$700 Brunch

WEBVTT

1
00:00:00.920 --> 00:00:05.639
Shit happens, bad shit, good
shit, crazy shit, and it usually

2
00:00:05.679 --> 00:00:09.160
happens when we least expect it.
So tune into the Shit that Happens to

3
00:00:09.199 --> 00:00:14.119
Me podcast and hear me and everyone
I meet tell they're shitty stories. You'll

4
00:00:14.240 --> 00:00:18.399
laugh, you'll cry. You probably
won't cry. Why would you cry?

5
00:00:18.559 --> 00:00:22.960
These are mostly funny stories. You'll
learn a few lessons, probably not.

6
00:00:23.160 --> 00:00:26.760
It's definitely not that kind of podcast, but you will have a great time.

7
00:00:27.160 --> 00:00:32.799
Honestly, you can't make this shit
up. Hey everyone, Andy Riggs

8
00:00:32.920 --> 00:00:36.840
Riggle is on the show today.
This will be his third appearance. He

9
00:00:36.920 --> 00:00:41.119
was previously on episode thirty nine,
which was called free Fall, where he

10
00:00:41.200 --> 00:00:45.479
talked about his hobby of skydiving,
and he was also on episode forty nine

11
00:00:45.840 --> 00:00:48.960
called A Pain in My Ass,
where he talked about his broken arm.

12
00:00:49.640 --> 00:00:52.920
You may know him as one of
the co hosts of Riggs and Alley at

13
00:00:52.960 --> 00:00:57.719
one h three point seven Kiss FM
right here in Milwaukee. Riggs is also

14
00:00:57.840 --> 00:01:03.079
the new founder of Harthead, a
nonprofit organization that offers financial assistance for therapy

15
00:01:03.319 --> 00:01:11.680
and positive psychology coaching. So go
check it out at www dot heartheadhelps dot

16
00:01:11.680 --> 00:01:18.159
com. That's heartheadhelps dot com I
talked to Riggs from my home office a

17
00:01:18.159 --> 00:01:21.359
few weeks ago and it was a
great time, though it got a little

18
00:01:21.480 --> 00:01:26.560
darker than I had anticipated. Riggs
is a self proclaimed open book and he

19
00:01:26.599 --> 00:01:30.079
really wanted people to know that everyone
makes mistakes. Sometimes mental health is near

20
00:01:30.120 --> 00:01:34.920
and dear to his heart, and
once you listen, you may understand why.

21
00:01:34.159 --> 00:01:38.599
I also just want to add a
trigger and content warning for alcohol use

22
00:01:38.680 --> 00:01:44.200
and transphobia. Now let's get to
the show. Hi. Everyone, welcome

23
00:01:44.200 --> 00:01:48.719
to another episode of The Ship That
Happens to Me Podcast. I my friend

24
00:01:49.319 --> 00:01:52.920
Andy Riggs. Hi Andy, Hi
Stacy. It's good to be on again.

25
00:01:53.959 --> 00:01:57.079
So I'm so pleased that you're on
again. See your name in my

26
00:01:57.159 --> 00:02:01.079
inbox. Yeah, it's wanted to
talk to you. This is gonna be

27
00:02:01.120 --> 00:02:09.960
your third time on the podcast.
You were on talking about your skydiving and

28
00:02:10.039 --> 00:02:15.000
that was a really fun episode.
And then you were on talking about your

29
00:02:15.199 --> 00:02:20.000
broken arm. Yeah it's heal,
net Look, it's all healed. I'm

30
00:02:20.039 --> 00:02:22.080
glad. I think it was the
other arm, wasn't it. I'm just

31
00:02:22.159 --> 00:02:31.919
kidding. Yeah, yeah, amazing, bazing, And you're back on and

32
00:02:32.080 --> 00:02:38.479
I just folks maybe who don't know
you I'm gonna I'm gonna introduce you because

33
00:02:38.520 --> 00:02:43.199
you told me I'm people that actually
calls you Andy, like your mother calls

34
00:02:43.199 --> 00:02:47.759
you Andy. But to most people
here in Milwaukee, your rigs. You

35
00:02:47.800 --> 00:02:58.080
are riggs off the radio from um
Kiss FM, w Kiss FM Milwaukee right

36
00:02:58.159 --> 00:03:02.800
here in already. So yeah,
tell us thank you, one out three

37
00:03:02.879 --> 00:03:07.960
point seven. So tell us about
that show a little bit, can you

38
00:03:07.000 --> 00:03:12.319
do that real quick? Yeah,
it's really just two of us, our

39
00:03:12.360 --> 00:03:15.280
own, our own thing. We've
been together for almost ten years now and

40
00:03:15.400 --> 00:03:19.199
kiss on kissing Milwaukee, which is
crazy be somewhere that long. I've never

41
00:03:19.280 --> 00:03:24.199
been in a market for twelve years. Twelve years twal so shunk in my

42
00:03:24.240 --> 00:03:28.840
life here. So our morning show
is top forty driven. So we play

43
00:03:28.879 --> 00:03:32.120
a lot of Dojo Cat and Sheeron
and Harry's and that type of music,

44
00:03:32.199 --> 00:03:38.280
and we enter on life commentary whatever. We have kind of the ship that

45
00:03:38.319 --> 00:03:45.159
happens to us just without So that's
our whole. Ali's a mother with two

46
00:03:45.199 --> 00:03:46.879
boys that are eight and ten years
old, so she has a lot of

47
00:03:46.919 --> 00:03:52.719
craziness with them and growing up and
going through puberty, asking questions abouts and

48
00:03:52.759 --> 00:03:59.199
things like that, thinking our jokes
yeah, that's my wife. We're just

49
00:03:59.280 --> 00:04:02.400
all income, no kids with a
dog. My wife worked in the music

50
00:04:02.439 --> 00:04:06.960
intrigue getting songs played on the radio. I run a nonprofit called Hardhead that

51
00:04:08.000 --> 00:04:12.520
helps people pay for mental healthcare.
And I also jump out of airplasure that

52
00:04:12.639 --> 00:04:15.719
So I've got quite a lot going
on in my life that I can bring

53
00:04:15.800 --> 00:04:19.160
up and talk a Plus I have
a very crazy family, which is fun.

54
00:04:19.319 --> 00:04:26.319
So that's our show is everything that
happens in our lives. So it's

55
00:04:26.439 --> 00:04:30.000
kind of it's interesting and innovative,
and it's not your regular wore the Roses

56
00:04:30.079 --> 00:04:33.600
t show. We're going to do
just a bunch of game shows while we

57
00:04:33.639 --> 00:04:40.360
do have some fun. And yeah, the show in a nut show.

58
00:04:41.399 --> 00:04:45.399
So the latter on and he talked
about your broken arm, and you wouldn't

59
00:04:45.519 --> 00:04:49.920
tell me how you broke your arm. It was the game and one of

60
00:04:49.959 --> 00:04:55.439
the because your mother in law had
also broke her arm, she broke her

61
00:04:55.439 --> 00:05:00.720
foot, her foot and intentionally broke
her foot to reassemble it. It's horrifying,

62
00:05:00.759 --> 00:05:04.240
but it's yeah, it intentionally broke
her foot. Yeah, well they

63
00:05:04.279 --> 00:05:09.920
broke sound gross. They break like
the knuckles and the foot just to reshape

64
00:05:09.920 --> 00:05:14.000
its gross, but oh okay,
but it was malformed. It looked like

65
00:05:14.000 --> 00:05:19.839
it has it looked like she had
hooves. No decided for laughing at your

66
00:05:19.839 --> 00:05:23.480
mother in law. She showed us
the foot. We were like, oh

67
00:05:23.519 --> 00:05:29.000
my god, she goes this isn't
a horror to get it fixed with us

68
00:05:29.120 --> 00:05:34.839
sometime the same time, okay,
yeah, come back just after the certain

69
00:05:35.439 --> 00:05:39.879
for us. And then two days
later I broke myself and thank you,

70
00:05:41.319 --> 00:05:45.079
and she was still with you for
a while. I yeah, yeah,

71
00:05:45.360 --> 00:05:48.560
yeah. So, um, I
reached out to the other day and asked

72
00:05:48.560 --> 00:05:56.079
if you had any news happening in
your life, and you responded something about

73
00:05:56.480 --> 00:06:01.600
um Mother's Day brunch. I forgot. Yeah, that was a little bit

74
00:06:01.639 --> 00:06:08.040
more expensive than you had planned.
So tell us about what happened. I

75
00:06:08.079 --> 00:06:13.000
forgot. I told you about this. Would you like me to back up

76
00:06:13.000 --> 00:06:15.319
and not say it? Oh no, no, no, it's fine,

77
00:06:15.319 --> 00:06:19.160
it's fine because it's still I still
have the receipt saying downstairs. So my

78
00:06:19.240 --> 00:06:26.000
mom had never been to a fancy
Mother's Day brunch in her life, something

79
00:06:26.120 --> 00:06:30.040
she always wanted to do, like
we'd always got our flowers or did home,

80
00:06:30.160 --> 00:06:32.839
or we go to church, or
she'd have a relaxing day. We've

81
00:06:32.839 --> 00:06:35.720
got her massages and things like that, but she's always wanted to have like

82
00:06:35.759 --> 00:06:41.240
a nice, fancy Mother's Day brunch. And my sister was getting married in

83
00:06:41.240 --> 00:06:46.199
Indianapolis the weekend of Mother's Day.
And I grew up in Indianapolis, so

84
00:06:46.199 --> 00:06:50.680
I knew all the restaurants here.
Frond called the Skyline Club and it's on

85
00:06:50.800 --> 00:06:57.959
the thirtieth floor one American Building.
So it's got these beautiful, like ful

86
00:06:58.079 --> 00:07:00.920
views of downtown. See the Skyline, it's right there next to you.

87
00:07:02.279 --> 00:07:08.160
It's just a really nice restaurant.
And I invited her to come with her

88
00:07:08.199 --> 00:07:12.079
friend and my wife, so there
was four of us, all the book

89
00:07:12.399 --> 00:07:14.839
patient. We were good to go
because I was amazed that I could find

90
00:07:14.959 --> 00:07:17.959
a resident on Mother's Day, the
thursday before. Oh, I was just

91
00:07:17.959 --> 00:07:20.959
happy to get the Inva. My
mom calls and says, do you mind

92
00:07:20.959 --> 00:07:25.519
if your grandparents come? I was
like, well, of course, I

93
00:07:25.519 --> 00:07:28.560
don't mind. They're my grandparents,
that your parents, So have your mom

94
00:07:28.560 --> 00:07:31.399
and my mom on Mother's Day.
It's great. Yeah. So my grandparents

95
00:07:31.439 --> 00:07:34.800
live in Monroe, Indiana, which
is the sticks of Indiana. That's where

96
00:07:34.839 --> 00:07:38.839
like all the corners and the fields
and the woods. They don't like the

97
00:07:38.879 --> 00:07:43.040
city. My grandpa hates metropolitan areas. He hates driving town, the traffic,

98
00:07:43.079 --> 00:07:46.720
the parking. So the fact that
I got him out downtown was also

99
00:07:46.759 --> 00:07:50.480
a fair feet in and of itself. So we've gotten my grandparents that are

100
00:07:50.519 --> 00:07:55.600
down in Indianapolis now come downtown meet
us. And my ground was not invited

101
00:07:55.639 --> 00:07:59.519
to my wedding that was happening over
the weekend, which we could go into

102
00:07:59.560 --> 00:08:03.680
that if you want, maybe there's
some tea right there for you. Yeah.

103
00:08:05.040 --> 00:08:07.720
Right, So I was happy that
I was able to give my grandmother

104
00:08:07.800 --> 00:08:13.199
because she wasn't twenty. Um,
we get downtown, we all meet up

105
00:08:13.240 --> 00:08:18.600
together, going around to these different
there's only two large buildings in Indianapolis.

106
00:08:18.759 --> 00:08:22.319
I thought it was actually in a
second town, so I put us in

107
00:08:22.360 --> 00:08:26.079
the wrong direction. We're running forty
minutes late, and we get in all

108
00:08:26.079 --> 00:08:31.600
the way to the thirty sixth floor. My grandfather is yelling and screaming because

109
00:08:31.600 --> 00:08:33.399
he hated being downtown. He's like, I knew this would happen. I

110
00:08:35.000 --> 00:08:39.200
knew that was gonna happen. Never
coming to Indianapolis again. And finally I'll

111
00:08:39.200 --> 00:08:41.919
sit down to this Mother's Day brunch
and we walk in the other room to

112
00:08:41.960 --> 00:08:46.799
get our food. It's amazing.
There's like sushi, there's an omelet bar,

113
00:08:46.960 --> 00:08:52.120
there's prime rib everything. He'd want
the money, yeah, and I'm

114
00:08:52.159 --> 00:08:56.600
just happy to be eating. And
my mom is sanely happy, crying and

115
00:08:56.639 --> 00:09:01.639
she runs up and hugs windows.
I never had a mother never that was

116
00:09:01.080 --> 00:09:05.200
of course, I love you so
doing that. I get up and I

117
00:09:05.240 --> 00:09:07.360
go to get a second plate of
the French toast. And I stopped by

118
00:09:07.399 --> 00:09:11.799
and I go, hey, brunches
on me. This is my mom,

119
00:09:11.879 --> 00:09:13.559
my grandma. So my wife and
I were going to well, here's my

120
00:09:13.600 --> 00:09:16.600
car. Just bring me the check. Yeah, I go, how much

121
00:09:16.679 --> 00:09:20.159
is it? By the way,
and he goes, oh, a member

122
00:09:20.159 --> 00:09:26.679
of the club, And I went
good club. No, it was Oh

123
00:09:26.720 --> 00:09:31.840
I'm not He says, well,
it's eighty two dollars a plate. M

124
00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:39.600
dollars a plate plus the drinks that
we had, the mimosa is in the

125
00:09:39.639 --> 00:09:41.919
coffee there were three fifty each.
I get handed a bill in front of

126
00:09:41.960 --> 00:09:50.120
my grandparents and my mom for six
hus Oh my goodness for brunch. Oh

127
00:09:50.200 --> 00:09:52.159
my god. You can't say anything
when they hand me that. Yeah.

128
00:09:52.320 --> 00:09:56.720
I had to play tool yeah,
getting there and they hand me the deck

129
00:09:56.759 --> 00:10:03.080
and I had very calmly sure and
slide my America. I can't put that

130
00:10:03.120 --> 00:10:09.240
on my debit card. So I
ended up paying seven hundred dollars for a

131
00:10:09.279 --> 00:10:11.200
Mother's Day brunch. But I didn't
hip the guy because it said that there

132
00:10:11.240 --> 00:10:15.559
was a gratuity included at the bottom. Yeah, I thought it was just

133
00:10:15.639 --> 00:10:18.120
for service staff and cook like.
That's why I felt awful that I didn't

134
00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:22.440
tip the card. Oh no,
seventy more dollars of cash downstairs in the

135
00:10:22.440 --> 00:10:26.600
ATM, and I brought him money, and I said I did as I

136
00:10:26.600 --> 00:10:30.399
didn't realize there was going to be
this expensive. Not tip you for you

137
00:10:30.600 --> 00:10:33.720
go because it was a nice guy. He's yeah, it wasn't with his

138
00:10:33.799 --> 00:10:37.480
mom or his wife for Mother's Day. So yeah, but I spent almost

139
00:10:37.559 --> 00:10:45.360
eight hundred dollars. I'm brunched brunch. Mom loved it, my grandma loved

140
00:10:45.399 --> 00:10:52.600
it. Everybody Andy, Well,
you would think grandparents would be priceless,

141
00:10:52.639 --> 00:10:54.840
but here we are. I put
a price tag on it. It's eight

142
00:10:54.879 --> 00:11:01.240
hundred dollars. I mean, you
made you made me think of something my

143
00:11:03.039 --> 00:11:07.960
oh, my father used to do
this silly thing anytime he got a check,

144
00:11:07.279 --> 00:11:11.039
he would pick up the check and
go like that. You know,

145
00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:16.360
so you could have done that,
you know, you know, but he

146
00:11:16.440 --> 00:11:20.120
really felt that way. When you
saw that check, that would have been

147
00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:26.080
nice. Yeah, I internalized that
that was my That was like the latest

148
00:11:26.120 --> 00:11:31.240
ship that's happened to me. So
I finally paid that. But did what

149
00:11:31.279 --> 00:11:35.320
did your wife say when she heard
about this? Did you show her?

150
00:11:35.679 --> 00:11:41.240
Did you go look check after him? I waited for her to come out

151
00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:48.799
when she's seven hundred because he didn't
price and I would know I didn't.

152
00:11:50.080 --> 00:11:54.840
It was too far deep in to
not So, yeah, last time that

153
00:11:54.879 --> 00:11:58.440
I will ever go around without checking
the price first, because you know,

154
00:11:58.519 --> 00:12:01.559
things are going to be expective if
you're if you're a restaurant that a doesn't

155
00:12:01.559 --> 00:12:05.720
have the prices or be if it's
just a number without a decimal next to

156
00:12:05.720 --> 00:12:11.200
it. Yeah, yeah, like
it's like fifteen yeah right right right right,

157
00:12:11.480 --> 00:12:16.159
those are the those are fancy restaurants. So we was the first time

158
00:12:16.159 --> 00:12:20.919
we ever went to Costco. You
know, we we got a membership.

159
00:12:20.200 --> 00:12:24.559
This this relates, I promise you. We got a membership. And you

160
00:12:24.600 --> 00:12:30.519
know there's a Giant Carts right and
we start walking around Costco and just putting

161
00:12:31.000 --> 00:12:33.720
everything in the carts, you know, like, oh batteries, Yes,

162
00:12:33.919 --> 00:12:37.679
we we're going to need those one
day, let's put those in the cart.

163
00:12:37.000 --> 00:12:41.639
Oh we need it, Oh we
need you know, twenty boxes of

164
00:12:41.720 --> 00:12:48.159
pasta we need Like everything went in
this cart. And back then there was

165
00:12:48.240 --> 00:12:50.879
no credit cards, so it was
all you know, your check book.

166
00:12:50.960 --> 00:12:56.799
You can only write a check or
cash and thens you know, twenty boxes

167
00:12:56.840 --> 00:13:01.080
of pasta maybe for six dollars,
where it was I don't know, probably

168
00:13:01.120 --> 00:13:03.600
not six dollars. But so you
go to shout and they're doing it takes

169
00:13:03.639 --> 00:13:07.000
forever. You're going down the line. They get, we get to the

170
00:13:07.120 --> 00:13:11.759
end, we go to you know, all done. It was eight hundred

171
00:13:11.919 --> 00:13:20.240
dollars. Eight hundred dollars for our
first trip to Costco. Yes, you've

172
00:13:20.279 --> 00:13:24.639
gone through racked out and we're like, I mean, I guess we need

173
00:13:24.679 --> 00:13:30.360
all this pasta, Like you're gonna
put stuff back? It was Yeah.

174
00:13:30.440 --> 00:13:33.759
I feel like Costco is a dangerous
place. It's almost like Target, but

175
00:13:33.919 --> 00:13:37.679
it's on a different level because you're
buying in bulk and you don't really know

176
00:13:37.159 --> 00:13:43.440
what a deal is, Like I
just assume twenty batteries for nine bucks or

177
00:13:43.440 --> 00:13:46.039
whatever. I'm like, that sounds
like a good deal. I'm sure it

178
00:13:46.200 --> 00:13:50.480
has to be. We'll take it. Yeah, I've been there, just

179
00:13:50.559 --> 00:13:52.879
going to Costco for a couple of
things. You roll out and it's like

180
00:13:52.960 --> 00:13:56.720
four hundred and eight dollars or something. Yeah, what did I buy?

181
00:13:56.799 --> 00:13:58.679
Why is it so much? Oh? Yeah, that's right. I bought

182
00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:03.639
a water softing in a pack of
two. Yeah, right, in a

183
00:14:03.720 --> 00:14:07.759
pack of two, everything is yeah
right, so yes, be wary of

184
00:14:07.799 --> 00:14:11.639
the price. So that was That
was the latest big shit that happened to

185
00:14:11.679 --> 00:14:16.960
me. Yeah, I'm kind of
curious about if you don't mind talking about

186
00:14:18.080 --> 00:14:22.720
why your grandparents weren't invited to your
sister's wedding. Yeah, juicy, I

187
00:14:22.720 --> 00:14:24.960
talked about it on the radio,
So I don't care. I don't care.

188
00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:33.519
My family. Um My, when
my parents divorced, they were married

189
00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:37.480
for thirty years, probably four or
five years ago they split, And when

190
00:14:37.519 --> 00:14:43.600
that happened, there was like,
um, sides were chosen, and which

191
00:14:43.639 --> 00:14:46.519
is weird. So there's like me
and I have two sisters and one brother

192
00:14:46.559 --> 00:14:52.559
who's transgender, which will come into
the story in a second, and um,

193
00:14:52.720 --> 00:14:56.600
they kind of took the ship of
my dad, who was pretty much

194
00:14:56.639 --> 00:15:00.840
the instigator of the divorce, who
was caught doing they shouldn't been doing,

195
00:15:01.159 --> 00:15:05.639
and my mom was the victim in
this. So I've been with my mom

196
00:15:05.720 --> 00:15:11.440
through this before. My mom was
with my birth father when I was two

197
00:15:11.519 --> 00:15:13.000
years old, had to go through
a divorce with him because he was with

198
00:15:13.039 --> 00:15:16.720
someone else and there was infidelity.
She just said to go through his whole

199
00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:18.960
process. And I had a younger
sister at that time who was dying and

200
00:15:20.039 --> 00:15:24.000
going through something called Szelwigger syndrome,
which is terrible. So this happened to

201
00:15:24.080 --> 00:15:26.000
my mom back in like nineteen eighty
four a five, So I know that

202
00:15:26.039 --> 00:15:28.840
my mom's been through this before,
so seeing it happen again, I was

203
00:15:28.879 --> 00:15:31.399
like, this is terrible. So
I had to be there for my mother

204
00:15:31.440 --> 00:15:35.679
of course, of course, and
that kind of drew some lines in our

205
00:15:35.720 --> 00:15:41.120
family that was awkward. And we're
a passive, aggressive family. We don't

206
00:15:41.159 --> 00:15:46.399
talk about a lot of things.
That's just how we are over the years.

207
00:15:46.480 --> 00:15:52.759
But my family, So things that
happened during that was my brother was

208
00:15:54.240 --> 00:15:58.279
he's transgender now, so my brother
Oliver, and throughout this process, my

209
00:15:58.360 --> 00:16:07.679
grandparents, my mom's parents are very
Catholic. They're very very servative, you

210
00:16:07.720 --> 00:16:14.200
know, like why can't we be
rachel and love daughter? And I was

211
00:16:14.240 --> 00:16:18.399
like, that's not now I've changed
that. This isn't who I am.

212
00:16:18.080 --> 00:16:22.240
Yeah, Oliver my prother he and
it's simple to call someone by a pro

213
00:16:23.080 --> 00:16:26.399
told you it's weird too. It's
an adjustment. Was an adjustment for me.

214
00:16:26.840 --> 00:16:33.840
Yeah. It makes my brother have
for him to do whatever the case

215
00:16:34.240 --> 00:16:44.879
and out of butting heads throughout that
because my grandma staying brother and doing so,

216
00:16:45.039 --> 00:16:48.320
they're really hurting him more and more
by doing this of driving him away.

217
00:16:48.399 --> 00:16:53.399
And I think the fact that they
like that doesn't sit right with my

218
00:16:53.720 --> 00:17:02.759
other two sisters. So they're standing
up for but they're not them to the

219
00:17:02.840 --> 00:17:08.640
wedding, support to my brother.
I can respect that, m grandparents.

220
00:17:12.119 --> 00:17:29.960
I can't just abandon invited hill Ah
and done. You're not gonna have parents.

221
00:17:30.039 --> 00:17:36.640
It's true, you're not wherever we
don't. Yeah, imagine not reconnect

222
00:17:40.920 --> 00:17:51.400
that ship there, but I did, yeah, so grab there. It

223
00:17:51.599 --> 00:17:57.680
was not h Yeah, I mean
I'm with you, like I'm a peacemaker

224
00:17:57.799 --> 00:18:02.440
obviously, I'm a psychology just and
I just want everyone to get along and

225
00:18:02.720 --> 00:18:14.400
while direct and things like that,
and I want so I my nose and

226
00:18:14.519 --> 00:18:18.240
were along. I just want everybody
to get it, you know, get

227
00:18:18.240 --> 00:18:26.799
along. So I understand what you
mean of wanting you, you know and

228
00:18:26.240 --> 00:18:36.839
me specifically in the middle. You
wanted to support everyone. Um yeah um

229
00:18:37.240 --> 00:18:41.920
looking from it, Yeah, give
us, give us more ship. It

230
00:18:41.079 --> 00:18:45.519
was all the ship a couple of
days before this wedding, before this wedding

231
00:18:45.519 --> 00:18:52.359
happened. This is I broke examined
my relationship with alcohol. Proud of this

232
00:18:52.519 --> 00:19:00.079
is a psychologist. I like your
opinion, because why I drink. I

233
00:19:00.160 --> 00:19:06.480
don't have like I know, it's
not addiction dependence. Today at drinking just

234
00:19:06.640 --> 00:19:15.160
a cope with thing all drinking on
the chees. I go hard. Yeah,

235
00:19:15.200 --> 00:19:18.680
I get gets a little more so. In the past, I've had

236
00:19:18.759 --> 00:19:22.720
situations where I've got in the wheel
of a car and driven, which is

237
00:19:22.720 --> 00:19:27.519
obviously not safe. So and pump
the brakes on my alcohol and let's watch

238
00:19:27.559 --> 00:19:30.119
what we're doing. Just be aware. It's not good. You can kill

239
00:19:30.240 --> 00:19:36.160
someone, kill yourself life unless your
dance and where they slap you on the

240
00:19:36.200 --> 00:19:38.960
wrist for the first anyone. Yeah, So it's not good. It's not

241
00:19:40.200 --> 00:19:44.799
safe. First day for this wedding, I go out with a friend that

242
00:19:44.880 --> 00:19:48.680
came into town from Ireland and we
were talking about collaborating on a mental health

243
00:19:51.039 --> 00:19:56.359
health clothing. I have a favorite
therapy. We were going to vibrating in

244
00:19:56.480 --> 00:20:02.480
June. At all we have what
was just supposed to be a couple of

245
00:20:02.559 --> 00:20:08.319
dry I didn't intellibliterated. Yeah,
so this is Thursday night. Mind,

246
00:20:08.359 --> 00:20:12.880
you have to be on Friday to
do a morning radio show, so I

247
00:20:12.960 --> 00:20:25.759
can be in the studio buck out
until eleven, remember midnight things. And

248
00:20:25.960 --> 00:20:32.960
there's three gap in time because I
went through my text messages from one off

249
00:20:33.039 --> 00:20:42.319
and high for you still a drong
l it's a word on the area.

250
00:20:45.440 --> 00:20:49.039
Oh. I talked about this and
I was is that my room with alcohol?

251
00:20:49.119 --> 00:20:57.000
Like? Why was dug deep to
find out that my brother suppressing the

252
00:20:57.039 --> 00:21:00.240
weekend that was ahead with my flight? That was because I knew I was

253
00:21:00.279 --> 00:21:06.759
going to be in the same room
with my parents from the same years since

254
00:21:06.799 --> 00:21:15.279
the divorced. Oh yeah, yeah, but the divorce animosity and talked about

255
00:21:15.319 --> 00:21:19.599
in the passive aggression. I was
just I think my brain is shut off.

256
00:21:21.680 --> 00:21:29.960
Maybe that feel when I was yeah
yeah, yeah, so said oh

257
00:21:30.039 --> 00:21:33.759
I was Hammes, I don't even
know where I went. Oh do that

258
00:21:33.920 --> 00:21:37.799
again, Andy, Um, I
want you to know, like, I'm

259
00:21:37.839 --> 00:21:42.200
not like the best person in this, but there is a biological opponent sometime,

260
00:21:45.119 --> 00:21:48.079
you know, or drinking or things
like that. So it could be

261
00:21:48.319 --> 00:21:52.599
but once you start drinking that you
can't stop. It doesn't we don't care,

262
00:21:52.599 --> 00:21:56.920
it doesn't know what the labels are, alcoholic, alcohol dependent, whatever.

263
00:21:56.119 --> 00:22:00.880
It's just like, if that's the
case, then um, even if

264
00:22:00.920 --> 00:22:03.160
you go in thinking you're just fun, you might not be able to stop.

265
00:22:03.599 --> 00:22:07.400
Yeah, and sometimes I can have
one or two. But it's when

266
00:22:07.480 --> 00:22:10.440
those those times when I go out
and I'm like, we're gonna have fun.

267
00:22:11.240 --> 00:22:12.880
Oh yeah, even even if we
are ubering, I'll still get out

268
00:22:12.920 --> 00:22:17.240
of control and then I end up
like falling asleep uber on the way home.

269
00:22:18.319 --> 00:22:22.079
It's just I go too far.
Yeah. Well, I was glad

270
00:22:22.160 --> 00:22:26.279
that I at least have the mental
wherewithal and the emotional literacy to say,

271
00:22:27.359 --> 00:22:32.960
let's think about what happened instead of
just moving on from it. So yeah,

272
00:22:33.160 --> 00:22:38.440
for sure that was some shit too. So I've been like I had,

273
00:22:38.480 --> 00:22:47.440
like, well, my house very
for the next foreseeable future. I

274
00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:53.519
think that you know, weddings and
funerals bring out like like not the best

275
00:22:53.799 --> 00:23:00.559
people and I mean no one,
no one's going to be funding or you

276
00:23:00.680 --> 00:23:07.799
plan a wedding and it's like it's
a unhappy like my listeners. So like

277
00:23:07.920 --> 00:23:14.160
my son is getting married in August, so we've been planned, um,

278
00:23:14.480 --> 00:23:21.880
and it's stressful. It's stressful in
a way they don't maybe anticipate because it

279
00:23:22.039 --> 00:23:32.680
is all the family shit. It
gets like brought up and vision making so

280
00:23:33.079 --> 00:23:38.559
like just I and I don't even
I I think I want to be drunk

281
00:23:38.599 --> 00:23:42.400
to do the tape, but because
I remember my wedding how painful that was.

282
00:23:42.559 --> 00:23:49.920
But making decisions the tiniest things like
like what's gonna be served? Or

283
00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:57.240
like there are it's not and it's
already over budget. What do we do

284
00:23:57.319 --> 00:24:03.440
about that plan to come right?
Uh? What what does shift? Oh?

285
00:24:03.759 --> 00:24:08.480
I mean I have to a lot
you know too? So she did

286
00:24:08.680 --> 00:24:18.960
or ums out and so um do
we have a have a say, like

287
00:24:18.799 --> 00:24:27.119
a color that's nap you know,
like so important at that moment and husband

288
00:24:27.200 --> 00:24:33.640
Steve is all win and I'm like
it's not even your thing. Why you

289
00:24:33.759 --> 00:24:45.400
want to win? It's very but
Stacy color your nap I domber. I

290
00:24:45.519 --> 00:24:48.880
mean there weren't. I don't remember
there being choices at your wedding, the

291
00:24:48.000 --> 00:24:56.119
color atkins, but I I remember
a lot of those things, actually I

292
00:24:56.279 --> 00:25:00.480
remember. So the thing to do
is like you rest her right, look,

293
00:25:00.640 --> 00:25:06.240
Raphael's making an appearance in the background. Um you you register for the

294
00:25:07.039 --> 00:25:11.519
you know you? And I went
with my mother, which was this traditional

295
00:25:11.599 --> 00:25:14.720
thing to do, and we rested
for stuff. And I came home and

296
00:25:14.839 --> 00:25:18.599
told Steve, I he does wait, I want to say, I'm like,

297
00:25:18.680 --> 00:25:23.680
what mean sorry? Like you're a
guy, how do you care if

298
00:25:23.720 --> 00:25:30.680
this is you know? And he
we I had to go back with him.

299
00:25:30.000 --> 00:25:34.559
He changed half of the registrates.
You know. He wanted these knives,

300
00:25:34.640 --> 00:25:40.920
not those knives. No, he
didn't like dishes, are ye?

301
00:25:41.200 --> 00:25:52.359
So it's really your bigness? Yeah, well maybe, but for us starting

302
00:25:53.039 --> 00:25:57.039
have I remember supposed to have white
chocolate ice cream and they served vanilla ice

303
00:25:57.079 --> 00:26:06.640
cream instead. Never and us as
mister and missus Steve and I, which

304
00:26:06.720 --> 00:26:10.519
they were not supposed to do.
It was supposed to be in Steve and

305
00:26:10.559 --> 00:26:15.079
I because I have a name missus
Steven. I like. I didn't like

306
00:26:15.240 --> 00:26:22.279
that. Everything went pretty well,
now how we've been married already two years.

307
00:26:25.279 --> 00:26:36.119
We have two beautiful children. Ye
wonderful vanilla even it's for sure so

308
00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:45.920
um. But yeah, their weddings
are those all those discs are and decision

309
00:26:45.000 --> 00:26:51.480
making process and it'll be m You're
seeing a lot of You're seeing so many

310
00:26:51.480 --> 00:26:53.279
different people you haven't seen years.
Weddings and funerals. That's where you see

311
00:26:53.319 --> 00:26:57.039
old family right come up to you
like, oh my god, I haven't

312
00:26:57.039 --> 00:27:04.079
seen you since you were because we
only see each other things and that's the

313
00:27:04.160 --> 00:27:10.440
only time you see them. So
there's a lot of and there's I think

314
00:27:10.480 --> 00:27:17.160
there's a lot of expectation, expectation
about like how we're supposed to back and

315
00:27:17.480 --> 00:27:22.039
luck, there's so much about it. That's how we look, you know,

316
00:27:22.400 --> 00:27:26.720
like it's it's not healthy but nevertheless, you know all of that.

317
00:27:26.920 --> 00:27:30.480
And then seeing faith likes a fan, don't like you have mixed feelings.

318
00:27:32.720 --> 00:27:37.400
Yeah, so that's stressful. So
I think, great, it will be

319
00:27:37.440 --> 00:27:44.200
a lovely one. But yeah,
that's all I can say. It's stress.

320
00:27:45.319 --> 00:27:52.240
I guess that's the latest ship.
Yeah, yea, So like christ

321
00:27:52.839 --> 00:28:02.039
weird people alcohol event some people are
excited when they get black eyed. It

322
00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:04.839
scares me that I can't remember.
I was actually doing things. Yeah yeah,

323
00:28:06.839 --> 00:28:11.839
functioning, but I wasn't remembering right
right. I mean that's scary.

324
00:28:11.000 --> 00:28:17.200
Like going under anesthesia when you have
a surgery. Freaks me out. Dude

325
00:28:17.680 --> 00:28:21.960
out and take down and put a
mask on my and I literally closed my

326
00:28:22.079 --> 00:28:26.839
eyes and opened them and it was
done. It's crazy that like the technology,

327
00:28:26.920 --> 00:28:32.359
it's better that way, but just
the brain works and how we got

328
00:28:32.480 --> 00:28:36.160
it. All right, you're going
to be awake, which not remembering,

329
00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:42.039
right, wow? Right? They
do that when you get it coloscopy,

330
00:28:42.640 --> 00:28:48.000
they give you that medication verse even
though you're awake. I don't remember any

331
00:28:48.079 --> 00:28:56.079
of it, so I gotta do
that when I'm forty, So cut it

332
00:28:56.160 --> 00:29:03.839
off. You can watch coloscope aid
on Chief. Oh she she went and

333
00:29:04.000 --> 00:29:08.160
had her as if I think her
through her this is ours. I think

334
00:29:08.200 --> 00:29:12.880
her husband died of colon cancer and
so she went and you know started got

335
00:29:12.960 --> 00:29:18.079
her first colon ascopy live on the
I will not be watching that, but

336
00:29:18.160 --> 00:29:26.880
thank you, So tell us about
your This probably isn't funny either, but

337
00:29:26.920 --> 00:29:30.359
that's okay. It's us about your
non produd. I want to hear about

338
00:29:32.559 --> 00:29:41.720
called a heart, which is a
nonprofited just real got certified and positive m

339
00:29:41.279 --> 00:29:45.960
I'm certified through Positive Psychology through the
Whole Being Institute. That just happened on

340
00:29:45.160 --> 00:29:49.000
Tuesday, so oh congrats, thank
you. So I get my certification.

341
00:29:49.119 --> 00:29:52.880
But while I was going through this
process, I was looking at because I

342
00:29:52.960 --> 00:29:56.160
kind of wanted to do something on
the side of radio. So I was

343
00:29:56.400 --> 00:30:00.119
to do something with mental health,
and I was like, coaching sound like

344
00:30:00.160 --> 00:30:03.440
a good thing because I can kind
of be in between not talking to people

345
00:30:03.640 --> 00:30:07.200
and seeing a therapist. I can
kind of help people troubleshoot and let them

346
00:30:07.279 --> 00:30:08.599
know if they need to see a
therapist. Okay, it sounds like what

347
00:30:08.720 --> 00:30:11.559
you need is a little deeper,
So I'm going to hand you off to

348
00:30:11.759 --> 00:30:17.079
Stacy or to my friend Grew or
Aaron and whoever I am. They can

349
00:30:17.160 --> 00:30:21.200
help you out kind of uncover things, because I think therapists and psychologists are

350
00:30:21.839 --> 00:30:26.160
good at going deep and finding out
the why things happen and helping with behaviors

351
00:30:26.240 --> 00:30:30.880
and correcting and learning new behaviors.
Cognitively, coaching is a lot more goal

352
00:30:30.960 --> 00:30:34.000
based, a lot more strength based, a lot more what are you good

353
00:30:34.079 --> 00:30:37.160
at, how good at doing that? What have you done good at in

354
00:30:37.200 --> 00:30:40.680
the past, and how can you
do that now and apply it? So

355
00:30:41.599 --> 00:30:42.920
I was looking through a charging for
this, and I was like, how

356
00:30:44.000 --> 00:30:45.640
much do you charge for this?
So I started looking at coaching prices and

357
00:30:45.720 --> 00:30:52.240
I looked its charge and I was
like, a therapists do valuable work and

358
00:30:52.359 --> 00:30:55.480
they should make money doing what they
do. They're not charities, and so

359
00:30:55.640 --> 00:30:59.920
do coaches. But there's a lot
of people that oftentimes won't go with therapists

360
00:31:00.000 --> 00:31:03.319
as they can't afford it, or
their insurance company won't cover a certain provider

361
00:31:03.480 --> 00:31:10.079
or that person. So you have
to pay extraordinarily high price to you as

362
00:31:10.359 --> 00:31:14.240
a payer. Not the psychologists.
They've worked hard, they've done their time,

363
00:31:14.279 --> 00:31:17.799
they earn money, but a lot
of people just don't know because they

364
00:31:17.839 --> 00:31:19.400
can't afford it. And I was
like, why am I going to charge

365
00:31:19.440 --> 00:31:22.279
for this service when so many people
struggle to pay for it? What if

366
00:31:22.319 --> 00:31:26.599
I help people pay for it and
in the interim I could help them with

367
00:31:26.680 --> 00:31:30.200
coaching kind of while they're waiting to
see a therapist, or if they've already

368
00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:33.720
seen a therapist and they're looking to
continue their goals and continue to flourish in

369
00:31:33.799 --> 00:31:37.920
life. So I was like if
I helped people pay for therapy, I

370
00:31:37.960 --> 00:31:42.279
would remove that barrier from a lot
of people's lives. Like our first person

371
00:31:42.359 --> 00:31:48.319
that we're helping as a woman named
who's divulging through a divorce of a very

372
00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:52.279
toxic relationship as a son from that, and she's paying for her son to

373
00:31:52.359 --> 00:31:56.000
go to therapy, and none of
the therapists that she can see in an

374
00:31:56.039 --> 00:32:00.839
area take Medicare, so she's now
doesn't have any money pay for herself.

375
00:32:00.960 --> 00:32:04.000
So for our efforts and our fundraising, we were able to now help her

376
00:32:04.079 --> 00:32:07.759
pay for therapy for the next three
months, und percent paid for by our

377
00:32:07.880 --> 00:32:12.039
organization. Wow, And she's awesome. He doesn't have to worry about it.

378
00:32:12.240 --> 00:32:15.279
So she can go weekly for the
next twelve weeks and she's very excited

379
00:32:15.319 --> 00:32:19.359
to get back in to see a
therapist that she wanted to see. Yeah,

380
00:32:19.759 --> 00:32:22.359
because he wouldn't take Medicare, but
she read backed out, I want

381
00:32:22.359 --> 00:32:25.799
to pay out of pocket. I
have no help me and that's us.

382
00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:30.680
So I am hoping that she's well, I know she's the first and she's

383
00:32:30.720 --> 00:32:36.680
certainly walking last. Yeah, that's
awesome. Um, I think that's really

384
00:32:36.759 --> 00:32:40.440
great. And obviously, you know, like because I'm just like important mental

385
00:32:40.480 --> 00:32:45.839
health is no, especially since the
pandemic has just been so hard for people

386
00:32:45.880 --> 00:32:50.119
to access services. Just there's much
more, there's been much more of a

387
00:32:50.240 --> 00:32:54.240
need and um, a lot of
the providers are really overwhelmed by that.

388
00:32:55.720 --> 00:33:02.400
Um. So that that's everyone so
called Harthead and people can find it online

389
00:33:02.440 --> 00:33:07.599
and donate if they want. Hearthead
helps dot org. Okay, yeah,

390
00:33:07.119 --> 00:33:09.880
because herthead helps with a lot of
things. We help with resources, we

391
00:33:09.960 --> 00:33:15.000
help with coaching, we help with
paying therapy. Um, we'll be there

392
00:33:15.039 --> 00:33:19.200
for people because especially with not only
now we have the pandemic and now we've

393
00:33:19.240 --> 00:33:22.680
got all of the events in the
news that are affecting a lot of people,

394
00:33:22.720 --> 00:33:25.279
So a lot of confused and angry
and sad and upset and not sure

395
00:33:25.319 --> 00:33:29.680
what to do with all these emotions
though. Yeah, being able to help

396
00:33:29.759 --> 00:33:34.079
people is that's what we do.
So yeah, that's awesome. I'm sorry

397
00:33:34.119 --> 00:33:39.119
this asso wasn't funny. It really
the deep episode started with an expensive brudge.

398
00:33:40.319 --> 00:33:47.319
Yeah, and their family and driving
and therapy. Nice. Yeah,

399
00:33:47.799 --> 00:33:55.839
it's okay. So, um,
I see that you're also um it is

400
00:33:57.279 --> 00:34:02.599
maybe it hasn't been as recent,
but I saw you hosted an event Milwaukee.

401
00:34:04.400 --> 00:34:10.840
The whole like an event in Milwaukee, Is that right? Several?

402
00:34:10.960 --> 00:34:15.400
Yeah? Oh boy, okay,
let me hear about that. Yeah,

403
00:34:15.960 --> 00:34:21.639
that's really cool. IMPA gala for
juvenile h My wife is a Type one

404
00:34:21.679 --> 00:34:28.599
diabetic and she had so um,
it's very very dear to me post as

405
00:34:28.840 --> 00:34:34.360
editions well because he's sure he deals
with that. And she's has manager blood

406
00:34:34.400 --> 00:34:37.320
sugar and she can eat whatever she
wants, but she has to measure for

407
00:34:37.400 --> 00:34:39.119
things. It's like a math game
all the time. So I hosted that

408
00:34:39.239 --> 00:34:43.920
gala for the last six years.
I want to say, Oh, okay,

409
00:34:44.519 --> 00:34:47.559
so I'm kind of their their guy. Um. The other thing,

410
00:34:47.639 --> 00:34:51.239
I think I've hosted a couple of
virtual events as well. I hope say

411
00:34:51.280 --> 00:34:55.119
I'm mental health event with Direct Supply. I'm sure familiar. Direct Supplies a

412
00:34:55.159 --> 00:35:01.000
company in Milwaukee that provides home held
home healthcare products and they had a mental

413
00:35:01.039 --> 00:35:06.280
health initiative with their staff. So
I kind of gave them a little presentation

414
00:35:06.360 --> 00:35:10.239
on positive psychology with some cool ways
to kind of check in on your welling

415
00:35:10.480 --> 00:35:15.480
and ighty tips and um, see
what else have I hosted? I hosted

416
00:35:15.519 --> 00:35:22.320
in at a gala for the Lukenia
Lamphoma Society. They have to think all

417
00:35:22.320 --> 00:35:25.400
the Students League where all their students
raise money for leukemia and limpo. So

418
00:35:27.239 --> 00:35:30.639
they enlisted at myself to be the
host of that. And I love hosting

419
00:35:30.719 --> 00:35:34.639
game, being in front of crowds
and interacting with people that are all there

420
00:35:34.719 --> 00:35:37.679
for a cause and for a purpose, and being able to kind of market

421
00:35:37.719 --> 00:35:43.760
and expose our brand. As advertising, we don't get anything anymore, so

422
00:35:44.159 --> 00:35:49.360
right, our marketing has to be
in front of Okay, you get to

423
00:35:49.400 --> 00:35:52.480
where talks right for most of these
Yeah, I get the dress up.

424
00:35:52.519 --> 00:35:57.400
I like dressing up. I feel
good, it's nice, it's nice to

425
00:35:57.440 --> 00:36:00.119
go out and where you can do
this again? Right? Yeah, absolutely,

426
00:36:00.480 --> 00:36:07.159
life is going back to normal in
that sense. And just would I

427
00:36:07.280 --> 00:36:10.079
get back to Harthead for a minute, because I would imagine that I don't

428
00:36:10.280 --> 00:36:16.639
know necessarily what positive psychology is,
So can you explain that a moment and

429
00:36:16.760 --> 00:36:22.199
why why that? Why is that
the what you've decided to focus on in

430
00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:24.280
your coaching. That was kind of
the closest thing I could find in the

431
00:36:24.360 --> 00:36:30.000
coaching world that was mental health related, because in coaching a lot of executive

432
00:36:30.039 --> 00:36:36.519
coaching and leadership coaching, relationship coaches
and fitness coaches and coaches because like are

433
00:36:36.519 --> 00:36:40.119
there like mental health coaches because mental
health has been such a heavy topic the

434
00:36:40.239 --> 00:36:44.360
last couple of years, people are
talking about it a lot more. But

435
00:36:44.519 --> 00:36:46.679
does everybody understand it when you just
think mental health and you're like, oh,

436
00:36:46.679 --> 00:36:51.960
I'm not depressed and I'm not anxious, I'm okay more than that,

437
00:36:52.079 --> 00:36:55.280
I mean, there's it goes deeper
than just being happy at the time or

438
00:36:55.360 --> 00:37:00.519
just being sad all the time,
and psychology focuses on It's like the science

439
00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:05.800
of human flourishing is what they call
it. So it's really strength based,

440
00:37:06.760 --> 00:37:12.920
solutions oriented coaching. It's working on
what's strong instead of what's wrong, and

441
00:37:13.039 --> 00:37:16.440
kind of being in the moment and
savoring things as they're happening instead of lamenting

442
00:37:16.519 --> 00:37:21.599
the past or worrying about the future. You can be in the moment and

443
00:37:22.039 --> 00:37:25.039
enjoying your life, not just positive
all the time. A lot of people

444
00:37:25.119 --> 00:37:30.400
think positive psychology is just vibes only
only being happy, but it's not healthy

445
00:37:30.440 --> 00:37:34.960
either. You'd be able to all
of your emotions in the full spectrum.

446
00:37:35.039 --> 00:37:40.599
It's just how long to those emotions
are they laugh time? Is it affecting

447
00:37:40.679 --> 00:37:45.880
my work. Okay, then this
might be something It's like call Sometimes people

448
00:37:45.920 --> 00:37:51.119
are just in a funk and they're
like, I'm just where to go.

449
00:37:51.519 --> 00:37:53.159
Well, be done in the past, that's worked. Let's think of a

450
00:37:53.280 --> 00:37:57.840
time in your life when you were
thriving, when you were flourishing. What

451
00:37:58.000 --> 00:38:01.760
were you doing that was making things? How can we apply those to what's

452
00:38:01.800 --> 00:38:05.840
going on now and help you get
back to that. Because you've done it

453
00:38:05.920 --> 00:38:09.519
before, you can certainly get there
again. Positive psychology helps people in that

454
00:38:09.679 --> 00:38:14.360
short term, just getting them up
off their feet and motivating, just to

455
00:38:14.480 --> 00:38:16.840
know that they're not held they don't
have to be held back by their emotions

456
00:38:17.199 --> 00:38:22.519
and embracetions and use into your advantage. So yeah, that's kind of where

457
00:38:22.599 --> 00:38:24.039
positive psychology came from. And I
looked into it. I was like,

458
00:38:24.199 --> 00:38:30.800
it seems like an interesting field.
It's mental related, and I can continue

459
00:38:30.920 --> 00:38:37.280
to acciate for mental health and be
there for people. And I love it.

460
00:38:39.480 --> 00:38:44.840
Samson, Okay, he wants he
wants to be on the past?

461
00:38:45.400 --> 00:38:50.679
Does usually it's my dog's barking,
Yeah, but that's yeah. So positive

462
00:38:50.719 --> 00:38:54.840
psychology was what I was drawn to
it by all that, So okay,

463
00:38:55.320 --> 00:38:59.639
awesome, what's going on? There. How my wife's coming down. She

464
00:38:59.679 --> 00:39:07.920
doesn't know that I'm recorded. Yeah, yeah either two kids see you?

465
00:39:09.000 --> 00:39:16.280
Yeah, alright, I'm almost done
wrapping up. Okay, Well, anything

466
00:39:16.360 --> 00:39:21.440
else to tell us, any other
ship, any other shit on the horizon.

467
00:39:22.960 --> 00:39:25.559
I just hope not right, No, not bad shit. Just getting

468
00:39:25.599 --> 00:39:29.519
this shit off the ground is what
it is, because starting your own organization

469
00:39:29.639 --> 00:39:32.159
isn't It's not easy. And I've
done it all myself, which is a

470
00:39:32.199 --> 00:39:36.880
lot of work, all the paperwork, all the bookkeeping right now. Until

471
00:39:36.880 --> 00:39:38.800
I get people under they can are
working with me, they can help and

472
00:39:38.880 --> 00:39:44.960
build a working It's a lot.
So um that's next. Just how many

473
00:39:45.280 --> 00:39:46.880
can we help? Many? How
much funds can we raise? We're doing

474
00:39:47.159 --> 00:39:54.320
all meat fast this weekend meat no
vegetables allowed, no vegetarians a lot not

475
00:39:54.440 --> 00:39:59.159
today, not to this. Yeah, so I've got a barbecue cooking competition

476
00:39:59.280 --> 00:40:01.480
and kind of a way to just
raise funds and get the word out about

477
00:40:01.519 --> 00:40:06.159
our organization. One thing I need
to also get over is talking about it

478
00:40:06.280 --> 00:40:08.000
more, because I don't. I
don't like to talk about myself too much.

479
00:40:08.280 --> 00:40:10.760
I don't know why, I just
don't. I work on the radio,

480
00:40:12.039 --> 00:40:14.480
I'm a morning show. I have
a huge ego in a big head.

481
00:40:14.519 --> 00:40:16.440
But sometimes I'm like, yeah,
I like to let things speak for

482
00:40:16.480 --> 00:40:22.519
themselves, kind of work quietly and
myself. But with this you really have

483
00:40:22.639 --> 00:40:24.960
to get out and beat your own
drone and tell people what you're doing.

484
00:40:25.559 --> 00:40:29.719
Yeah. For sure, times I
feel like I'm annoying, but I'm like,

485
00:40:29.840 --> 00:40:32.360
no, there's people that don't know
what I'm doing, so correct annoying

486
00:40:32.440 --> 00:40:37.519
maybe not to anybody else. So
meat Fest, So that's also in Milwaukee.

487
00:40:37.360 --> 00:40:40.039
Listens to this. That will have
happened already. It'll be long gone

488
00:40:40.079 --> 00:40:43.840
in the past, but somebody one
interest. It was an amazing or it

489
00:40:43.960 --> 00:40:51.000
was an amazing event and we raised
so much money. Yeah right, okay,

490
00:40:51.639 --> 00:40:53.599
look good, Well, thank you
so much. Andy. I really

491
00:40:53.639 --> 00:40:59.840
appreciate you coming on again and talk
about your you know, all the family

492
00:41:00.159 --> 00:41:06.119
drama happening and you know all that
other stuff. So good luck, good

493
00:41:06.199 --> 00:41:10.519
luck with your organization and um yeah, and I want to talk to you

494
00:41:10.639 --> 00:41:15.280
more about it, you know,
another time, yure. Okay, once

495
00:41:15.320 --> 00:41:20.559
we get this beautiful work that we're
continuing to do. So yeah, sound

496
00:41:21.239 --> 00:41:24.559
all right, Thanks Andy, take
care, don't be a crumb. Bye

497
00:41:24.599 --> 00:41:30.840
bye. So that was my Buddy
Riggs, and I'm the only one that

498
00:41:30.920 --> 00:41:35.559
calls him Andy. But you know, I'm probably not old enough to be

499
00:41:35.639 --> 00:41:39.159
his mother, but I might be
anyway. Um Riggs from Riggs and Ali

500
00:41:39.280 --> 00:41:45.880
one or three point seven Kiss FM
and the founder of Harthead, a nonprofit

501
00:41:45.039 --> 00:41:51.800
organization that offers financial assistance for therapy
and positive psychology coaching. So let's wish

502
00:41:51.880 --> 00:41:57.079
him luck with that new endeavor.
Yeah, and that episode got a little

503
00:41:57.159 --> 00:42:00.159
dark there for a second, huh
it cut, It did get dark there

504
00:42:00.280 --> 00:42:04.639
for a second. I started feeling
a little bit like it was a bit

505
00:42:04.719 --> 00:42:07.760
of a therapy session, especially when
he said, well, you're a therapist.

506
00:42:07.800 --> 00:42:10.079
I want to get your opinion on
this. Well, yeah, when

507
00:42:10.119 --> 00:42:14.960
they when they call your profession out, you kind of feel a sense of

508
00:42:15.199 --> 00:42:20.599
duty to feel that, to feel
that void, especially if they're asking for

509
00:42:20.679 --> 00:42:23.559
it. Right. Well, it's
also just like my natural reaction when people

510
00:42:23.639 --> 00:42:29.320
start talking, you know, therapy. And and then at some point I

511
00:42:29.440 --> 00:42:34.159
was like, well, Andy,
you know, like maybe you should think

512
00:42:34.159 --> 00:42:40.480
about that. But and I did
think about Tyler whether we should even keep

513
00:42:40.519 --> 00:42:46.559
that whole thing in. But it
was really you know, true to Andy.

514
00:42:47.199 --> 00:42:52.559
Yeah, and there you probably have
some listeners going through something similar.

515
00:42:52.639 --> 00:42:54.360
And that's the point of this whole
thing, right, It's to connect to

516
00:42:55.079 --> 00:42:59.920
other people and listeners, so people, you know, they're getting an entertain

517
00:43:00.199 --> 00:43:02.199
episode and a little bit of free
therapy out of it too, right,

518
00:43:02.440 --> 00:43:06.719
right right that, I mean,
the same thing happened. I did an

519
00:43:06.760 --> 00:43:14.000
anniversary episode after my second anniversary,
and the producer then Katie Beth, started

520
00:43:14.039 --> 00:43:16.800
asking me a bunch of questions and
then we just had this whole conversation about

521
00:43:16.880 --> 00:43:22.719
body image, which I wasn't prepared
to talk about, but it was fine,

522
00:43:22.760 --> 00:43:24.480
and I've gotten actually a lot of
good positive feedback from that. So

523
00:43:25.320 --> 00:43:30.079
yeah, well, the listeners,
you can kind of tell, if you're

524
00:43:30.079 --> 00:43:32.920
a listener of the show avidly that
this is kind of a new, a

525
00:43:34.000 --> 00:43:36.960
new direction we're taking it. So
let us know if you like a little

526
00:43:37.000 --> 00:43:38.840
banter at the end, we won't
we won't leave you on too long here

527
00:43:38.880 --> 00:43:42.880
at the end. But it's kind
of a natural way to talk about how

528
00:43:42.920 --> 00:43:45.800
the episode went that Stacy and I
kind of brainstormed, so for sure.

529
00:43:46.360 --> 00:43:52.239
And I'll also just add really quickly
that you might have noticed this episode came

530
00:43:52.239 --> 00:43:57.159
out on Thursday, so expect that
now every other Thursday, there'll be a

531
00:43:57.239 --> 00:44:00.679
new episode instead of Tuesday, so
let us know how you like that too.

532
00:44:00.119 --> 00:44:02.920
Yeah. The goal for that is
maybe give you guys something to listen

533
00:44:04.000 --> 00:44:07.880
to over the weekend if you If
you overlooked it, that's fine. Dogs

534
00:44:07.920 --> 00:44:10.960
are fine. We love it all
right, Rathbael has to make an appearance

535
00:44:12.000 --> 00:44:15.440
in nearly every episode, so totally
all right. Well with that, let's

536
00:44:15.519 --> 00:44:19.760
let's sign off, and I hope
everyone enjoyed the episode and now look for

537
00:44:19.880 --> 00:44:22.199
the new ones on Thursdays. Right, Yes, okay, sounds good,

538
00:44:22.280 --> 00:44:28.199
Thanks Tyler, Yeah, no problem. Thanks for listening to my shit.

539
00:44:28.360 --> 00:44:31.079
I really appreciate it. Come back
and hear more shit next time on the

540
00:44:31.119 --> 00:44:34.960
Ship that Happens to Me podcast.
Do you think I've said shit enough for

541
00:44:35.239 --> 00:44:38.679
one podcast episode? Tune in next
time to the Ship that Happens to Me

542
00:44:38.840 --> 00:44:45.719
podcasts. You gotta, baby,