Bar Tips for Love: What Bartenders Can Teach Us About Relationships with Neil Rogers
In this episode of Shot At Love, host Kerry Brett sits down with author Neil Rogers to explore how the lessons learned behind a bar can transform the way we approach dating, relationships, and connection. Neil shares how decades in the hospitality world taught him that dating, like bartending, is ultimately a people business. From the power of first impressions and the importance of showing up prepared, to listening more than you speak and treating others with respect, this conversation breaks down why the smallest actions often make the biggest impact. Together, Kerry and Neil discuss how transferable skills like punctuality, kindness, reading the room, and meeting people where they are can dramatically improve dating experiences. They explore why being “right” is overrated, why connection without agenda builds trust, and how compassion and authenticity create real attraction. The episode also takes a deeper look at modern dating challenges including loneliness, ghosting, and digital overload, reminding listeners that genuine connection still begins with presence, curiosity, and human kindness. This conversation is for anyone navigating dating after disappointment, rebuilding confidence, or simply wanting to connect more meaningfully with others. It’s a reminder that love isn’t about perfection or performance—it’s about showing up, listening, and creating moments that make people feel seen. Shot At Love is hosted by Kerry Brett, an award-winning podcast host, celebrity photographer, dating expert, and author. To learn more about Kerry Brett, follow her on Instagram @kerry_brett , or visit www.shotatlovebook.com .
In this episode of Shot@Love, Kerry Brett sits down with author of the popular book Bar Tips by Neil Rogers for a powerful conversation about human connection, dating, and what the hospitality industry can teach us about finding love.
Neil shares how decades behind the bar shaped his understanding of people, respect, and first impressions—and why dating, like bartending, is ultimately a people business. From the importance of a proper greeting to the power of listening more than you speak, this episode explores how small, intentional actions can completely change the way we connect with others.
The conversation dives into transferable skills from hospitality that apply directly to dating, including preparation, punctuality, reading the room, and meeting people where they are. Neil explains why being “right” is overrated, how kindness builds trust, and why showing up without an agenda creates deeper, more authentic connections.
Kerry and Neil also discuss loneliness, modern dating challenges like ghosting, and how technology has made it easier to hide instead of engage. They explore why respect, compassion, and presence are more attractive than perfection—and how confidence grows when we focus less on impressing and more on genuinely connecting.
This episode is a reminder that love doesn’t come from performance or pressure. It comes from listening, kindness, and the courage to be yourself. Whether you’re dating, rebuilding confidence, or simply wanting better connections in your love life or in business, this conversation offers timeless lessons that can change how you show up—for dates, relationships, and life itself.
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