They Didn’t Leave. They Disappeared - The Quiet Psychology of Ghosting - Episode 142
They didn’t leave — they disappeared, and that silence can trap your mind in a loop of ambiguous loss that hurts more than a clean goodbye. In this episode, we unpack the psychology of ghosting, why it cuts so deeply (especially in friendships), and why their silence isn’t rejection of your worth, but a reflection of their emotional incapacity.
They didn’t leave. They just… disappeared.
No goodbye. No explanation. Just silence.
If you’ve ever been ghosted by a close friend or someone you loved, your brain probably didn’t register a breakup. It got stuck. Stuck in a loop of ambiguous loss, searching for closure that never came.
Today, we’re breaking down the Psychology of Ghosting, why it hurts more than a normal breakup, why friendship breakups can cut even deeper, and why their silence is not a verdict on your worth.
By the end of this episode, I want you to see something clearly:
Their disappearance is not rejection. It’s incapacity.
Make Sense? Let’s get into it.
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1:45 - They didn’t leave, they disappeared.
3:42 - My personal experience and the inspiration for this episode
6:35 - Ghosting is one of the strangest behaviors we’ve ever normalized
9:00 - Self Blame
10:39 - Ambiguous Loss.
12:33 - Attachment theory Comes in
14:17 - The Capacity Issue
16:14 - When the ghost reappears and returns?
24:00 - Closure is not obtained by them, it comes from you.
25:03 - Let’s Run Ghosting through the IRS (Interface Response System)
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