Nov. 13, 2025

Turn Off the Reruns: Creating Your Own Story After Divorce

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Show Notes

In this bonus episode of Bent Not Broken, Coach Deborah dives deeper into her powerful conversation with Julie Loken, exploring how television and media have influenced our ideas about family, love, and divorce — often without us even realizing it.

From I Love Lucy to The Kardashians, the stories we grew up watching shaped our beliefs about what “normal” should look like. But as Deborah reminds us, you get to write your own script now.

This episode offers four transformational coaching tips to help you release outdated narratives, embrace your evolution, and redefine what family means in your current season of life.

🧠 Key Coaching Takeaways

1️⃣ Recognize the Highlight Reel Effect

What you see on TV or social media is rarely real life — it’s a highlight reel. Reflect on the internal “scripts” you’ve inherited about the perfect family or relationship, and ask yourself: What script am I still living by that no longer fits my truth?

2️⃣ Detach from Comparison Culture

Comparison robs you of gratitude. Instead of asking why your life doesn’t look like someone else’s, focus on one thing you’re grateful for in your own story today. Gratitude is your anchor to reality.

3️⃣ Redefine Family on Your Terms

Family is who shows up for you, brings peace (not pressure), and walks beside you through life’s storms. Write your own definition of family — in one sentence.

4️⃣ Give Yourself Permission to Change the Story

Just like TV evolves, so can you. You don’t need anyone’s approval to rewrite your next chapter. Ask yourself: If I were the main character, what would my next chapter be about — freedom, peace, rediscovery?

💪 Bent Not Broken Challenge

Turn off the reruns — in your living room and in your mind. Stop replaying what went wrong and start scripting what comes next. Healing isn’t about erasing your old story; it’s about reclaiming the pen and choosing what happens now.

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