Nick Hames on Heartbreak, Healing, and the Stories Behind His Music (Bonus Episode 38)
In this episode, singer-songwriter Nick Hames joins us to share the story behind one of his most vulnerable songs—a track that dives deep into betrayal, longing, and the painful realization that some people will never be who we hope they are.
We talk about the inspiration behind the lyrics, the power of repetition in “that’s just not who you are,” and how music becomes both a mirror and a release when writing about heartbreak. Nick opens up about balancing poetry and melody, the lessons he’s learned about love and trust, and how this song fits into the larger arc of his music career.
If you’ve ever waited for love that didn’t come, or trusted someone who didn’t deserve it, Nick’s story will resonate with you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🍎 The personal story that inspired Nick’s lyrics of betrayal and disappointment
🍎 Why the phrase “that’s just not who you are” became the emotional anchor of the song
🍎 How songwriting can be both cathartic and challenging when revisiting heartbreak
🍎 The role of imagery and poetry in Nick’s music
🍎 What Nick hopes listeners take away when they hear his songs
🍎 How his perspective on love and trust has shifted over time
🍎 Where this track fits into the bigger picture of his music
Growing up in Boston, MA Nick Hames was exposed to live rock and blues music at an early age – watching his uncle perform in the local club and bar scene around Boston. Since becoming a social media guitar star and performing all around New England, he has relocated to Los Angeles, CA to begin his new alt/pop/rock project “HAMES” combining pop, rock, and blues into a sound of his own.
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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
📌 [Song] Ghost of You (Live Performance) - https://youtu.be/gm4sXrj_58A
CONNECT WITH NICK:
📌 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@NickHames
📌 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/2mjG6ymZFW0n7VNjedCLG2
📌 Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/nick-hames/1458244991
📌 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nickhames
📌 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickhamesmusic/
📌 X: https://x.com/nickhamesmusic
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