The Mindset Shift That Makes Dating Easier: With Julie Lokun
In this episode of Shot At Love, the roles reverse as Julie Lokun, host of the Get Obsessed podcast, interviews me for a candid conversation about dating in today’s world. We break down the realities of modern connection—why dating apps feel overwhelming, how to recognize red flags sooner, and the mindset shifts that help you stay hopeful without lowering your standards. We explore chemistry versus compatibility, first-date strategy, texting etiquette, and the subtle signals people reveal right away. I also share how my background as a celebrity photographer shapes the way I guide singles toward creating a genuine, compelling online presence. If you’re rebuilding, starting over, or simply looking for clarity in a confusing dating landscape, this episode offers insight, strategy, and encouragement you can use right now.
A Candid Conversation on Modern Love with Julie Lokun
This week’s episode flips the script. Instead of hosting, I’m the one being interviewed. Julie Lokun, host of the Get Obsessed podcast, sits down with me for an honest, heartfelt conversation about what dating really looks like today. If you’re starting over, navigating dating apps, or trying to make sense of modern connection, this conversation was created to give you clarity, strategy, and a renewed sense of hope.
Julie and I explore the questions so many singles quietly struggle with:
• Does real love still exist
• Do dating apps actually work
• How do you recognize red flags early
• What should you do differently on a first date
• How do you stay open to love without lowering your standards
We discuss:
• How love evolves from early romance to meaningful partnership
• Why belief in love matters at every stage of life
• How to use dating apps strategically instead of reactively
• The difference between chemistry and compatibility
• Red flags, green flags, and the signals people reveal immediately
• Texting etiquette, ghosting, first-date dynamics, and connection basics
• How presentation and profile photos influence attraction and success
You’ll also hear how my background as a celebrity photographer influences the way I guide people through dating—especially when it comes to creating an authentic, compelling online presence that truly reflects who you are.
If you’re overwhelmed by today’s dating landscape or looking for practical strategies you can use right now, this episode offers clear takeaways and mindset shifts that make modern dating feel more manageable.
ABOUT TODAY’S GUEST
Julie Lokun is the creator and host of Get Obsessed, a podcast centered on growth, possibility, and helping people elevate their lives and relationships. She is a dynamic interviewer and a passionate advocate for empowering others.
WHERE TO FIND KERRY
Website:
www.shotatlovebook.com
www.kerrybrett.com
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Shot At Love on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and BLEAV
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LinkedIn:
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https://shotatlove.substack.com
YouTube:
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Book:
Shot@Love: A Celebrity Photographer’s Lens on Dating and Finding Love, available on Amazon
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