Sept. 24, 2025
Cut the BS with Nichica Melton: Breaking Free from Distraction
Send us a text Nichica F Melton doesn't mince words when it comes to productivity: most of us are trapped by "bogus strategies" that keep us overwhelmed without delivering results. As a five-time published author, mother of six, and productivity coach, she's lived the struggle of drowning in obligations while putting on a brave face. "Check on your strong friends," she says, "because they're the ones people always ask last if they need anything." That observation cuts to the heart of why so ...
Nichica F Melton doesn't mince words when it comes to productivity: most of us are trapped by "bogus strategies" that keep us overwhelmed without delivering results. As a five-time published author, mother of six, and productivity coach, she's lived the struggle of drowning in obligations while putting on a brave face.
"Check on your strong friends," she says, "because they're the ones people always ask last if they need anything." That observation cuts to the heart of why so many high-achievers suffer silently under crushing workloads – they're masters at hiding their struggle behind a mask of competence.
In this energetic conversation with Wanda Pearson, Nichica breaks down her practical approach to reclaiming your time and energy. Her "three Ds" framework – Do it, Delegate it, or Discard it – offers a simple but powerful way to evaluate every demand on your time. This system proves especially challenging for micromanagers who struggle to release control, which Nishika identifies as a primary cause of overwhelm.
Beyond tactics, Nichica tackles the mindset shifts necessary for lasting change. She distinguishes between empowerment and enablement: "Empowering someone is reminding them who they are and what they can do beyond how they see themselves." True empowerment pushes people beyond their comfortable safety zones into "the deep" where their greatest potential waits to be unlocked.
On collaboration, Nichica offers a perspective that reframes how we think about working together: "The person who thinks that they will get where they need to be by themselves is delusional." The key is ensuring collaborations are mutually beneficial rather than parasitic, where one party gives while the other only takes.
Whether you're an entrepreneur or working a 9-to-5, Nichica's strategies work because they're customizable to your unique situation. Discover how to cut through the "bogus strategies" keeping you busy but unfulfilled, creating space for the work that truly matters.
Connect with Nichica Melton
website: nichica@mindingmybusiness.vip
Instagram: @nichicafmelton
Facebook: @nichicafmelton
Linkedln: @nichica
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00:00 - Introduction to Ready Set Collaborate
00:23 - Meet Nishika F Melton
03:01 - The Story Behind "Cut the BS"
09:23 - Productivity Killers and Simple Strategies
18:12 - Empowerment vs. Enabling
20:14 - Collaboration and Mindset for Success
27:29 - Upcoming Conference and Final Thoughts
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Welcome to Ready Set.
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Welcome to the Ready Set Collaborate podcast with Wanda Pearson, where collaboration is the key to success.
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Today, I'm excited to introduce Nishika F Melton, a dynamic force of inspiration and empowerment.
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Nishika is a five-time published author.
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Wow, girl, you go ahead five times.
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Jeez.
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I'm going to catch up with you, nishika, including her powerful book Cut the BS.
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I'm assuming that.
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Oh, I like that Cut the BS.
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I don't even want to say what it is, but I know what it is.
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So simple strategies to unlock higher productivity.
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She is passionate about helping others break free from distraction, embrace discipline and reach their fullest potential.
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I love that.
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I love that you're doing that.
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So in this episode, we'll uncover how Nishika empowers people to take action, elevate productivity and transform obstacles into opportunities.
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Yes, that's the way to do it, nishika.
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So say hello to the audience and then I'm going to read your mind.
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We're going to get this party started.
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All right, hello audience.
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My name is Nishika Melton and, as someone who was definitely plagued by being overwhelmed and overworked all the time, I was always depleted, no matter how late or whatever.
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I actually help high level achievers learn how to identify the unproductive hats that do not pay them, identify them and discard them, because overwhelm seeps in when we start stretching ourselves thin with the things that really don't benefit us, thin with the things that really don't benefit us.
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And so in my book Cut the BS, which that title trips, people up.
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The BS actually stands for bogus strategies, yes, those things we keep doing, but they're actually not working.
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They're not relieving anything off of our shoulders and we're still overwhelmed and overworked.
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So that's why I wrote that book.
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And actually, miss Wanda, I'm about to have a collaboration book come out, so it will be six books.
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Yes, ma'am Excited about that, I'm scared.
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Yes, that's a good number, that's a good number.
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So what does that BS stand for?
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Again, tell us what that stands for.
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Bogus strategies.
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Bogus strategy.
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You know what people were thinking when you said BS right.
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Oh, I know, and the title grabs their attention.
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Yeah, yeah, it really does.
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I love that.
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I love that you know that you're doing that.
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So well, let's tell.
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Let me tell you a little bit about Nishika, and I love the name Nishika.
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Your mom, what made her name?
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You Nishika?
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She just thought about it.
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There's a story behind that too so my mom thought she was being creative by just switching some letters in another person's name that her and my dad were mutual friends with.
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However, I used to work for a retirement company helping people with their 401ks, and I had someone to call in from Israel and she asked me.
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She said are you Hebrew?
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I said not even close.
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She said do you know what your name means?
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I said my mom and dad just made it up.
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That's what our culture does.
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We're creative.
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She said do you know what your name means?
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I said my mom and dad just made it up.
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You know, that's what our culture does.
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We're creative.
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She said actually, your name is extremely common in Israel.
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She said it's a Hebrew name.
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I said shut up.
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Yes, it is.
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It's a Hebrew name and it means kiss from God.
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Wow, that's a blessing.
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You know, my maiden name is actually Abrams.
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So when I went for interviews so what do you think they said about me?
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Yeah, it was Abrams.
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They thought I was Jewish.
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I said no, I'm not even close.
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I do have a lot of different things mixed in me, buddy.
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Okay, all right, girl, we can keep this going.
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We're going to have some fun here.
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So let me tell you a little bit about Nishika's bio here.
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Nishika F Milton is a dynamic force of inspiration and empowerment.
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With a bachelor's in communication studies and a master's in education administration, nishika's academic prowess is just the beginning.
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Did I say that right Prowess?
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Yes.
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Okay, I like that Prowess.
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As a five-time published author, including Cut the BS Seven Simple Strategies to Unlock Higher Productivity, she's Transforming Lives One Page at a Time.
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Nishika's influence spans ministry, entrepreneurship and real estate, where she ignites growth and prosperity.
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Whether speaking at events nationwide, parenting her six children with her husband six girls, I only had two, that was enough for me six children with her husband or coaching high-achieving professionals and entrepreneurs to success, nishika's passion shines through.
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She's a beacon of faith, resilience and unwavering dedication, guiding others on their journey to greatness.
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Connect with Nishika at www.
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Mindingmybusiness VIP and embark on a transformative adventure today.
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And I tell you that is great.
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I'm really sick.
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That's a lot, but you know what I grew up with eight, so I was older, so I know how it is.
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But, no, what a blessing you are to be able to help that, and also entrepreneurs and everything that you do.
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But welcome to the Ready Set for Highcast with Wanda Pearson.
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Thank you so much.
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We're going to dive into this, nishika.
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So can you share a bit about your personal journey and what led you to write Cut the BS?
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Yes, so I was working full time mom at that time, married to my first husband, and just, I've always been that person who was always trying to achieve.
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I really had to let go of that, that overachiever mentality, meaning that you have to do everything in order to be seen.
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But that was how I was raised and I had to let go of that.
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You don't have to do everything, you just have to do the right things, and so I was finding myself just drained all the way out, all the way out, just constantly depleted.
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I was that person that I would look up the programs, all the high productivity gurus who said they could help you get organized and help you be more productive, but what I found was their programs did not work for my life and I was finding myself being even more stressed out, trying to do what they said to do, because I had three small children, all of them under five, that I had with me, and so I didn't find the customization that I needed.
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And you know, when people are on the outside looking in, they don't really see or understand your struggle, because we can put that mask on and make it look all real, cute and perfect when you're actually drowning, and I was drowning and I didn't know how to ask for help because people really didn't believe.
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There's a saying out there that says something to the effect of check on your strong friends, because they're the ones that people always ask last if they need anything.
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And I was that strong friend.
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So, as I matured, as I matured, as I was tired of sinking, god just actually gave me the ideas.
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He said I've been telling you how to do this and you've actually been helping other people, but you didn't realize what you were doing.
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So I started writing, taking notes, implementing, and it was no longer a situation where my head was just above the water, because that's how a lot of people function.
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And we get used to that and I came out of it.
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I came out of it and I put those strategies that will work, no matter even if you're not an entrepreneur, because I've had folks to buy the book who are clocking the nine to five and they're like, I've implemented your strategies on my job and it has caused me to be more productive and less stressed at my place of work not business, but work.
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So the strategies, they're universal.
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That's awesome and that is so true Because I tell you I'd be on your classes sometime about the calendar, I am my kids.
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I don't babysit unless they're on my calendar.
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They know they got mad at me when I retired and they thought I was supposed to be a grandma.
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They're just supposed to be sitting home and babysitting grandkids.
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I don't know, it don't work like that.
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I said you got to get on my calendar.
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Like that.
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I said you got to get on my calendar.
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So I said I'm busy too.
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I got to keep myself going because looking at my father who was a regional sales manager, and when he retired he stopped thinking and he got Alzheimer's dementia.
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So I looked at him.
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I actually died right before I went to go visit him.
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I looked at him and I said I can't, I can't do that, I'm not going to retire.
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I was still young when I retired.
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I got to keep myself going and I can't do that, I'm not going to retire.
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I was still young when I retired.
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I got to keep myself going.
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And girl, did I keep myself going.
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I told you my husband has to say could I get on your calendar Because it's so important?
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All right, girl, we can talk about this.
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So you authored five books.
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What drives your writing and how has each one impacted your audience?
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The first book that I wrote.
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It was called Breaking Free.
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My Purpose is Waiting on Me.
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It was a way of me to tell about my struggles without telling my business because, it takes people through a journey of just self-reflection and if you do the exercises in the book, it makes you look inward.
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So it's not a book you can just read through and be like, oh, that was good.
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It's a book that you're supposed to use to work on you and to see what are the roadblocks, the walls that are getting in my way.
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What's the mindset that I get stuck on.
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That causes me to be stuck.
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So that was my first book and then I worked on some collaboration books with other people.
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So that got me.
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That got my toes wet in that arena working with other folks and doing contributing a chapter within their book, and so Cut the BS is actually my second solo book.
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Okay.
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Okay is actually my second solo book, okay, okay.
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And then I've got my own collaboration book that I've been working on with five other authors who are also entrepreneurs, and that book and conference will be released.
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We're praying in October that everything will be done, and it's called Breaking Free the Making of an Entrepreneur.
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So they're all talking about what they went through to get to where they are now.
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That's awesome.
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I would have loved to been in that book.
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That's so true.
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Your book offers seven simple strategies.
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Could you highlight a couple of that listeners can begin applying today?
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Okay, Absolutely so.
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One of the quick strategies I would say is prioritizing, and that requires a lot of being able to self-reflect as well as being able to say no two letters.
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It is so hard for people to say no because it's either they feel obligated to say yes or they're scared to say no.
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So with the prioritizing, I give the three Ds and it goes into more detail.
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There's actually a quadrant that you can use to weed things out in your head.
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You can use to weed things out in your head, but these are the three D's.
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You either do it, delegate it or discard it, and you know that you need to do it is 100%.
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It has to be done now and it has to be done by you.
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If that's the case, then you do it If it needs to be done the case, then you do it.
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If it needs to be done but it doesn't have to 100% be done by you then you delegate it and then if it's something that, oh, it's a great idea, but you know what, I don't need to do it.
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It doesn't even need to be on my calendar right now.
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You can discard it.
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And discard it doesn't necessarily mean throw it in the trash, can.
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It can mean that you pass it on to another business owner that's not even in your camp, on your team, and you pass it on to them.
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What I found, wanda, is people who are micromanagers.
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They have a lot of issues with delegating and definitely have issues with discarding, and that's why they are overwhelmed and overworked.
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That's why I said it's got to be self-reflection, because if you are a micromanager, you got to tighten up that grip yeah that stuff off of your plate.
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And then the second, which I preach no matter where I go, you need to have your calendar, and I teach my clients you have a digital and you have a paper calendar, because the digital you can set your reminders If your digital happens to go dead or you leave it.
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You've got your paper calendar that you're not losing your mind trying to remember what am I supposed to be doing right now.
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Those would be the two things prioritizing and getting your calendar in order.
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That's awesome and they really make sense.
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Do it, delegate and discard the 3s.
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I love that.
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I love it Because, in fact, I talk about the four Cs Communication, compromise, consideration.
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God, how come I always forget that fourth one, but there's always another C Communication.
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I have my husband remember those two and it also goes for in your business and relationships.
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Yes.
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Communication compromise consideration and jesus christ, I just forgot that.
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The fourth word here, I tell you that's when you get crs right, oh, I'll come back to it, but yeah, but okay, it's gonna come back and say, yeah, one, how you forget that?
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What do you see as the biggest productivity killers in today's world?
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Oh, the biggest.
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I don't know if the biggest has been identified yet, but I would say one of the biggest productivity killers is distractions, and there are many we can get distracted at home if you work from home, because as you're walking through your house, you see the laundry needs to get done, the kitchen needs to get cleaned up, you need to clean off your desk, and just that.
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There's many distractions and then we can get ready to do our posts on Facebook.
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But before we do the posts, we start scrolling and what's supposed to take 10 minutes to post, we only have been on there for 30 minutes.
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Lord have mercy.
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That's what I would say would be the biggest productivity killer Distractions.
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Yes, you must be talking about me, because I tell you.
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I said what was I doing, what did I?
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What was I doing?
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What did I say?
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Then I was going to be writing a note, or writing it, or getting something together.
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But you know, that is so true, oh my God.
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So how do people help?
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How do you help people push past excuses and stay consistent in their goals?
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Oh, that's a good question.
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So I am the coach, that is, the queen of 20 questions.
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I'm straightforward and I'm honest and I also help you confess with your mouth what the problem or problems are.
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When tasks aren't getting done because everybody has homework, everybody has things that they need to work on in order to implement these strategies.
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When tasks aren't getting done, then I'm coming with the questions, because I want you to ask yourself these questions.
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Problem with excuses is that we accept them ourselves.
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That's the problem.
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We're accepting them, and so I let my clients know up front.
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I don't accept my own excuses, I don't make them and I'm not going to accept yours.
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And it helps me wean out, because anybody who works with me has to be teachable.
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If you already have the answers, I can't help you.
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If you have rested in your excuses and they are your lifeline, then you need to come to me when you're ready to let them go.
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And we get confused between what's a valid reason and what's a legitimate excuse.
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It's an excuse and a lot of times it's really it's not a reason.
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Now, if you broke your leg, then no, you can't compete in the skiing competition because your leg is broke.
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That is not an excuse.
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But if you tell me my internet went out at my house, I couldn't get ABCD done.
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My question to you is do you, is there not a Starbucks or Panera that you could have gone to.
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Even grocery stores have Wi-Fi.
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Now you know what I'm saying your phone.
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Right.
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Wi-fi now you know what I'm saying your phone Right.
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That's an excuse.
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In the mind it was justified, but the reality is you really didn't want to do the work.
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You accepted the hurdle that came your way instead of destroying the hurdle or moving past the hurdle because you didn't want to do the work to begin with.
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You tackle excuses by getting to the core.
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What's the core reason?
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Yeah, and this is my next question, because you're known as the force of empowerment.
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What does empowerment mean to you personally, empowering someone?
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And that is such a great question, because we think that empowering someone means that you go along with whatever they say or do, and that's not empowering, that's enabling.
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Empowering someone is reminding them who they are and what they can do beyond how they see themselves, Because I've witnessed people put themselves in the safe space, the space where they know they can accomplish, but they don't want to go out into the deep.
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Let me empower you to go out into the deep where the greatest part of you is going to be unlocked.
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Let me do that because you don't need me for the safety.
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You don't need that from me.
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You're already safe.
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I need to take you beyond that.
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Awesome and that makes sense.
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It's really, and that's what I talk about as far as even like my coaching, empowering and educating.
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Let me empower you, but you got to get to that point and they got to actually believe in themselves to move forward.
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Collaboration is the theme of this podcast.
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How has collaboration fueled your own journey as an author and a speaker?
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The person who thinks that they will get where they need to be by themselves is delusional.
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You cannot.
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You have to collaborate.
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