From TEDx to Transformation: Dr. Ravi Iyer on Focus, Virality, and The Art of Grounded Leadership.

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Hi, everyone. Okay, today was a double setter.

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I had one at 12, one at four. I want to introduce

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you all to Dr. Is it Ravi? Okay, Dr. Ravi Iyer.

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Now, do I know anything about Dr. Iyer? No, because

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I don't do any prep work. That's not because

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I'm lazy, Dr. Iyer. I like to like test my brain.

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So anyways, we know that you're bald. You're

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bald, I think, unless there's hair in the back.

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I'm bold too. So you have, you're the three B's

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and that's what we need. You're a triple B. Brave,

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bold, and... Bald. So can you introduce yourself

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to everyone? Hello everyone. Thank you Adrian

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for having me. I'm Dr. Ravi Iyer. I'm an internist

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practicing in northern Virginia. Fairfax and

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Loudoun County to be precise. My clinic is called

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the Arya Clinic, and it's part of a larger group

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here in Loudoun County. And apart from that,

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I'm a three -time TEDx speaker. Most of my TEDx

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speeches go past a million views. The first one

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crossed 2. As of this morning, it's passed 2

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.4 million views in about six months. And it

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was the third most viewed TEDx talk that was

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released in 2024. It is still the third most.

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At the rate at which it's climbing, it may become

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more than third. The one that is currently got

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released on May 5th, it has crossed 1 .6 million

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views in 12 days. So the reason for that kind

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of virality is because my talks get shared to

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a very large student population in India and

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Southeast Asia. And you know, students being

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the way they are, they share it and reshare it

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and they talk about it. And most of the student

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population resonate with the kind of ideas that

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I talk about because those are relevant to the

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problems that the younger generation It's kind

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of odd that an older man like me should be able

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to talk in language that resonates with the younger

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crowd, but that's just the way it is. I'm also

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very big on education. I run educational programs,

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two especially. One called Education Without

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Borders, which is very little. We borrowed the

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concept from Doctors Without Borders, and I am

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a doctor anyway. Education Without Borders gives

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free educational lectures on Zoom to student

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populations all over the world. We just started

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with our first school, my own alma mater that

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I graduated 50 years ago. And so I'll be speaking

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to about 300 students. on the concept of what

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constitutes focus, what is the basis behind a

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performance mentality, and what drives the keys

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of learning. So easy conversations on very powerful

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topics, but presented in a way that a student

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can understand and applying directly. And I mean,

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that idea of the education without borders, I'm

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going to be recruiting a lot more of my colleagues

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who graduated along with me. They're all top

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professionals in different fields, IT, management,

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engineering, commerce, and we're going to start

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rolling this out school after school. I'll be

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like a traveling, rotating circuit speech. The

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other thing that I do more locally is called

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iFLY. It's an acronym for Ideas of Future Leaders

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and Innovators and iFLY is an enhanced idea platform

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for high school and college students to showcase

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the ideas that they wish to carry forward in

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their future in a way that grabs the attention

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of admissions officers in high -level universities.

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So that's what I do. Amazing. What exactly is

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the performance mentality? What is a performance

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mentality? The ability to pick a pact and stay

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on it past life's surprises is the hallmark of

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a performance mentality. People talk about that

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as focus, people talk of that as passion, people

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talk of that as commitment, but basically at

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its very core it is a laser tenacity which is

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resilient to distraction. But it is not like

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a rhinoceros going one track. It is resilient

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to distraction, but can pivot with great flexibility,

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as long as the focus remains on the end goal,

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the destination. That's a performance mentality.

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When I looked at your TEDx, it's pretty incredible,

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2 .4 million. All right, so I have that one from,

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I'm looking to see. October last year. Yeah,

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October, yeah, six months ago. Amazing, the power

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of intentional focus. What was that like? And

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were you surprised to get, I just wanna, actually

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hold on, I'm not gonna play it. But no, hold

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on. I'm not gonna play it, but I'm going to I

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want to just Stream it. Hold on. I want to just

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show cuz I'm fascinated With this this like elephant.

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This is huge. So how long did it take you? Right

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next to you like this like so this is your like

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I want you can you give me some background? It's

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sitting at a roadside hall like this. You're

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going to have a hot breakfast. Can you hear it?

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Okay, there we go. I did not hear it. Thank you.

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Yeah, okay. Yeah, so I was surprised it went

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viral like that. But I'm not surprised in retrospect

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why it went because I got some unexpected boosts.

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The first boost was that I shared it to my high

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school principal and she was so excited that

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one of the alumnus had a TED talk that she called

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all the students into the auditorium and they

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had a watch party. So there were 5 ,000 students

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in India watching my TED talk and they all shared

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and reshared it. Now in India Has 25 % of the

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world population now and the world population

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is 8 .8 billion and so 25 % is 2 .2 billion.

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So You know, you don't need to get too much to

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get to 2 .4 million when you start having the

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youth of India and the majority of 50 60 percent

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of India is below the age of 30. Oh India is

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India is very young so So as a result, you have

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a young population, mobile technology savvy population,

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and prone to sharing prolifically on WhatsApp

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and social media. It just went viral from there.

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But I got an unintentional boost from Ted. I

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wrote, when I got my first TEDx talk, I wrote

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a book called The Road to the Red Dot. And The

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Road to the Red Dot was a chronicle of my journey

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to my first TEDx talk where I described how I

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got the opening letter and then how I was excited

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and how I was nervous and how I prepared and

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all of that. And I... I started posting these

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articles on blogs and my newsletter to my 5 ,000

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patients every two or three times a week, starting

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from 90 days before I gave my TED Talk. By the

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time I gave my TED Talk, I had written enough

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material to compile it into a book, and I posted

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up on Amazon. But the cover I used was a picture

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of a man standing on a red circular carpet with

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the words TED behind it. So, I mean I just went

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to Shutterstock and I pulled out one of their

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pictures that was copyright free But I did not

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realize that Ted would object to that Ted objected

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to my using the TED and the red circle as a lot

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because it said that we didn't license you the

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permission to use it on your book and you are

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making money out of our our name So what they

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did and this is the interesting thing They did

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not tell me take down my book instead They just

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took my talk down Now my talk has nothing to

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do with my book But Ted's Action was I'll take

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your talk down and then did not even notify me

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why they took away our dog so On January 7th,

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it was at 1 .2 million views. And it suddenly

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went dark. And I didn't know why it went dark.

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So I was all confused. But one of the things

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that I always believed was the greatest thing

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in life is sunlight. So I just went online and

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I said, hey, guys. See the I I remember very

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an interesting episode from College in college

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with medical school when we all join on the first

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week is called hazing week We all were hazed

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all the boys would be aged and one of the hazings

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was we would all be forced to march in our undies

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across the College yard. All right right in front

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of the ladies hostel and we so So all the other

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guys would get all embarrassed about being stripped

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down to their undies. And I said, you know, the

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only thing that's giving all these senior students

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great joy is my embarrassment. So to hell with

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it. pranced with my undistrutted and and made

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a big show out of it and walked around and Everyone

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loved it and even the ladies loved it. I got

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a few dates out of it So no that was back in

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college when I was 20 year old so long ago I

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realized that if you actually go up and say hey

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This is what happened and don't be embarrassed

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about it Great things happen to you. So I just

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went on LinkedIn and I posted that I don't know

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why Ted took it down, nobody explained it to

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me, and I'm wondering why. But anyway, I wrote

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a big book about it, you guys can read about

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my book. So then I get a call from the general

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counsel of Ted that says, that said that this

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is why we took it down. I said, oh, why didn't

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you tell me the first time around? You didn't

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have to take my book down. I would have taken

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my book down. So dumb, I took my book down. I

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said, sure. No, no, no, we don't need to take

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your book down. Just put a disclaimer and change

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the cover. I said, fine. Why don't you say this?

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Why do you have to be so sneaky and passive aggressive

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about it? It's like infantile. It's like kids.

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So then they did that. They did that, and then

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they put my talk back up. When they put my talk

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back up, I said, hey, Ted put my talk back up.

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So everyone were curious, what is this great

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talk that took it down and then put it back up?

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So it went on. But that's not all. So when it

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went wild, and then I said, you know what, I'm

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going to actually make a second Ted talk out

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of the first one. And the first one was, my experience

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is that, hey, when I went online and I posted

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something like TED, I suddenly realized that

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all these platforms, these digital platforms,

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they literally control us by our desire for their

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attention. And so my second talk became about

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the attention economy. Oh, can I find that? I

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want to find that. That's on YouTube? Yeah, it's

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on YouTube too. And that's the one that's gone

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across 1 .6 million views. So I said that the

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attention economy that we all have, if you go

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to my website, it's there, TEDxUMKC. Oh, oh,

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OK, OK, because I don't see the book there for...

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Wait, let me see. So for your website... The

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book's name had to get changed from Road to the

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Red Dot to The Art of Viral Speaking. Oh, okay,

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let me... It's there on my website. Where is

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the... Hold on for one second. Oh, oh, I see

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it, I see it, I see it. Okay, hold on. I wanna

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just, I wanna... I know this is weird, kind of

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a Zoomish thing, but I want to share this. Because

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I think it's really cool. Okay guys, so if you

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go to the website WWE the power of connection

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Yeah, look right here the power of connection

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So this one actually was first and the power

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focus was second on the powder focus was first

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Okay, the second one is part of connection. Oh

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Look at this. Oh And if you click on it, it'll

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open the car. Look at that, guys. 1 .6 million

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views. Wow. Oh my gosh. I can't wait to listen.

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Oh, wow. So the second talk I gave was on that.

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And I said that we are living in digital attention

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economy, and we are becoming slaves to it. And

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that So my experience with Ted taking my talk

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down made me realize that how dependent we are

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on the approval of social recognition. And I

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said, this is not the way it is. So one of the

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statements I made was, it is our light that shines

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on the stages of our life, on the digital stages

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of our life. The digital stages of our life don't

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give us prominence, we give that prominence.

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And I stood up and I spoke about that. Then the

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third talk that I gave was, what is it that really

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makes for virality? And I said that the thing

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that really makes for virality is human connection.

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And so then the three things, focus, connection,

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and community. Human community makes for virality

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but community a community will not Spread your

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message unless you connect with them and to connect

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with them. You need to have focus That's it.

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And that is the principle of performance. Anyway,

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whether you are in a company You need to have

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focus on your goal on your mission You need to

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be able to connect with your customers. You need

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to be able to connect with your subordinates.

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You need to be able to connect with your superiors.

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You need to be able to connect with your teams.

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And you need to be able to create a community,

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both internally within the company and externally

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with your customers. Once you do that, focus

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connection community, you will perform anywhere

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you go. That's it. I love that. But we are in

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the age where so many professionals have ADHD

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or so they say not sure if it's a new thing.

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So how do you focus with ADHD because I feel

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like they're two different things but I could

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be I'm not an expert or nor do I actually have

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it so I'm not sure exactly. So you have to develop

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a muscle just like when you are out of shape.

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And you had to go to the gym and you have to

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work at building muscle. You had to do a set

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of exercises. You had to live weights in a structured

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way, in a pattern, in a regular committed way.

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Like that, you have to develop a mental muscle

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and that mental muscle is the power of attention

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and what you give attention to. I have ADHD.

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I also have Asperger's. combined. I didn't get

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diagnosed that I grew up in a country where those

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two words were not known when I was growing up.

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So I struggled with it all through my life wondering

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why I could be smart enough to figure things

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out but still I would have problems executing

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whereas everyone else who are less smart than

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me would execute and actually win the prize and

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I would struggle and but I didn't understand

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that and so I just worked harder and harder and

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I until I could fly with these 20 pound weights

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on my legs but I flew anyway. But later when

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I understood and what I understood was we all

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live life, we have two aspects to our personality.

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One is the ability to be aware of the events

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of our life. The events of our life come as stimulations

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to our five senses. Light hits our eye and gives

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us color and form. You know, molecules drift

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up your nose and give you smell. Molecules fall

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on your tongue, give you taste. Molecules strike

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your skin and give you touch. Air molecules strike

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your eardrum, give you sound. Out of these impacts

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of your environment, you perceive reality. But

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then you have a second part. that makes a story

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out of it that makes a judgment an assessment

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a preference a like or a dislike and out of that

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like and a dislike a relative valuation scale

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and then out of that and a certain set of choices

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that you make most people don't even are not

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even aware of the perception they are aware of

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only the meaning and that meaning is the spinning

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whirlwind Lack of ADHD thoughts that's meaning

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that you make that is the lived experience it

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is the description of your perception and People

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with ADHD basically have a meaning -making machine

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that is spinning out of control So what you do

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is how do you control that you control that by

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getting exercising the ability to just be aware

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of perception. A meditation exercise is just

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being aware of perception. A Japanese tea ceremony

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is a complete observational exercise. There is

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no meaning in that. You are attentive to the

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process of making tea and drinking tea and offering

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it to the other person. A calligraphy, a painting.

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So observational exercises are exercises that

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exercise the mental muscle of awareness as opposed

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to the mental muscle of making meanings. Making

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meanings spins you out into a description of

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your life. Being perceptively aware spins you

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into experiencing life. Now joy, satisfaction,

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excitement, vitality, vivacity, all of that resides

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in experience. A person who's caught up in the

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meanings of his life is like a person who goes

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to a restaurant and instead of eating the meal

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decides to eat the menu. The menu is the description

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of the meal. Most people live their life eating

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the menu and wondering why their life is tasteless.

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Wow. That is basically the process by which you

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gain control. That is focus. When you are able

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to be attentive to the observation and then you

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can actually see the meanings that pop up and

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you can decide which meaning you want to give.

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the attention of your mind to For the next five

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minutes or the next five days or the next five

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months or the next five years You can decide

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which meaning you want to make as the purpose

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of your of your attention This is so interesting.

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So I'm gonna share with you and I'm not sure

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if I was being smart or being silly because it

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could have been either way but about eight years

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ago I wanted to get to the point I was also with

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Toastmasters love Toastmasters and I wanted to

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get to the point where focus meant for me that

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I could sit for eight hours in a workshop or

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conference, whatever that looked like, and actually

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stay focused. And one of the things that I realized

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in order to do this is I needed to sit towards

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the front or the front row, sit next to... try

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not to sit next to anyone that was using their

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phone, any distractions. And if that person started

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to distract me, I will just move to another area.

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So unfortunately, sometimes I've had to go all

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the way in the back. By the way, if you're gonna

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be distracting, can you sit in the back and not

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the front? But anyways, so I had to find a seat

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in the back, but. I got to the point where I

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was able to do it. I felt like it was a strong

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thing that I could sit for eight hours, granted,

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bathroom breaks, a lunch break, whatever, but

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I stayed focused. I got off the phone, right?

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And even writing notes was like quick shorthand,

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even though I can't really read my notes, because

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I should be a doctor. I can't read my own handwriting.

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But was I thinking the right way? Was I being

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smart or silly doing something like that? The

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beginning of focus is the removal of distractions.

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So the first thing you do is remove external

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distractions. Then later when you become skilled,

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you start removing internal distractions. But

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you have to begin with first outside yourself

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before you can work with inside yourself. OK,

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so let me clap myself on the back. Dr. Iyer.

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If you're a doctor out there, don't be upset

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with me. I'm asking Dr. Iyer. Dr. Iyer, a lot

00:25:00.779 --> 00:25:04.660
of times people will say, oh, I went to see my

00:25:04.660 --> 00:25:07.140
doctor. They really weren't focused on me. They

00:25:07.140 --> 00:25:10.539
were on the computer typing in notes. So I find

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it so interesting that you're an internist and

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also talk about focus. So when you are seeing

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your clients, are you like dead on focus with

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what they're saying? So I use certain tools that

00:25:21.099 --> 00:25:25.900
help me disregard the need to document. I use

00:25:25.900 --> 00:25:29.420
a voice transcriber that is automatically transcribing

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my conversation with the patient into text on

00:25:33.259 --> 00:25:37.460
my phone so that frees me up to not be concerned

00:25:37.460 --> 00:25:43.359
about documenting my conversation. And the notes

00:25:43.359 --> 00:25:46.039
are being generated automatically through an

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AI. Transcriber is running operate operating

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Automatically in the room with me as I am talking

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so that I freeze me up to talk to the patient

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and after I leave the patient I open the phone

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and I find that the context has already been

00:26:02.890 --> 00:26:05.589
transcribed into a note. I just had a cut and

00:26:05.589 --> 00:26:10.930
paste it's done so It's a application. I use

00:26:10.930 --> 00:26:14.650
called freed dot AI cost me thirty dollars a

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month and saves me three hours in a day. Oh,

00:26:19.150 --> 00:26:22.089
I love that. Dr. Erica O'Donnell, maybe. I love

00:26:22.089 --> 00:26:24.150
my doctor. She's quite sexy with her boots and

00:26:24.150 --> 00:26:26.289
she's, I love her, but she will like transcribe

00:26:26.289 --> 00:26:29.329
everything into, but after she's talked to me.

00:26:29.789 --> 00:26:33.890
Free .ai. I love that. Okay. Could you explain,

00:26:33.890 --> 00:26:36.789
because a lot of people may have, not everyone

00:26:36.789 --> 00:26:39.930
needs an internist. So can you explain what that

00:26:39.930 --> 00:26:43.789
is, the difference between your general doctor

00:26:43.789 --> 00:26:49.960
or practitioner? Internal medicine is a doctor

00:26:49.960 --> 00:26:57.240
for adults. I see patients from 14 to 114. The

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oldest I've had is 106. Amazing, amazing Chinese

00:27:05.460 --> 00:27:13.920
man, 106. But yeah, so I just say first. for

00:27:13.920 --> 00:27:20.900
speech sake I'll say 14 to 114 but I see patients

00:27:20.900 --> 00:27:26.720
in that group and so an internist is basically

00:27:26.720 --> 00:27:32.119
like a general practitioner but I'm not like

00:27:32.119 --> 00:27:37.700
family physician where they also do office -based

00:27:37.700 --> 00:27:43.880
surgery and they do midwifery or deliver babies.

00:27:44.079 --> 00:27:46.099
I have actually delivered babies when I was in

00:27:46.099 --> 00:27:48.819
India. I used to do that but over there the doctors

00:27:48.819 --> 00:27:51.279
do quite a bit more especially if you have to

00:27:51.279 --> 00:27:54.099
go to the rural part of the country. You may

00:27:54.099 --> 00:27:57.900
be the only doctor for a hundred miles so you

00:27:57.900 --> 00:28:02.160
get to do a lot more but that's who I am and

00:28:02.160 --> 00:28:06.660
that's what I do. My practice is busy. I see

00:28:06.660 --> 00:28:09.799
you know 20 patients. Today was a light day but

00:28:09.799 --> 00:28:15.509
you know 20 to 30 patients a day and And I, you

00:28:15.509 --> 00:28:20.009
know, it's pretty, I've been a doctor for 42

00:28:20.009 --> 00:28:23.150
years. So at this stage in the game for me, I'm

00:28:23.150 --> 00:28:30.690
pretty mature in my craft. So I go through my

00:28:30.690 --> 00:28:34.869
day with a sense of a certain level of ease that

00:28:34.869 --> 00:28:38.240
a younger doctor may not experience. That makes

00:28:38.240 --> 00:28:40.359
sense though because you have the experience

00:28:40.359 --> 00:28:41.980
all right can we take a few minutes to go through

00:28:41.980 --> 00:28:44.799
your website because I Just want to do that right

00:28:44.799 --> 00:28:48.059
now, and I hope you don't mind It gets cool.

00:28:48.220 --> 00:28:52.390
Okay, so I love this So you have I love this.

00:28:52.450 --> 00:28:55.789
Oh, okay guys on the first page. Look at so handsome.

00:28:55.809 --> 00:29:00.329
I just Know you are okay. So there's a speaker

00:29:00.329 --> 00:29:03.970
video and you have dr. Eyre can be booked So

00:29:03.970 --> 00:29:05.950
consider booking. What where do you like to so

00:29:05.950 --> 00:29:08.670
you you do speaking engagements? Can you share

00:29:08.670 --> 00:29:13.369
what that would look like? I do two things I

00:29:13.369 --> 00:29:17.890
mean, I deliver keynote speeches to groups usually

00:29:17.890 --> 00:29:23.369
in the realm of leadership and team, team performance.

00:29:23.910 --> 00:29:28.809
And I do workshops and workshop, I have a workshop

00:29:28.809 --> 00:29:31.210
called cognitive alignment. And the second thing

00:29:31.210 --> 00:29:33.670
that I do is called strategies of neuro line

00:29:33.670 --> 00:29:38.509
groups. But those workshops are about in general,

00:29:38.670 --> 00:29:43.779
they are focusing on how do you Get your entire

00:29:43.779 --> 00:29:47.039
team aligned in a way that allows you to perform

00:29:47.039 --> 00:29:50.619
well one of my lectures a full keynote speech

00:29:50.619 --> 00:29:54.000
of about almost 60 minutes is there on that first

00:29:54.000 --> 00:29:56.799
page if you scroll down it is there for people

00:29:56.799 --> 00:30:03.500
to actually get a flavor of You went too far

00:30:03.500 --> 00:30:07.859
down. Oh, okay. So right like the work -life

00:30:07.859 --> 00:30:12.910
balance Right here, right here, right here. Oh,

00:30:12.970 --> 00:30:16.789
guys. Okay, got it. Oh, that's nice. Yeah, so

00:30:16.789 --> 00:30:20.190
that was given to the Healthcare Leaders Association.

00:30:23.029 --> 00:30:26.190
Okay, there's a transcript, guys, too. Oh, very

00:30:26.190 --> 00:30:30.089
cool. Oh, and your marketing for whoever's doing

00:30:30.089 --> 00:30:32.329
this for you is doing a beautiful job, by the

00:30:32.329 --> 00:30:37.009
way. I actually designed the website. Really?

00:30:37.390 --> 00:30:40.410
Oh, yeah, I mean I I designed it and I I I designed

00:30:40.410 --> 00:30:44.250
it I I do it on powerpoint and I I create little

00:30:44.250 --> 00:30:47.990
slides for every page and I send it to my Web

00:30:47.990 --> 00:30:51.509
designer and then he builds it out Oh my God,

00:30:51.690 --> 00:30:53.809
I'm loving this. Look, you guys, okay, here's

00:30:53.809 --> 00:30:57.309
the workshop page. So love this. If you are listening

00:30:57.309 --> 00:31:00.170
on the podcast, you definitely have to go to

00:31:00.170 --> 00:31:02.890
the website. It's fantastic. And I love all the

00:31:02.890 --> 00:31:06.150
different pictures of Dr. Iyer. All right, so,

00:31:06.309 --> 00:31:09.910
and then, okay, then this is your signature program?

00:31:10.450 --> 00:31:14.220
No, that's the student program. Oh, this is a

00:31:14.220 --> 00:31:18.619
student program. Oh, how important is this? Okay.

00:31:18.779 --> 00:31:22.200
And wait, what does IFLI stand for again? Ideas

00:31:22.200 --> 00:31:26.799
of future leaders, leaders and innovators. Oh,

00:31:26.859 --> 00:31:29.940
thank you. I apply. Thank you for doing this

00:31:29.940 --> 00:31:33.660
for our. So is this just in your market area

00:31:33.660 --> 00:31:36.220
or can another school bring you in? What does

00:31:36.220 --> 00:31:39.000
that look like? Most of any any school can bring

00:31:39.000 --> 00:31:45.799
me, but most of it is done. through zoom But

00:31:45.799 --> 00:31:49.900
we also Bring the students in so the students

00:31:49.900 --> 00:31:52.079
when they graduate we actually give them a stage

00:31:52.079 --> 00:31:57.420
and They are videotaped and their talks are are

00:31:57.420 --> 00:32:03.880
hosted on the iFly Channel for life so any college

00:32:03.880 --> 00:32:06.940
administrator can can go to the iFly channel

00:32:06.940 --> 00:32:10.359
and and Look up a student who has spoken and

00:32:10.359 --> 00:32:13.539
get a direct appreciation of how the student

00:32:13.539 --> 00:32:17.519
is talking and how he performs. That really makes

00:32:17.519 --> 00:32:19.819
a difference because one of the things that the

00:32:19.819 --> 00:32:23.759
admissions officers tell me is that they have

00:32:23.759 --> 00:32:26.339
a hard time distinguishing one application from

00:32:26.339 --> 00:32:29.079
the other because everyone looks so good on paper.

00:32:30.740 --> 00:32:35.019
So everyone is a 4 .0 GPA, everyone is A +, everyone

00:32:35.019 --> 00:32:39.420
has done 20 different things. So on paper, everyone

00:32:39.420 --> 00:32:43.039
looks good, but they want to get a feel for who

00:32:43.039 --> 00:32:46.339
the person is without having to come in face

00:32:46.339 --> 00:32:49.839
to face. So having those videos of their performance

00:32:49.839 --> 00:32:53.420
up really makes a difference. What a gift. What

00:32:53.420 --> 00:32:55.839
a gift. It's good for them. OK, I want to just

00:32:55.839 --> 00:32:58.220
go over your books because it looks like you

00:32:58.220 --> 00:33:00.779
have a lot of books. OK, so which, by the way,

00:33:00.779 --> 00:33:06.000
is your favorite book? The Reapers is my passionate

00:33:06.000 --> 00:33:10.029
book. It's a story of our clinic through the

00:33:10.029 --> 00:33:13.930
pandemic, the reaper's dance, a thousand days

00:33:13.930 --> 00:33:19.089
of COVID. That's interesting. Yeah, it's a very

00:33:19.089 --> 00:33:24.390
honest story of almost two and a half years of

00:33:24.390 --> 00:33:30.069
our struggle through the pandemic. And then squirrels

00:33:30.069 --> 00:33:32.569
in my brain. Wait, I'm sorry, hold on. hold on

00:33:32.569 --> 00:33:34.990
because squirrels is so funny when the squirrels

00:33:34.990 --> 00:33:37.309
get to people right there all of a sudden and

00:33:37.309 --> 00:33:39.910
it's it's awkward i teach corporate etiquette

00:33:39.910 --> 00:33:41.990
so it's always awkward when you're like talking

00:33:41.990 --> 00:33:44.509
to someone and they are squirreling like they

00:33:44.509 --> 00:33:48.150
can't help it my heart goes out my brain is was

00:33:48.150 --> 00:33:51.549
written by uh with me along with two of my students

00:33:51.549 --> 00:33:54.789
who wanted to do a research project in my clinic

00:33:54.789 --> 00:33:58.269
and we decided that why don't we write a book

00:33:58.269 --> 00:34:03.019
on neurodiversity and how to incorporate neurodiverse

00:34:03.019 --> 00:34:05.980
with neurotypical teams in the corporate world.

00:34:06.299 --> 00:34:11.079
So this is the first in a two book compendium.

00:34:11.480 --> 00:34:14.780
The second part of this book is called Acorns

00:34:14.780 --> 00:34:17.519
of Wisdom that we are right now in the process

00:34:17.519 --> 00:34:22.900
of writing. And Art of Viral Speaking is the

00:34:22.900 --> 00:34:28.780
banned TEDx book. that reincarnated as the art

00:34:28.780 --> 00:34:32.360
of viral speaking. That's amazing. The art. Okay.

00:34:32.719 --> 00:34:35.760
Oh, I love your, I love your second egg. Oh my

00:34:35.760 --> 00:34:38.139
God. That's amazing. Okay. And then these are

00:34:38.139 --> 00:34:41.760
the reapers dance, the squirrels, the art, but

00:34:41.760 --> 00:34:44.280
wait, but wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait

00:34:44.280 --> 00:34:46.599
there. I saw a picture of you with a variety

00:34:46.599 --> 00:34:51.449
of books. So do we have to go to Amazon? These

00:34:51.449 --> 00:34:53.690
books are still in writing like they are they

00:34:53.690 --> 00:34:57.750
are already past the outline stage Several chapters

00:34:57.750 --> 00:34:59.969
of them have been written and I can read them

00:34:59.969 --> 00:35:05.929
out Acorns of wisdom then Just below the squirrels

00:35:05.929 --> 00:35:09.630
is called neuro aligned the art and science of

00:35:09.630 --> 00:35:14.969
performance My experience with Ted canceling

00:35:14.969 --> 00:35:21.239
me and And taking my talk down, it's been captured

00:35:21.239 --> 00:35:26.599
in another book called Cancel Culture, How to

00:35:26.599 --> 00:35:31.940
Build Your Uncancellable Self. The titles are

00:35:31.940 --> 00:35:36.199
great. That is the guy with the neck and a razor

00:35:36.199 --> 00:35:42.360
blade across his neck. And the head with the

00:35:42.360 --> 00:35:45.280
gears coming out. is called the man in the making

00:35:45.280 --> 00:35:50.139
men meaning -making machine and and then the

00:35:50.139 --> 00:35:54.039
gladiator with this Sword in the air is called

00:35:54.039 --> 00:35:57.900
win the crowd a physician's handbook to fame

00:35:57.900 --> 00:36:03.579
fortune and freedom And the last one called eye

00:36:03.579 --> 00:36:07.260
of the storm is the art of grounded leadership.

00:36:07.260 --> 00:36:11.340
So all of these books will be out by By the end

00:36:11.340 --> 00:36:18.440
of this year to the end of 2026 I'm I'm All I've

00:36:18.440 --> 00:36:21.500
got pretty much like for example neuro aligned

00:36:21.500 --> 00:36:26.679
is in the outline phase Acorns is right now in

00:36:26.679 --> 00:36:31.519
the chapter phase cancel culture is in the chapter

00:36:31.519 --> 00:36:35.380
phase Man in the meeting -making machine. I have

00:36:35.380 --> 00:36:38.969
written the first chapter When the crowd is in

00:36:38.969 --> 00:36:44.349
the outline phase and Art of grounded leadership

00:36:44.349 --> 00:36:49.670
is in the outline phase I Mean your titles are

00:36:49.670 --> 00:36:54.969
so good. And then last I love this I love Love

00:36:54.969 --> 00:36:58.010
this. I was with meeting professionals international

00:36:58.010 --> 00:37:00.510
for like six years. I served on the board and

00:37:00.510 --> 00:37:03.750
I was so smart Yes in South Florida, but I thought

00:37:03.750 --> 00:37:07.130
I did this if you go up So you have three choices

00:37:07.130 --> 00:37:10.449
of three photographs and then if you go down

00:37:10.449 --> 00:37:14.710
you have my speaker one sheet and Then I have

00:37:14.710 --> 00:37:17.489
a document. It's a PDF file where it says a stage

00:37:17.489 --> 00:37:22.230
intro my audio visual needs and my speaker bio

00:37:23.670 --> 00:37:31.530
Brilliant, brilliant. Yeah. Yeah. That's exactly

00:37:31.530 --> 00:37:33.869
what so many people I tried to explain to them.

00:37:33.989 --> 00:37:36.769
Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant. I love that.

00:37:37.050 --> 00:37:41.590
Where are you located? Virginia. That's right.

00:37:41.710 --> 00:37:44.530
You said Virginia. That's right. Oh, my gosh.

00:37:44.670 --> 00:37:49.150
This is and then you're the who's who. I. I am

00:37:49.150 --> 00:37:52.269
loving your website. I think it's fantastic.

00:37:52.409 --> 00:37:55.710
Thank you. Thank you for letting me walk. I just

00:37:55.710 --> 00:37:57.690
I'm fascinated. Sometimes I just want to see

00:37:57.690 --> 00:38:01.349
it now. You have been an extraordinary guest.

00:38:01.909 --> 00:38:05.030
I wow. Wow. And I definitely want to recommend

00:38:05.030 --> 00:38:08.190
you to a couple of other podcasts. So your lead.

00:38:08.449 --> 00:38:11.309
So at what point did you look in the mirror and

00:38:11.309 --> 00:38:14.090
say, you know, I love taking care of my patients,

00:38:14.150 --> 00:38:17.570
but I have so much more that I could do to reach

00:38:17.739 --> 00:38:20.840
so much more people I want to do and then become

00:38:20.840 --> 00:38:23.579
a speaker and an author. It started with the

00:38:23.579 --> 00:38:25.599
pandemic. During the pandemic, what happened

00:38:25.599 --> 00:38:29.519
was the clinic and the clinic that I lead, our

00:38:29.519 --> 00:38:35.099
clinic, we were extraordinarily successful in

00:38:35.099 --> 00:38:41.300
managing the fear and division and the internal

00:38:41.300 --> 00:38:45.980
panic and conversation of our entire community

00:38:45.980 --> 00:38:51.519
of about 100 ,000 people. And so after the pandemic

00:38:51.519 --> 00:38:59.800
was over, it was the Thanksgiving of 2022. And

00:38:59.800 --> 00:39:02.519
a group of my family, we were all sitting in

00:39:02.519 --> 00:39:07.440
my living room and we were talking during Thanksgiving.

00:39:07.599 --> 00:39:09.599
We had all gathered and we were talking about

00:39:09.599 --> 00:39:14.360
the pandemic. And I said that this entire tragedy

00:39:14.360 --> 00:39:17.320
of the pandemic did not need to happen. like

00:39:17.320 --> 00:39:19.920
the way it did. One million deaths in the US.

00:39:20.699 --> 00:39:25.019
The US had 200 ,000 more deaths than Canada and

00:39:25.019 --> 00:39:29.280
the only reason why we did it is because people

00:39:29.280 --> 00:39:32.900
did not know how to lead and how to manage the

00:39:32.900 --> 00:39:36.639
division and conflict and that was what really

00:39:36.639 --> 00:39:43.719
was more lethal than the virus itself. So and

00:39:43.719 --> 00:39:47.280
I said that you know I need to stop doing the

00:39:47.280 --> 00:39:51.039
work I'm doing one on one and I need to take

00:39:51.039 --> 00:39:56.320
it to one to many and so on December 11th of

00:39:56.320 --> 00:39:59.260
2022 I sat down and started writing Reaper's

00:39:59.260 --> 00:40:03.079
Dance. 60 days later I had finished the book,

00:40:03.260 --> 00:40:05.579
I had written the book and I tinkered with it

00:40:05.579 --> 00:40:09.820
for about another 60 days and then published

00:40:09.820 --> 00:40:13.429
it you know in the month of May. or June or something

00:40:13.429 --> 00:40:17.610
else, I came out in Amazon and then I started

00:40:17.610 --> 00:40:20.849
talking about the book and About 60 podcasts

00:40:20.849 --> 00:40:23.409
later. I said that I'm going to take my conversations

00:40:23.409 --> 00:40:27.010
to the TED stage So I went on TEDx finished three

00:40:27.010 --> 00:40:32.210
TEDx's back -to -back and Then decided that you

00:40:32.210 --> 00:40:36.230
know, the best way to do all this is linear progression

00:40:36.230 --> 00:40:40.409
first write books establish credentials and authority

00:40:40.409 --> 00:40:45.250
build a platform that you can actually and then

00:40:45.250 --> 00:40:47.989
as I went along the way I said there are two

00:40:47.989 --> 00:40:50.590
other things that I need to do which come naturally

00:40:50.590 --> 00:40:53.030
to me and that is education. I've always been

00:40:53.030 --> 00:41:00.809
an academic so I blend both. I teach and I use

00:41:00.809 --> 00:41:06.190
the stage that I have on teaching to continually

00:41:06.190 --> 00:41:09.829
contribute and communicate the idea I have of

00:41:09.869 --> 00:41:13.369
focus connection and community which is the principle

00:41:13.369 --> 00:41:17.110
that actually allows entire societies to move

00:41:17.110 --> 00:41:21.150
forward and then I also speak about it and that

00:41:21.150 --> 00:41:23.349
same principle of focus connection and community

00:41:23.349 --> 00:41:26.050
when you take it into a corporate environment

00:41:26.050 --> 00:41:29.570
you can connect people whether it is neurodiverse

00:41:29.570 --> 00:41:32.210
and neurotypical or you can connect high performance

00:41:32.210 --> 00:41:37.429
teams the principles becomes the same and I had

00:41:37.429 --> 00:41:39.369
people who said, you know, how come a doctor

00:41:39.369 --> 00:41:41.510
is able to do that? You know, the doctors are

00:41:41.510 --> 00:41:44.750
the best people to do this because we literally

00:41:44.750 --> 00:41:49.250
are the people who deal with life all the time.

00:41:49.650 --> 00:41:52.929
My job is not to diagnose. My job is to fix life.

00:41:54.010 --> 00:41:57.690
My interest is how does life work and how do

00:41:57.690 --> 00:42:01.909
you make life work when life does not work? That's

00:42:01.909 --> 00:42:04.769
all. Amazing. So a podcast host, you need to

00:42:04.769 --> 00:42:07.420
have your own show. I do have it. Oh, you do?

00:42:07.719 --> 00:42:09.780
Oh, what is the name? It's called Stuck Too Strong,

00:42:09.880 --> 00:42:12.420
and I'm going to have you on it too. Ah, I would

00:42:12.420 --> 00:42:15.420
love that. Wait, so where is, is that on your

00:42:15.420 --> 00:42:21.199
website? Go to YouTube and type at, you know,

00:42:21.219 --> 00:42:25.519
the little at symbol and type at, on the YouTube

00:42:25.519 --> 00:42:32.219
search bar, type at Stuck Too Strong, Stuck Too

00:42:32.219 --> 00:42:40.840
Strong. Stuck to strong. Oh, congratulations

00:42:40.840 --> 00:42:45.760
on voting top doctor. Is this it? No, I don't

00:42:45.760 --> 00:42:48.079
think so. Oh, yeah, it is. It is. It is. It is.

00:42:48.079 --> 00:42:51.820
It is. OK, I got you. So are you on just on YouTube

00:42:51.820 --> 00:42:54.940
or are you also on, like, Spotify? Just on YouTube.

00:42:55.119 --> 00:42:58.940
Just on YouTube. OK, got it. Very, very good.

00:42:58.960 --> 00:43:02.210
We just started that. It's barely... 30 or 60

00:43:02.210 --> 00:43:06.489
days old. Oh, congratulations. No, that is great.

00:43:06.829 --> 00:43:10.150
I love it. I Hold on everybody. I got to subscribe.

00:43:10.230 --> 00:43:13.590
See everyone subscribe. Let's support dr. Eyre

00:43:13.590 --> 00:43:18.750
Amazing. No, thank you. This was I really enjoyed

00:43:18.750 --> 00:43:21.630
this conversation I did I did again. I don't

00:43:21.630 --> 00:43:26.030
know who's coming on but I love it and I love

00:43:26.030 --> 00:43:29.880
the fact that So during COVID, it's interesting

00:43:29.880 --> 00:43:33.059
because I'm in Florida. So you mentioned 2022

00:43:33.059 --> 00:43:36.000
and I'm like, wait, it felt like COVID ended

00:43:36.000 --> 00:43:39.960
in July, the summer of 2020, right? Like all

00:43:39.960 --> 00:43:42.139
of a sudden we had to, you couldn't wear your

00:43:42.139 --> 00:43:45.599
mask. There was like the mask law that no place

00:43:45.599 --> 00:43:48.460
could tell you. They couldn't make you wear a

00:43:48.460 --> 00:43:51.570
mask. Florida was different. We were different

00:43:51.570 --> 00:43:54.809
here. And I also watched, I just couldn't, I

00:43:54.809 --> 00:43:58.070
couldn't escape TV. Like it was drawing me in.

00:43:58.070 --> 00:44:01.610
So I was definitely under a ton of stress, but

00:44:01.610 --> 00:44:05.349
I started my podcast, Candid Conversations. I

00:44:05.349 --> 00:44:07.690
was just using it to meet with my friends. And

00:44:07.690 --> 00:44:10.050
then I thought, oh, this is like a great way

00:44:10.050 --> 00:44:12.610
to let other people meet my friends. no prep

00:44:12.610 --> 00:44:15.829
needed began. So a lot of things came out of

00:44:15.829 --> 00:44:18.769
COVID, but what you have accomplished is amazing.

00:44:19.349 --> 00:44:22.369
Are you also, do you also help a coach if someone

00:44:22.369 --> 00:44:27.170
wants to do a TEDx? Yeah, I mean, like I have

00:44:27.170 --> 00:44:30.650
gotten people who reached out to me to polish

00:44:30.650 --> 00:44:33.690
their pitch and things like that. I don't want

00:44:33.690 --> 00:44:37.829
to. So. To some extent, I do want to stay in

00:44:37.829 --> 00:44:41.309
my own lane. There are too many people in the

00:44:41.309 --> 00:44:46.329
TEDx coaching business, and some of them are

00:44:46.329 --> 00:44:49.030
good friends of mine, so I just redirect people

00:44:49.030 --> 00:44:52.329
who reach out to me to them and say, go meet

00:44:52.329 --> 00:44:57.170
with them. But they are good. I myself had a

00:44:57.170 --> 00:45:01.130
TEDx coach. His name was Cesar Cervantes, and

00:45:01.130 --> 00:45:05.900
he's really good. Caesar all right. I have a

00:45:05.900 --> 00:45:09.099
question before we go. I this one. So I kind

00:45:09.099 --> 00:45:11.260
of understand cancel culture I mean I get the

00:45:11.260 --> 00:45:13.960
drift of it, but what would have been considered

00:45:13.960 --> 00:45:17.320
cancer culture? You know before the term came

00:45:17.320 --> 00:45:20.440
so ten years ago. What what would have cancer?

00:45:21.460 --> 00:45:25.480
Letter Back in the Middle Ages it used to be

00:45:25.480 --> 00:45:28.880
called scarlet letter. Oh my god, that's so it's

00:45:28.880 --> 00:45:30.559
similar I mean I know what the scarlet letter

00:45:30.559 --> 00:45:35.050
is I never letter was when you had a woman who

00:45:35.050 --> 00:45:39.230
was unfaithful, she would have to walk around

00:45:39.230 --> 00:45:45.809
with a big letter that said S on her back in

00:45:45.809 --> 00:45:49.849
red so that she could be ostracized in the society.

00:45:52.630 --> 00:45:58.510
So human beings are social creatures. And one

00:45:58.510 --> 00:46:01.889
of the things that the pandemic was so devastating

00:46:01.889 --> 00:46:04.250
about was it prevented people from connecting

00:46:04.250 --> 00:46:08.329
so simple acts you know sitting three feet away

00:46:08.329 --> 00:46:11.170
from each other talking face to face was became

00:46:11.170 --> 00:46:16.309
dangerous so as a result people began to shrivel

00:46:16.309 --> 00:46:19.630
and wither so it was i said the whole world got

00:46:19.630 --> 00:46:23.389
cancelled during pandemic we were all ostracized

00:46:23.389 --> 00:46:27.929
you know from each other but the idea of exiling

00:46:27.929 --> 00:46:31.409
somebody from society you can't you have to leave

00:46:31.409 --> 00:46:34.789
this town cannot live go to the go to the badlands

00:46:34.789 --> 00:46:39.110
go to the desert stay away that was a that was

00:46:39.110 --> 00:46:43.650
a very it was a punishment equal to almost death

00:46:43.650 --> 00:46:55.340
so the it being thrown out of your tribe is emotionally

00:46:55.340 --> 00:47:02.260
at a psychic level is devastating. And for me,

00:47:03.340 --> 00:47:06.940
when that happened with Ted, it shocked me because

00:47:06.940 --> 00:47:10.619
Ted is supposed to be this platform of connection,

00:47:11.159 --> 00:47:15.679
of idea sharing, and they opted to ostracize.

00:47:16.300 --> 00:47:19.980
So that is so surprising and so antithetical

00:47:19.980 --> 00:47:23.420
to the Ted ethos. And I actually told them that.

00:47:25.039 --> 00:47:28.860
Why do you have to resort to this kind of method

00:47:28.860 --> 00:47:32.119
to communicate your displeasure? All you have

00:47:32.119 --> 00:47:38.579
to do is tell people, right? You're dealing with

00:47:38.579 --> 00:47:41.219
some of the most intellectually sharp people

00:47:41.219 --> 00:47:44.599
in the world. All you have to do is, why do you

00:47:44.599 --> 00:47:47.369
have to do this? but you know that's the way

00:47:47.369 --> 00:47:51.090
they do it and hopefully they'll change their

00:47:51.090 --> 00:47:54.369
strategies of getting their point across but

00:47:54.369 --> 00:47:56.130
that's that's only the council does it right

00:47:56.130 --> 00:47:59.590
the attorneys do it but maybe it is so stupid

00:47:59.590 --> 00:48:03.190
it is it is it is stupid because it is contrary

00:48:03.190 --> 00:48:08.159
to the fundamental ethos of debt Right. I wish

00:48:08.159 --> 00:48:09.639
I could have been there for that conversation.

00:48:10.900 --> 00:48:13.940
But thank you so much for your time and your

00:48:13.940 --> 00:48:17.400
energy and your thoughts. And this has been so

00:48:17.400 --> 00:48:18.880
great. As I said, in just a couple of weeks,

00:48:18.960 --> 00:48:21.360
this will turn into a podcast. You are brilliant,

00:48:21.400 --> 00:48:24.119
though. I can't wait to just, like, share. And

00:48:24.119 --> 00:48:26.500
I'm going to be your new stalker. So everything

00:48:26.500 --> 00:48:28.539
you write is going to be, like, shared by me.

00:48:28.760 --> 00:48:30.239
You're going to be like, she really reposts a

00:48:30.239 --> 00:48:32.000
lot. But I love it. I love everything that you

00:48:32.000 --> 00:48:34.860
do. Thank you for your time. I want to move to

00:48:34.860 --> 00:48:37.460
Virginia so that you can And you could be my

00:48:37.460 --> 00:48:39.920
doctor. You can reach me anytime. That's not

00:48:39.920 --> 00:48:41.820
a problem. You're amazing. Thank you. Thank you.

00:48:41.840 --> 00:48:44.420
Thank you so much for your time. I really enjoyed

00:48:44.420 --> 00:48:47.139
it. And I hope to see you soon. I'm going to

00:48:47.139 --> 00:48:50.460
end the stream. And that was amazing.