When I hear Monica’s voice on Armchair Expert, I feel something simple and rare: comfort. It’s the feeling of a familiar friend who’s warm, intelligent, and unafraid to be real. Dax, in all his gloriously robust, intuitively sharp interviewing style, brings such dynamic energy—and Monica doesn’t just sit beside him passively. She grounds the conversation. She holds space with presence, curiosity, and playfulness. She brings her whole self, and it matters.
I especially loved the episode with the author of Addicted to Revenge (Dr. Jack Kornfield). Both Monica and Dax were so open to seeing things differently—to questioning reactive, victim-centered thinking, and gently exploring the roots of violence. Monica gave that conversation time to breathe. Her steady presence wasn’t a counterweight to Dax’s brilliance—it was a beautiful complement to it. We need both.
I love how Monica shares her own process with honesty and humor. I’ve noticed her evolution over the years, especially with her new Buddhist interest and practice, and it’s deeply inspiring. The age difference between her and Dax also offers something I hadn’t expected: a glimpse into different stages of growth—both inner and outer—and how wisdom unfolds over time.
Most days, my kitchen is full of the usual good things—pots simmering, the rhythm of chopping, a breeze coming through the window, and sometimes, Armchair Expert playing in the background. Dax and Monica feel like part of the room—not in a starstruck way, just in the easy way certain voices become familiar over time. They talk while I stir, they laugh while I set the table, and by the time dinner is ready and family and friends fill the space, I often think to myself, I really enjoyed their company today.
Monica, what I want to say is this: I’m so glad you’ve let us walk beside you as you grow and reflect. You bring something thoughtful and honest to the show that’s quietly powerful. Thank you for letting us know you—not as a persona, but as a real person.