I Surrender; Finding a Path Forward to Love: Chapter 11
We explore how surrender becomes strength after heartbreak and narcissistic abuse, reframing breakups as successful chapters when they catalyze growth. Practical steps, grounded stories, and Kute Blackson’s insights guide a path from running to resting in self-trust. • using the serenity prayer and mantra to anchor peace • shifting from control to acceptance • five stages of grief applied to toxic dynamics • nonengagement and boundaries as protection • redefining relationship success by growth • small steps that compound into freedom • lessons from Tina Turner and Dolly Parton • moving from searching to self love and trust • choosing optional suffering by aligning with reality Looking for love, my brand new book, Shod It Love, is out now. You can grab your copy today on Amazon If you'd like to stay connected, get exclusive updates, and be the first to hear about Shod It Love live single events, join the mailing list at shot at lovebook.com Don't miss your chance to change the way you see love and yourself
Tune into Chapter 11, I Surrender; Finding a Path Forward to Love, a favorite for those having a hard time. Heartbreak can feel like quicksand, but there’s a way to stop sinking. I share how surrender—real acceptance, not resignation—becomes a daily practice that steadies the mind, restores self-respect, and turns pain into a teacher. From the serenity prayer to the mantra sarvesham svastir bhavatu, I unpack simple rituals that anchor your nervous system when grief and rumination try to take over.
I walk through the five stages of grief in the context of narcissistic dynamics, making space for the messy parts—denial that kept you safe, anger that needs clean outlets, bargaining that blurs reality, depression that asks for gentle structure, and acceptance that finally loosens the knot. With insights from Kute Blackson’s The Magic of Surrender, I flip the script: a relationship can end and still be a success if it helped you grow into a truer version of yourself. That reframe moves you from searching with scarcity to meeting love with grounded presence.
Stories power change, so we spotlight courage in action. Tina Turner’s night of escape and reinvention shows how one decisive step can reset a life. Dolly Parton’s publishing stand models boundaries, patience, and long-view faith. These examples prove that small steps compound—blocking a number, archiving old photos, taking a quiet walk instead of doom-scrolling—until momentum returns. We close with practical guidance to drop the bag of bricks, set clear boundaries, and trust that peace is possible when you stop pushing and start showing up as yourself.
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