's the problem.
So this is what happened with the toilet

423
00:38:45.440 --> 00:38:51.159
in the basement is I forgot which
toilet I was at, and I held

424
00:38:51.280 --> 00:38:57.519
that toilet flush her down for more
than a second, and that's why it

425
00:38:57.559 --> 00:39:00.679
wouldn't flush at first. So that's
the prob I'm all the toilet should flush

426
00:39:00.760 --> 00:39:07.519
the same because you might forget which
toilet you're sitting on and flush it the

427
00:39:07.639 --> 00:39:09.840
wrong way. Like that's ridiculous.
This is this is where we've come to

428
00:39:09.960 --> 00:39:15.480
on the podcast. We're talking about
how to flush the toilet, right,

429
00:39:15.400 --> 00:39:22.320
that's very interesting and note that and
I will come up with some kind of

430
00:39:22.400 --> 00:39:29.119
manual for you. I wanna can
we go back to electricity for a minute,

431
00:39:29.719 --> 00:39:35.639
because we actually had one brilliant success
story in this house. Do you

432
00:39:35.639 --> 00:39:40.480
know what that is? Which we've
had many brilliant success story with electricity.

433
00:39:42.480 --> 00:39:46.719
Yeah, the chandelier. Oh yeah, remember we go to downtown Milwaukee,

434
00:39:46.760 --> 00:39:58.000
to BBC Lighting and Stacy falls in
love with the chandelier right and says to

435
00:39:58.119 --> 00:40:02.400
me, can you install that?
And I said, probably not right,

436
00:40:04.400 --> 00:40:12.679
So we we we we get this
thing home and it turns out you had

437
00:40:12.760 --> 00:40:19.679
to one by one put all of
the crystals on this rod, which was

438
00:40:19.719 --> 00:40:22.039
not an easy task. By the
way, he did a beautiful job on

439
00:40:22.119 --> 00:40:28.679
that. And so I hooked the
whole thing up and I'm nervous, you

440
00:40:28.760 --> 00:40:31.559
know, sweat stripping off of me. And you remember what I said to

441
00:40:31.599 --> 00:40:36.519
you, Yeah, I said,
it'll be a miracle if fist goes on

442
00:40:37.719 --> 00:40:42.280
right, And then you flipped the
switch and it went on and it was

443
00:40:42.320 --> 00:40:45.760
like, oh my god, we
just had a miracle happened at our in

444
00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:49.599
our in our dining room. Yeah. So I'm really I'm really proud of

445
00:40:49.679 --> 00:40:53.079
that moment. That was many years
ago. It was years ago, probably

446
00:40:53.119 --> 00:41:02.639
more twenty years ago. More recently, I consultation with my friend Gary.

447
00:41:04.159 --> 00:41:12.000
He gave me the confidence I needed
to change the battery backup on our some

448
00:41:12.239 --> 00:41:17.920
pump. So we have a battery
backup for our some pumblicase electricity goes off

449
00:41:19.360 --> 00:41:22.039
and it's raining, and then this
thing will kick in it's basically our marine

450
00:41:22.039 --> 00:41:29.639
battery. It's really interesting about marine
batteries that are relatively small, that they

451
00:41:29.679 --> 00:41:35.199
are so dense, they are so
heavy, and this little marine battery actually

452
00:41:35.320 --> 00:41:44.760
weighs fifty seven pounds. It's really
impressive that this material. So I find

453
00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:52.559
I find a place Reamy Battery by
American Family Field on the south side.

454
00:41:52.960 --> 00:41:58.000
Right, find this place that I
buy a new marine battery. Right,

455
00:41:58.000 --> 00:42:01.559
so I have to disconnect the old
one, reconnect the new one, and

456
00:42:04.280 --> 00:42:07.000
so you know, I got I
got a little bit worried about it because

457
00:42:07.039 --> 00:42:12.000
as you're reconnecting, this thing is
live and it's time to get electrocuted.

458
00:42:13.199 --> 00:42:19.079
Right. So I'm now wearing Rubbert
gloves and once again sweat pouring off of

459
00:42:19.119 --> 00:42:23.440
me. We're doing electricity, and
I connect the thing and luckily I was

460
00:42:23.440 --> 00:42:28.000
wearing Rubbert gloves. There were some
sparks. I got something connected and it

461
00:42:28.039 --> 00:42:34.239
works. Saved a fortune because our
plumber who did this eight years ago,

462
00:42:35.000 --> 00:42:43.239
way overcharged on this. So what
it's about is is is having the chance

463
00:42:43.239 --> 00:42:49.800
to understand how things work in your
house and then you know, try and

464
00:42:50.039 --> 00:42:52.840
try. You know, I have
the confidence to try and do it,

465
00:42:53.400 --> 00:43:00.119
and it's not always about the money
either, right, I mean, for

466
00:43:00.119 --> 00:43:05.679
for me, it's it's interesting to
learn how things work. And I think

467
00:43:05.719 --> 00:43:12.960
the biggest thing help and helping the
Weekend Warrior home maintenance person is YouTube videos.

468
00:43:13.199 --> 00:43:17.639
You could find almost anything in a
YouTube video how how they fix things,

469
00:43:17.639 --> 00:43:25.480
which I'm actually considering making, you
know, YouTube video series on some

470
00:43:25.559 --> 00:43:30.719
of the things I've done. It's
I think you should call it, you

471
00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:37.679
know, Steve the cell biologist,
you know, fix it man. You

472
00:43:37.679 --> 00:43:43.639
could you could make a video with
the like toilet handles, and you could

473
00:43:43.639 --> 00:43:47.119
make a video of you blowing out
the check valve. I remember the name

474
00:43:47.199 --> 00:43:52.480
of the thing, but I think, isn't it all? I mean,

475
00:43:52.519 --> 00:44:00.639
you insisted on carrying that battery down
the stairs all by yourself, so that

476
00:44:00.760 --> 00:44:05.800
was really heavy. You probably had
to go see the chiropractor the next day

477
00:44:06.000 --> 00:44:09.519
after that, So there are some
there's also a little point of like you

478
00:44:09.599 --> 00:44:14.239
get mad when people don't help.
You expect people to just know to help

479
00:44:14.320 --> 00:44:19.039
you. But it's not like you
would have let me do any of those

480
00:44:19.079 --> 00:44:22.280
things by myself. Like you won't
even let me paint. You won't let

481
00:44:22.280 --> 00:44:28.679
me paint, you won't give me
a brush because it has to be your

482
00:44:28.800 --> 00:44:32.159
way. This is true, isn't
it. You know you couldn't do some

483
00:44:32.320 --> 00:44:37.599
painting on the next ground, which
will be upstairs in your office. We'll

484
00:44:37.639 --> 00:44:42.559
see how that goes. I'm all
for that, But let's go back to

485
00:44:42.599 --> 00:44:50.199
the asking for help. Yeah,
our parents' generation and some of our generation,

486
00:44:51.199 --> 00:44:55.719
you know, did a lot on
their own, right, our children's

487
00:44:55.800 --> 00:45:04.719
generation, I'm not sure how motivated
they are to do things. And you're

488
00:45:04.719 --> 00:45:07.679
exactly right. There are things that
I need help with, Like when we

489
00:45:07.800 --> 00:45:13.360
planted the jack Pear a couple of
years ago in the front to jack Pear

490
00:45:13.519 --> 00:45:16.519
trees, and Jesse, our younger
son, he came over and dine the

491
00:45:16.519 --> 00:45:22.199
holes. He's an expert hole digger. I would recommend him to anybody.

492
00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:29.079
Beautiful holes. So the idea is
you dig these holes and then the nursery

493
00:45:29.159 --> 00:45:31.280
delivers the trees and they pop them
in the hole, and then it's up

494
00:45:31.320 --> 00:45:36.320
to the homeowner to then fill in
the hole. Right, But you know,

495
00:45:36.320 --> 00:45:40.039
these holes are are relatively large if
you get a decent Scien tree.

496
00:45:40.119 --> 00:45:44.760
So on the driveway, we now
have a mountain of dirt which is mostly

497
00:45:44.880 --> 00:45:50.159
clay because in our area the soil
turns to clay, so you have to

498
00:45:50.199 --> 00:45:53.000
take the clay and mix it with
top soil and peat and you know,

499
00:45:53.159 --> 00:45:59.360
compost and mix it all up,
which which means that you end up being

500
00:45:59.400 --> 00:46:02.960
full of dirt, mud, you're
you're, you're, you're black with mud

501
00:46:04.000 --> 00:46:08.199
doing all this. I just remember
filling in these trees and our older son,

502
00:46:08.320 --> 00:46:14.320
Zach looked at me and goes,
Dad, want to be great some

503
00:46:14.679 --> 00:46:19.960
day when we could afford to have
people do this for us. And I

504
00:46:19.960 --> 00:46:22.559
said, well, well, Zach, we could do that now, and

505
00:46:22.639 --> 00:46:27.360
he just gave me the oddest look
like I was some kind of Martian or

506
00:46:27.400 --> 00:46:31.159
something like that. But he missed
the whole point of the amazing wonder of

507
00:46:31.239 --> 00:46:37.119
planting your tree and then watching it
grow through all the years. And so

508
00:46:37.360 --> 00:46:43.719
I'm hoping that some of that is
we'll rub off on him rubbing off on

509
00:46:43.840 --> 00:46:49.920
them. So anyhow, how much
time do we have left in this amazing

510
00:46:50.000 --> 00:46:54.280
episode because kind of winding down,
why how many more stories did you have?

511
00:46:54.480 --> 00:46:59.000
Dear? You know, I've been
wanting to tell this story on your

512
00:46:59.079 --> 00:47:04.400
podcast of an embarrassing moment. Okay, do you can you can tell that

513
00:47:04.599 --> 00:47:07.920
you can tell that story before we
end tonight the story that I haven't let

514
00:47:07.920 --> 00:47:13.440
you tell. So, uh,
this is the this is the moment to

515
00:47:13.599 --> 00:47:20.320
do with high praise or yeah,
this is this is embarrassing moments which I

516
00:47:20.400 --> 00:47:27.320
know that you growing up, uh
you know, in your awkward teen years

517
00:47:27.320 --> 00:47:35.159
more so than most people. You
have many stories. But I want to

518
00:47:35.159 --> 00:47:39.480
first thank you for allowing me to
open up the kimono and tell this story.

519
00:47:39.960 --> 00:47:44.599
So what it is, and I'm
sure everybody has done this, but

520
00:47:45.400 --> 00:47:52.880
for some reason, I walk into
the girls or women's bathroom, It's like

521
00:47:52.920 --> 00:47:57.320
I'm not paying attention or something like
that. Wait when was this? So

522
00:47:57.679 --> 00:48:01.559
the first of all has happened many
times, but but what many times I'm

523
00:48:01.599 --> 00:48:08.880
not paying attention? Yeah, you
know what happens is, you know,

524
00:48:09.119 --> 00:48:16.599
you you realize immediately you're in the
wrong place because the women's bathroom is usually

525
00:48:17.440 --> 00:48:22.519
well there's no urinals, but they
have you know, they might be pink

526
00:48:22.559 --> 00:48:27.840
colors and it smells nice and like
you walk in, it's like, oh,

527
00:48:27.920 --> 00:48:30.880
I'm not in the right place.
Anyhow, I'm fifteen years old,

528
00:48:31.840 --> 00:48:42.360
right, and for some reason,
our Spanish class decided to go see a

529
00:48:42.480 --> 00:48:46.719
movie and the movie was the other
side of the mountain, right, it

530
00:48:46.760 --> 00:48:52.559
was the kim On storage, you
know, because you followed these things.

531
00:48:52.039 --> 00:49:00.440
Jill Kinmatt was about to become an
Olympic skier. This is like a story

532
00:49:00.519 --> 00:49:04.440
and it happened like in nineteen fifty
five. And what happened was she was

533
00:49:04.480 --> 00:49:09.039
in a race before the Olympic trial. She was in a race and actually

534
00:49:09.199 --> 00:49:15.079
like went off course and went off
became paralyzed. So we went to see

535
00:49:15.119 --> 00:49:22.719
this movie the Other side of the
Mountain with Joe Kinmott, and then afterwards

536
00:49:23.639 --> 00:49:28.239
we went to a Spanish restaurant.
Okay, I get that part. And

537
00:49:28.400 --> 00:49:30.320
that's sure why the Spanish class had
to go to the movie. The movie

538
00:49:30.360 --> 00:49:37.039
wasn't in Spanish, which wouldn't matter
because I could never I could I could

539
00:49:37.119 --> 00:49:40.360
never speak languages anyhow. Okay,
I can't learn language, Like some people

540
00:49:40.400 --> 00:49:44.719
are really good at languages, you
know, and I can't learn languages.

541
00:49:45.800 --> 00:49:51.679
So I'm in this Mexican restaurant and
I have to go to the bathroom.

542
00:49:52.559 --> 00:49:59.119
And in that once again Steven moment
of confusion, I took a light into

543
00:49:59.159 --> 00:50:02.280
the ladies rooms, a left into
the men's room, and I know I'm

544
00:50:02.360 --> 00:50:07.400
in a foreign lamp. I'm like, whoa I'm in the wrong place.

545
00:50:07.639 --> 00:50:14.400
But now what do I do because
twenty five teenagers are sitting in the restaurant

546
00:50:14.400 --> 00:50:19.719
and they've seen me do this,
right, so i'd very carefully open the

547
00:50:19.760 --> 00:50:25.239
door, and you know, I
look around the corner and they are holding

548
00:50:27.039 --> 00:50:30.719
just holding with laughter. I am
dying inside, right, And I just

549
00:50:30.800 --> 00:50:37.760
remember seeing Tammy Hugo, who's now
Dammy Sodo And I should ask her if

550
00:50:37.760 --> 00:50:44.000
she remembers this. Tammy was just
like this, like, oh my gosh,

551
00:50:44.039 --> 00:50:47.679
what is he doing? So that
was a horrifying moment when you're fifteen,

552
00:50:49.239 --> 00:50:51.719
I mean, that's everything. It's
like, how could I even go

553
00:50:51.760 --> 00:50:55.360
back to school? Right? Right? So embarrassing, and I'm sure that

554
00:50:55.840 --> 00:51:00.679
you've done these before. But it
turned out this was a life chel event

555
00:51:00.800 --> 00:51:06.280
for me because not too long ago, within the last five years, I'm

556
00:51:06.360 --> 00:51:13.960
driving to O'Hare and I'm smartly drinking
bottles of perry A water. You know,

557
00:51:14.119 --> 00:51:16.719
that's just what two hours from our
house to get to a hair,

558
00:51:17.079 --> 00:51:22.800
I'm driving a drinking the Perrya.
By the time I get to I have

559
00:51:22.840 --> 00:51:28.559
to get to oher. I have
to I have to go, like you

560
00:51:28.599 --> 00:51:35.000
know, it's an emergency and I'm
dancing. I'm dancing through the parking lot

561
00:51:35.039 --> 00:51:37.880
and I'm running. I'm not running, looking inside the terminal, looking for

562
00:51:37.920 --> 00:51:45.519
a bathroom. First side, I
see restrooms might flying in there. I

563
00:51:45.599 --> 00:51:49.119
was in a foreign land once again. There were no urinals. And as

564
00:51:49.360 --> 00:51:52.320
as I'm in a stone and I'm
going to the bathroom, I realized,

565
00:51:52.360 --> 00:51:58.880
oh my god, I mean the
women's room again. So I don't know

566
00:51:59.039 --> 00:52:02.320
what great to do. Although I
felt much better and I when you were

567
00:52:02.360 --> 00:52:07.880
done, I opened up the stall, take a look and think nobody's there.

568
00:52:08.400 --> 00:52:12.400
Quick, I go to the faster. I'm washing my hands and a

569
00:52:12.480 --> 00:52:15.360
woman comes out of one of the
stalls, and I don't quite know what

570
00:52:15.400 --> 00:52:20.440
to do. And I look at
her and I say, is it in

571
00:52:20.480 --> 00:52:27.039
a nice day to fly? And
she looks at me it goes yes.

572
00:52:27.159 --> 00:52:30.840
And then I just went out on
running away. But you know I was

573
00:52:30.320 --> 00:52:35.719
I wasn't really that embarrassed like I
was when I was fifteen. That was

574
00:52:35.800 --> 00:52:39.000
horrifying. I really I need to
I need to call Tammy and ask her

575
00:52:39.079 --> 00:52:45.360
show members. I'm sure it's burned
in her memory. I've never walked into

576
00:52:45.360 --> 00:52:52.039
the men's bathroom. I don't think
so. Sometimes I might choose to go

577
00:52:52.079 --> 00:52:55.639
into the men's bathroom because there's always
a huge line outside the women's bathroom.

578
00:52:55.719 --> 00:53:01.760
But yeah, I don't think I've
ever like made the mistake and just run

579
00:53:01.800 --> 00:53:07.119
into the wrong bathroom. Yeah,
it's a very odd feeling. Yeah,

580
00:53:07.159 --> 00:53:13.880
I wonder if Glenn Garfinkel has done
that. Sure i'll year from him after

581
00:53:13.920 --> 00:53:16.599
the episode airs. He'll I'm sure
he'll let me know. Glenn, feel

582
00:53:16.639 --> 00:53:21.079
free to let us know and we'll
share it in the next episode. So

583
00:53:21.599 --> 00:53:25.840
I want to thank you for giving
me that extra time to share that.

584
00:53:29.559 --> 00:53:32.639
Yeah, I really opened the kimono
piled onion. Nobody. Now the whole

585
00:53:32.679 --> 00:53:36.920
world will know. Now the whole
world will know and feel. I feel

586
00:53:36.960 --> 00:53:38.880
so much better. We's been lifted
off my shoulder. We're glad. I'm

587
00:53:38.920 --> 00:53:44.800
glad. Dear well, thanks for
coming on the show and everyone trying to

588
00:53:44.840 --> 00:53:51.320
remember those six pieces of advice on
you know, how to praise whatever a

589
00:53:51.480 --> 00:53:55.599
handy person helps you out. And
I will try to make an effort to

590
00:53:57.199 --> 00:54:08.199
um, you know, up up
my praise thanks to here. Okay,

591
00:54:08.519 --> 00:54:16.559
bye, Well, I have personally
walked into women's bathrooms, but I haven't

592
00:54:16.599 --> 00:54:21.519
gone as far to be in the
stall, and I realized, okay,

593
00:54:21.599 --> 00:54:24.639
you know, I've realized I've walked
in and turned around. But wait,

594
00:54:24.639 --> 00:54:28.760
this is this is part of our
outro, now you know. Yeah that's

595
00:54:28.800 --> 00:54:31.199
fine. Yeah, yeah, okay, Well so let me ask you,

596
00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:35.400
like I also wanted to ask you, like, you've been married. You

597
00:54:35.440 --> 00:54:38.519
just celebrated your third year anniversary,
right, yeah? Yeah, yes,

598
00:54:39.239 --> 00:54:44.639
a couple days ago. Yeah,
so I think that was yesterday, no,

599
00:54:44.719 --> 00:54:50.119
two days ago. So do you
have similar conversations with your wife about

600
00:54:50.239 --> 00:54:53.360
like do you fix things around the
house? Does she acknowledge that, like

601
00:54:53.559 --> 00:54:57.480
how does that work? Well?
Yeah, I mean most of I'm not

602
00:54:57.519 --> 00:55:01.719
a handy person, but I'm learning, so thank god we have a YouTube

603
00:55:01.719 --> 00:55:07.320
and things like that. Yeah,
especially during the lockdown, I learned some

604
00:55:07.400 --> 00:55:12.760
new skills because we didn't want anyone
coming in and out or over and things

605
00:55:12.800 --> 00:55:15.960
like that. So she it's not
a can you fix this, it's can

606
00:55:16.039 --> 00:55:21.480
you figure out how how to get
this fixed? More of a conversation.

607
00:55:21.519 --> 00:55:23.440
And sometimes like our dryer broke and
I didn't know how to fix it.

608
00:55:24.760 --> 00:55:30.639
So I wish I knew more about
appliances and things like that, because yesterday

609
00:55:30.239 --> 00:55:34.639
a guy came over and I paid
him seventy five bucks to tell me that

610
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I just need a new dryer.
So that was a waste of money.

611
00:55:38.840 --> 00:55:42.880
But yeah, I should have just
assumed that it was busted, but I

612
00:55:42.880 --> 00:55:45.119
thought maybe you know, it cost
one hundred bucks for him to replace a

613
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little part or something like that.
Right, But so things like that,

614
00:55:49.480 --> 00:55:53.679
you know, I feel a little
um helpless within the marriage of but I'll

615
00:55:53.760 --> 00:56:00.000
learn and um, well, maybe
you can watch some of Steve's YouTube videos,

616
00:56:00.360 --> 00:56:02.280
yeah, how to fix things.
Yeah, so, I mean it's

617
00:56:02.360 --> 00:56:06.920
it's there's so many great plumbing ones
on YouTube. I've I've learned, and

618
00:56:07.360 --> 00:56:09.079
um, it's helped us with a
lot of sinks and things like that.

619
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The dryer was a little bit more
complicated because it was a piece that I

620
00:56:13.639 --> 00:56:16.079
couldn't get to. And yeah,
I'm not sure Steve could fix the dryer.

621
00:56:16.280 --> 00:56:22.119
Yeah yeah, but um yeah,
and I've done the bathroom thing,

622
00:56:22.199 --> 00:56:25.400
but I've I thought it was very
interesting that Steve has gone as far to

623
00:56:27.079 --> 00:56:30.360
finish using the bathroom, wash his
hands and have a conversation with I mean,

624
00:56:30.400 --> 00:56:36.599
I guess, once you're there,
what are you gonna do? Yeah,

625
00:56:36.719 --> 00:56:45.719
yeah, yeah, but um yeah, okay, great, Well we

626
00:56:45.719 --> 00:56:47.760
started that episode. It won't be
in the episode, but Steve and I

627
00:56:47.800 --> 00:56:53.800
annoyed um Stacy by talking about baseball
for about fifteen minutes before before the episode

628
00:56:53.840 --> 00:57:00.599
started. Yeah that's okay. I
mean, I when we go to these

629
00:57:00.639 --> 00:57:05.559
baseball games, he says things that
I have no idea what he's talking about,

630
00:57:05.599 --> 00:57:08.760
and you know, like, well
look at his ra and I'm like,

631
00:57:08.960 --> 00:57:12.800
oh, what is that? You
know? Can't you see how low

632
00:57:12.800 --> 00:57:15.159
it is or high it is or
yeah, a lot? And I'm like,

633
00:57:15.239 --> 00:57:19.000
no, what I don't know?
Yeah, so I know he needs

634
00:57:19.000 --> 00:57:23.320
to have those conversations. Sometimes my
wife just judges their looks now, so

635
00:57:23.480 --> 00:57:27.719
you know, we you know which
players she finds to be the most attractive.

636
00:57:27.800 --> 00:57:30.639
I have to tell you we've always
done that time. But we have

637
00:57:30.719 --> 00:57:34.559
the conversation now, I'm sure that. Yeah, it can entertain her.

638
00:57:34.639 --> 00:57:37.039
When when I when I join in, like like who I think she would

639
00:57:37.039 --> 00:57:43.280
think would be the most attractive?
And sometimes I'm way off um, But

640
00:57:43.719 --> 00:57:46.000
usually those the pictures don't do them
justice. No, Yeah, it's always

641
00:57:46.039 --> 00:57:51.760
in person, like mug shots yeah, or the Instagram feed. Yeah.

642
00:57:50.920 --> 00:57:55.760
Yeah, like Christian Yalich's Instagram feed. He's like, you know, buying

643
00:57:55.920 --> 00:58:00.519
suits and he looks real. I
mean he's probably like my kids age.

644
00:58:00.960 --> 00:58:06.199
Yeah. Yeah, he's a he's
a tall, he's a tall drink of

645
00:58:06.239 --> 00:58:10.280
water. Yeah he is. All
right. Well, great episode. Thanks

646
00:58:10.360 --> 00:58:14.519
yeah, thanks for thanks to Steve. What are you guys having for dinner?

647
00:58:15.679 --> 00:58:20.480
I don't know because I'm because I
had such a banner week last week

648
00:58:21.119 --> 00:58:27.159
and didn't get much praise. I
rebelled and haven't signed I actually made a

649
00:58:27.199 --> 00:58:30.360
sign up every week for people to
sign up and make meals. And guess

650
00:58:30.400 --> 00:58:35.559
who does all the signing up?
Me? So I rebelled and I didn't.

651
00:58:35.599 --> 00:58:37.760
I didn't sign up for any meals
this week. But you know what

652
00:58:37.800 --> 00:58:40.960
happens then? Then I don't eat? Yeah? Yeah, so no one

653
00:58:42.039 --> 00:58:45.679
signed up, no one signed up. So what you guys gonna do in

654
00:58:45.719 --> 00:58:49.039
the kitchen? You're gonna just go
through the covers. There might be some

655
00:58:49.119 --> 00:58:52.400
extra like I made it. So
I ended up making a salad last night

656
00:58:52.440 --> 00:58:55.119
and growed some vegetables that we had
like around the house. So I don't

657
00:58:55.119 --> 00:58:59.519
know me that's usually, yeah,
that's what we make, a makeshift salad

658
00:58:59.599 --> 00:59:04.320
or something. If we forget there's
some dried up chicken breast hanging around awesome.

659
00:59:04.679 --> 00:59:08.840
Yeah yeah, you gotta move over
to those thighs now or some drumsticks.

660
00:59:09.280 --> 00:59:13.079
Yeah all right, Well you have
a nice night and I'll leave to

661
00:59:13.199 --> 00:59:17.880
it you too, Thanks Tyler,
no problem. Thanks for listening to my

662
00:59:17.920 --> 00:59:22.840
ship. I really appreciate it.
Come back and hear more shit next time

663
00:59:22.880 --> 00:59:24.400
on the Ship that Happens to Me
podcast. Do you think I've said shit

664
00:59:24.599 --> 00:59:30.400
enough for one podcast episode? Tune
in next time to the Ship that Happens

665
00:59:30.440 --> 00:59:38.000
to Me podcasts. You gotta,
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