Marcy Axelrod: Showing Up Changes the World

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We're live. Okay, so everyone knows, I always

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start by saying that my guest, so to be a guest

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on this podcast, you have to be brave, right?

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Because you don't know what I'm gonna do. You

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have to be bold. You don't have to be beautiful,

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but Marcy, oh my gosh, and when she smiles, she

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lights up the hole and see, what a beautiful

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smile. So I'm going to put you on full steam

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right here and have it be about you, because

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you are so beautiful. But as I say, to everyone.

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You have to introduce yourself, because I have

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a little teeny idea of who you are. Hi, Marcy.

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Well, hello, Adrienne. Thank you so much for

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the opportunity to be here and to speak to all

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the amazing people out there. In terms of introducing

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myself, I think the most important thing is that

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I feel called to help the world understand the

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truth about showing up. So I'm not going to nounify

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myself. You know, people ask me what I do, but

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the thing is, we're not human doings, we're human

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beings. So I write, I speak, I research how people

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choose to show up. The most recent book is by

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that name, How We Choose to Show Up. It's a bestseller.

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Mel Robbins wrote the quote that's on the cover.

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Thank you so, so much, Mel. But of course, in

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addition to those things, you know, like many

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of you, I parent, I daughter, I friend. I sister,

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and I try to put positive, abundant energy out

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there that we can talk about because that's shaping

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the world at every moment. So I hope that's a

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little bit about me. For those of you who want

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more standard bullet points, started professionally

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on Wall Street, switched coasts. to Silicon Valley,

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spent 20 years as a strategy management consultant

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with KPMG Consulting, started doing global studies

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about what it means to truly show up back in

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1999, have tons of data about that. And yeah,

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so that is my background. And I think you learned

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a lot about yourself based on which aspects of

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what I said really matter to you. Ooh, ooh, I

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love that. I love that. Okay, so firstly, did

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I hear you say my daughter, my friend? My daughter.

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So I write, I speak, I create art, but also what

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I do is I daughter. Like my parents are alive.

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I'm a daughter. Even if they're not alive, I'm

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still a daughter. So the point is we nounify

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ourselves in society. I'm an architect. I'm an

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engineer. I'm a, I'm... An entrepreneur, I'm

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a painter. I lay bricks. I met someone who's

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a bricklayer. He lays bricks. But the point is

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you don't say, I am a. These are all processes.

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We are flow systems, just like trees that move

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water from the earth into the air. We are flow

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systems. The universe is a flow system. What

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else could we possibly be? So to say, When you

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say tell people about yourself are you people

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often show up with some kind of label and one

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of them the truth about showing up. Is is that

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labeling ourselves disappears everything that

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we don't mention. Right? So is it more important

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that I do global research about showing up and

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write books, or is it more important that I'm

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trying to shepherd two teenage girls on this

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planet into people who give and have meaningful

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lives and model for others, choosing at every

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moment how they show up to the world, right?

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Which matters more? Society teaches us to judge.

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you know, I want to go be friends with the woman

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who, you know, started her career on Wall Street.

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Well, that's me too, but, and maybe, and I'd

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be perfectly happy to help you. However, perhaps

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what's more important when you meet someone is,

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you know, what's the most meaningful aspect of

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you? Is it that you, you parent and you spend

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a lot of time and effort trying to be the best

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parent that you can be, right? Versus, well,

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I get my money from doing keynote speeches in

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front of 3 ,000 people or selling art off a wall.

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But let's anchor on that art thing for just a

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minute. A lot of artists, so I create art. I'm

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not in a space right now where I can show a lot.

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Actually, I can go downstairs and show some pieces.

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But a lot of quote artists, which is a noun once

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again, need to make money. So they want to sell

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art. And when I am at global shows, so I was

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just at art Aqua Art, it's part of the Art Basel

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Miami, whole week in Miami. And to me, what was

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more important than perhaps exchanging a physical

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thing for money, it was far more important to

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me. People experienced how they felt in front

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of these glowingly bright, abundant pieces. And

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I mean, people just stopped. They'd be walking

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by and they'd see them, they would just stop.

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I literally saw jaws drop. It was like the photo

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place. Everyone took photos. So what's the contribution?

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Am I there to exchange art for money, or am I

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there to help people have a lived experience

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in their body that shifts them? And now what

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we know from research, they're going to be more

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patient. They're going to be more kind. They're

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more likely to see the next person in front of

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them, not as a human doing, as an object. They're

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more likely to feel what that person feels. Their

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compassion is gonna show up. Might be short lived

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in my last 10 minutes. I'm not sure, you know,

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I can dive into that research after this interview,

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but that to me is the contribution. I love this.

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So when you asked me, now I wanna go back, when

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you said to me, what is it that you do? I did

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not say to you, oh, I'm a mother. Like, that's

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my, actually, we have a podcast, my daughter,

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my friend, talking about, you know, our friendship

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together. We traveled five months on a road two

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years ago and traveled around the United States

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for five months. But I, yeah, I didn't. I went

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right into what I do for work. And thank you

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so much for bringing that point up to me. That

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is such a huge point, because you are right.

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I am a mother of three boys. And why, wow. OK,

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so let's talk about thank you. There's nothing

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else I could do but just say thank you because

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that was the greatest lesson I could have all

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year. The lessons that we have at the end of

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the year is amazing. So I love that you are our

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basil, I should say it correctly. But I want

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to also go back to your book. And congratulations,

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Mel Robbins. And the book is beautiful. How we

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choose to do we choose Just because I always

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think of showing up in your frame. I might be

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Yeah, no, I could see it. Yeah, I always think

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of showing like I think of reliability and and

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being credible But how else is showing up a context?

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Yes, so so it turns out there's a model for how

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human beings are designed to show up and I'll

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show you some of the graphics and I'll send them

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to you so that you can post them. But I'd also

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like to quickly share my story about how, you

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know, why is my calling discovering and documenting

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the model of how humans are designed to show

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up? So first, what I'll share is quality levels

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are inherent in nature. Right? And you might

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pick up a leaf in the fall and some of them are

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still perfectly green, some of them are brown

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and crispy, some of them have red, some have

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yellow, some have orange, some have spots. And

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you can look at this and we don't inherently

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say one is good and one is bad. Is the green

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good and the brown bad? What about the yellow

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with brown spots? What about the red with dark

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red spots? Which is good? Which is bad? But the

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point is there are levels and I put a one, two,

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three on behave here. I think it's pretty clear.

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Everyone knows, well, gee, there's kind of a

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better way to kind of behave and interact with

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the world. And then there's kind of a less good

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fun. So let's call one truly showing up. Let's

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call this middle one just showing up. You know,

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that's just kind of, you're busy. You're getting

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stuff done. It's somewhat meaningless. You're

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checking boxes. People around you are mostly

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objects. Your care isn't showing up. That's level

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two. It's just showing up. And then there's like,

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when you're really down and out, you're burned

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out. Call that barely there, right? So level

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one is barely there. Level two. is just showing

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up and level three is truly showing up. And we

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can talk eight levels deep about what each level

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is, because I describe it spiritually, emotionally,

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behaviorally, psychologically, economically,

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financially. I explain what it means. you know,

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how your relationships show up at each level,

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how your health shows up at each level, how your

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bank account shows up at each level, your workout

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routine, your relationship to alcohol, all of

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it. So we can get into that. And you might ask

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yourself, well, you know, how do you go from

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one to the other? Well, you're bouncing along

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this continuum every moment of every day. And

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so is everybody. else. And so is every brand.

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And so is every social justice norm. And so is

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every government. And so is every company. And

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so is every podcast, you starting to see how

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big a deal showing up really is. So ultimately,

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because everyone's moving along the continuum

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at every moment, showing up ultimately becomes

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a permission system. You have permission to be

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exactly who you are in this moment right now.

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And so does everybody else. This is a way to

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let go. Mel Robbins' latest book, she wrote the

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quote that's on the cover here. Her book is Let

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Them. So Let Them is incorporated within this

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and then it goes so much further. But before

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I get into the model and how you really move

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up and down, again, the short answer is that

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we're not just individualized selves. We're in

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three roles, not one. I'll talk about that. But

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what I'd love to do, because I think I've been

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told time and time again, and it's really meaningful

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how I came to this, to dedicate my life to doing

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all this research and documenting the model of

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how humans are designed to show up. So let me

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just backtrack there if it's okay for just, just

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to definitely. So when I was six years old, my

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family moved from Baltimore to Boston and parents

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were busy with new jobs. Marcy didn't get the

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attention that she needed. So my genetic predisposition

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to stutter showed up. It was called upon. I needed

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help. So this was my body and my, my life's way

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of saying, I need some attention, you know, like

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my life has changed. I, you know, my friends

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are gone, my school is gone, my home is gone,

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every, right. So I lost the ability to speak

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at age six. And the seminal experiences that

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that led to. Picture, I'm in me, I'm in kindergarten

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or first grade and the teacher asks a question

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and my hand goes up. The entire class. Exhale

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this collective, the teacher is going to have

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to call on mercy. And I felt everyone feeling

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me and it was sorrow and it was grief and it

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was stress. And I said to myself, I can't stand

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this. I can't stand this, but it's beautiful.

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We are not individuals. We are all individuals.

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Everyone's feeling me. Everyone's with me in

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this suffering. So that was one thing. We are

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not separate. That is a core principle about

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how the universe works. You take a spoon and

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you put it into the ocean, and you have a spoonful

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of ocean, and that's what we all are. Is it seemingly

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separate from the rest of the ocean? Well, sure,

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but is it? all the ocean at every moment? Yes,

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it is. That's what we are. So that's one of the

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core aspects of showing up that I learned that

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day. We are intertwined and interlinked in so

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many ways. I have a ton of science and neuroscience

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in the book that explains that. The second thing

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that I learned is I don't want to be the influence

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on the world that's this painful thing that people

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say, oh my goodness, maybe it's better if she's

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not even here. So I said to myself, I'm going

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to cleave myself off. It's too painful to be

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me. So I'm going to take my self lens here. I'm

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looking at, you know, into my hands as if it's

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a mirror self lens. And I'm going to turn myself

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out because I can't show up as I choose. I'm

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going to study. How is everyone else showing

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up? So that's what I did. And I was six years

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old and I became this endless and avid disciple

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of how everyone and everything is showing up.

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And what I noticed, you know, out on the blacktop

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outside of class, the four square, you've got

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the bully over there, slamming everyone out.

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You've got the scaredy cat who's in line waiting

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to go into the game who kind of feels all of

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life is determined by the outer world. Is the

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bully going to slam me out in front of everybody?

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Then there's the teacher over there just trying

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to enjoy the sun, not intervening. And I said,

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I can't stand it. Why are they throwing their

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show up choices away? Fast forward six more years,

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now I'm 12 and I'm sent to a rehabilitation hospital

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because they have a program for children who

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stutter. Traumatizing because everyone else there

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is 70 and 80 years old recovering from strokes.

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What are they doing? They know how they want

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to show up. They know they want to be able to

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take a step, to sit and stand, to feed themselves.

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They have experts by their sides helping them.

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And they have these sheets that they were flipping

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with these plans, these best practices about

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what to do to be able to show up again as you

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choose. And yet, they struggled. So what my then

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12 -year -old brain interpreted was, huh, even

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people who know how they want to show up. with

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lifetimes of wisdom behind them, experts by their

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sides, well -made plans, they're still struggling

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to show up as they choose. Where's the blueprint?

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Where's the roadmap? Why is it so hard? And that's

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when I said, this is it. This is what I'm gonna

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spend my life doing. I'm going to do the research.

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It took another 20, 30 years, my goodness. I

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really didn't, the research didn't really come

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together for the book until maybe five years

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ago. So it took another 30 years of research

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to discover what I felt was the model of how

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humans are designed to show up. And that's what

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I'm going to share with you. Wow. Okay, I feel

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bad. I'm sorry. No, it's your I just I'm just

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fascinated listening to you. This is so interesting.

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Okay, so the research is there, you learn how

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to show up. And I guess when I'm thinking of

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this, I'm thinking Have there been times, Adrienne,

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where I've been someplace but I really haven't

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been to absorb on my phone or to absorb my own

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thoughts that I'm not really paying attention?

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And I love Seth Green from Market Domination

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says, be where your foot is, be where your feet

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are. And I try to remember that, OK, my feet

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are here. This is where I need to be. And so

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this book was so when did you actually publish

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the book? The book came out a year ago in April

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and it quickly became a best seller. So like

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within about a day or two, like out of the blue

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when I go to Amazon to see that it was there,

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it was number one in a number of categories.

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And then within a day, my publisher says, choose

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which metal you want on the cover. I don't know

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if you can see this. So choose. Yes, I love it.

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I love it. Yeah. So Anyway, what I'd love to

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do, and then by the way, it won the Hayakawa

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Book Prize, which was totally awesome. And I

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routinely do podcasts that have close to a million

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views, which is great. And I have two TED Talks,

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which are a very early version of this. But what

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I'd love to do though, let's anchor on a real

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definition of showing up. What am I talking about?

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What is showing up according to the 30 years

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of research? So showing up is being able to choose

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which of your three roles you're in at each moment

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and at what level you want to show up. So let

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me talk about the three roles. We already mentioned

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individualized self. We all feel like we're individualized

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selves. There's a small version of that. It's

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ego driven. It's desire driven. It's about wanting.

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It's designed by needing to fulfill accolades

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of the external world, the stuff you have, the

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title you have. It is not a an authentic way

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to show up. It's not going to lead to a meaningful

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life. The best you can do when you're in this

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small S version of like ego driven self. The

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absolute best that you can do is kind of not

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pass out from living your life on a treadmill,

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and it's not what you want. You're going to end

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up seeking solace in all sorts of ways. You're

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going to end up with some version of endlessly

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needing self -care in some way, buying things,

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needing that next thing. You're just not going

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to lay in bed and say, I love my life. It's going

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to all be about you, not about others. That is

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not the way you want to live. There's a large

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S. version of self, which is the right one of

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these three roles. This is, you know, the self

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that Eastern contemplative is, and frankly, the

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root of every religion knows about. This is the

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other centered self. Let me get on to the second

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role. The second role that we're always in is

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what's going on, Adrian, right here, right now,

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with you and I. When you look me in the eyes,

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and I look you in the eyes, It turns out that

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your brainwave and my brainwave start to do this.

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They start to resonate as a single mind in this

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between space, between you and I. It's called

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interhemispheric neural synchronization. The

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situation member self is the one who recognizes

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that we're reverberating responding to giving

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to responding to and giving to everything that's

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going on right here right now. It can maybe in

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your mind and in your body there's a large presence

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because you know that 50 people are here with

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us live. I don't happen to know that it's not

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it's not actually here with me but it's in you

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and I'm picking up from you your truth of this

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lived experience. Now it turns out that almost

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everything that we're doing right now and feeling

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and the chemistry of our bodies is created by

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this alive situation. Okay, so let's say cortisol,

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the stress hormone, ideally that's down. Oxytocin,

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the one that connects us, the love hormone, let's

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hope that's up. The joy. of your expression,

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I'm deeply feeling right now the affirmation

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I'm getting from you. It feels good. And did

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you notice how I reset myself? I just went from

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presentation mode, which is kind of a level to

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just showing up thing into a level three, truly

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show up thing. I just went up the continuum right

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there as I moved from a presenter, a speaker.

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into more of a friend, the kind of co -conspirator

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with you crafting this moment. So this is your

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situation member role. It is deeply with and

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for, and this is where the show up lexicon comes

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in. Because often people speak to each other.

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I don't ever want to speak to. I want to be with

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and for. So once again, it parallels what I said

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when I was six. I took my self -lens and I turned

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it outward. So this is the two becoming the width

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and the floor. This is the individual, two of

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us, becoming a unified whole in all divisional.

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This is that scoop of ocean that's still the

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ocean, even though maybe it's separate. So this

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is your situation member role. That's your second

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role. Pretty powerful, huh? And when you know

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it and you read the chapter about what it means,

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you live it differently. Are you with me? How

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could you not? This is when the daughter or son

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who's with you pauses just for a moment. Their

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body calms and they're looking you in the eye

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for just that extra moment. And they're like,

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huh, this is when your boss notices. Because

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being in your presence feels different. And this

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is when they just kind of know, huh, maybe I'm

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going to give this big new project to Adrian.

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This is when the friend says, you know, this

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was a really meaningful visit. This is when it's

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your phone that rings. It's your email that has

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the, hey, we were thinking about this and you

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came to mind, right? You get the invitation,

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the opportunity. Opportunity the opportunity

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shows up for you when you live more fully in

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your situation member role. I Probably don't

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need to say it. You probably know but this is

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the contact point with reality This is the mindfulness,

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etc Okay, but I explain it Extremely deep deeply

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because I feel that mindfulness can lead you

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to the gate, but it doesn't stick you in I feel

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that understanding your situation member role

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of how you show up, or how you could choose to

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show up, is a, I describe it in a very deep,

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visceral, lived experience way. Okay. Got that?

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Ready to move on to role three? If I were to

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ask you, what do you think role three is? Most

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audiences ultimately get there. You've got the

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self, you've got the situation member. I call

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it, societal member. So this is the connectedness

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with the everything else, with the something

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beyond the self. This is the member of a family,

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a company, a society, a religion, a culture,

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and ethnicity, a sports team. Maybe you're a

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fan of the Raiders. This is where you feel deeply

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interconnected and flowing with a much larger

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group. It can be people passionate about the

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oceans, or saving the environment, or driving

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their EV, or people who love fashion, people

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into a certain singer. It is the interconnectedness

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with the more. And there can be a lot of different

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groups that are your more. moving up and down

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the continuum, what you notice is that as you

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shift into a truly show up mode, which is the

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green, notice it goes from red to green, right?

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It mimics the colors on the cover here. What

00:26:05.359 --> 00:26:09.220
you're ultimately doing is you're deeply presencing

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in your situation member role, and it can be

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working on your spreadsheet as a digital analyst

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at a media firm, right? I mean, it doesn't need

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to only be when you're looking in someone else's

00:26:22.160 --> 00:26:24.960
eyes, but as you're deeply flowing in the moment

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of the what is, and you're interconnected with

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the more, you end up truly showing up. But you

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don't really have to approach it with a, like,

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what role am I in? You can approach it with a,

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how do I want to choose to show up right now?

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What is my truly show up? set of emotions and

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behaviors and thoughts in the moment. Emotion

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is the key because everything is relational and

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emotions always come first. They move faster

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than thought. They are an embodied experience.

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It's in the body. The body is the sensing system

00:27:01.339 --> 00:27:05.160
that connects us with everything. So really the

00:27:05.160 --> 00:27:07.720
way it flows is emotion and then probably some

00:27:07.720 --> 00:27:09.420
version of thought and then action, although

00:27:09.420 --> 00:27:12.599
it can flow emotion, action, thought. But it

00:27:12.599 --> 00:27:15.460
doesn't matter. They're all there. So I'm going

00:27:15.460 --> 00:27:18.640
to stop there. So what showing up really means

00:27:18.640 --> 00:27:21.839
is living in all three of your roles by choice

00:27:21.839 --> 00:27:27.519
and choosing how you're showing up. Wow. OK,

00:27:27.539 --> 00:27:30.940
that's a lot of information, but I love it. And

00:27:30.940 --> 00:27:35.380
it's it's another way of looking at. So who who

00:27:35.380 --> 00:27:37.039
do you recommend? I mean, I know we could say

00:27:37.039 --> 00:27:40.720
the book is for everyone. Immediately, I'm thinking,

00:27:40.880 --> 00:27:45.079
wow, this is good information for sales professionals

00:27:45.079 --> 00:27:49.579
that really need to show up and feel like they're

00:27:49.579 --> 00:27:54.019
focused and listening to you or to their clients.

00:27:55.420 --> 00:27:58.660
Yeah, as well. I mean, sales, but I mean, everyone,

00:27:59.500 --> 00:28:01.339
when you when you read the book and you really

00:28:01.339 --> 00:28:03.440
understand what it's saying, because this isn't

00:28:03.440 --> 00:28:06.640
just how humans are. This is how. the universe

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shows up, you know, nature's the subtitle here.

00:28:11.119 --> 00:28:14.240
I don't know if you can see it here. Nature's

00:28:14.240 --> 00:28:16.579
playbook for creating a meaningful life and the

00:28:16.579 --> 00:28:20.299
world we want. Oh, I like that. Yeah. And that's

00:28:20.299 --> 00:28:24.880
huge. Why is it that way? Why did the publisher

00:28:24.880 --> 00:28:29.059
suggest that? Because the truth about showing

00:28:29.059 --> 00:28:33.150
up is that You're changing the world every moment.

00:28:33.269 --> 00:28:37.730
Your energy's going out there. This isn't woo

00:28:37.730 --> 00:28:40.950
-woo mystical stuff. In physics, we understand

00:28:40.950 --> 00:28:42.970
this. So if one atom over here is doing something,

00:28:43.009 --> 00:28:46.549
another atom there, and something shifts, another

00:28:46.549 --> 00:28:50.329
atom far away shifts. We know this to be true.

00:28:50.529 --> 00:28:52.789
Why does a butterfly way over there that flaps

00:28:52.789 --> 00:28:55.130
its wings create a storm across the planet? We

00:28:55.130 --> 00:29:01.509
know this to be true. Part of showing up is that

00:29:01.509 --> 00:29:04.390
you're doing it at every moment. So you're accountable

00:29:04.390 --> 00:29:06.809
to choose. Why are you accountable to choose?

00:29:06.869 --> 00:29:10.609
Because you're changing how the world shows up.

00:29:10.789 --> 00:29:15.009
And I could say how the world shows up for you,

00:29:15.609 --> 00:29:18.069
but it's so much bigger than you. It's how the

00:29:18.069 --> 00:29:21.230
world is showing up. Now, this is why abundance

00:29:21.230 --> 00:29:26.240
mentality work. And if you put out there, your

00:29:26.240 --> 00:29:28.559
beliefs about the world. And this is one of the

00:29:28.559 --> 00:29:31.660
things I really recommend that people do. The

00:29:31.660 --> 00:29:35.119
very first step is to take out a piece of paper

00:29:35.119 --> 00:29:38.660
and write down, what are my really beliefs about

00:29:38.660 --> 00:29:42.240
the way the world works? Right? Einstein mentioned

00:29:42.240 --> 00:29:48.640
this. He said, is it a kind of nasty, cruel universe?

00:29:49.420 --> 00:29:55.039
Or is it a kind, loving universe? What do you

00:29:55.039 --> 00:29:58.500
believe is it about being competitive because

00:29:58.500 --> 00:30:01.119
there's only one VP spot and if I don't and I

00:30:01.119 --> 00:30:03.619
need to get it and this other person can't The

00:30:03.619 --> 00:30:05.960
you know, the boss needs to you know favor me

00:30:05.960 --> 00:30:07.900
on this thing and not the other person I need

00:30:07.900 --> 00:30:10.700
to get this sale and take it away from them if

00:30:10.700 --> 00:30:16.880
really Why do you actually believe that and what

00:30:16.880 --> 00:30:20.920
life Are you telling the world to create for

00:30:20.920 --> 00:30:24.710
you? What what like? If you show up that way

00:30:24.710 --> 00:30:28.509
to the world, it will show up that way to you

00:30:28.509 --> 00:30:31.910
and it will reinforce, yep, what you believe

00:30:31.910 --> 00:30:38.309
is right because you're creating it. So Einstein's

00:30:38.309 --> 00:30:41.769
answer about that is that, well, turns out, no,

00:30:42.369 --> 00:30:47.170
it's not a nasty mean competitive universe, but

00:30:47.170 --> 00:30:49.769
it's not a kind and beautiful universe either.

00:30:51.049 --> 00:30:57.740
It's a self. reflective universe. Meaning how

00:30:57.740 --> 00:30:59.640
you show up to the world is how it's going to

00:30:59.640 --> 00:31:05.279
show up to you. So think think about this. You

00:31:05.279 --> 00:31:11.099
are parking your car and oops, you bump someone

00:31:11.099 --> 00:31:14.799
else's car. It turns out a person's just kind

00:31:14.799 --> 00:31:17.099
of coming now to see their car and they kind

00:31:17.099 --> 00:31:21.109
of they saw what just happened. You have a few

00:31:21.109 --> 00:31:26.410
seconds to process. What just happened? What's

00:31:26.410 --> 00:31:29.970
about to happen? If you live in fear, which by

00:31:29.970 --> 00:31:33.150
the way, most people unfortunately live their

00:31:33.150 --> 00:31:36.869
lives mostly feeling two things, regret for the

00:31:36.869 --> 00:31:41.150
past and fear about the future. Let's just play

00:31:41.150 --> 00:31:42.970
this out. You're in your car. You don't have

00:31:42.970 --> 00:31:47.569
long. Oh my God, this person is gonna be irate.

00:31:48.029 --> 00:31:53.450
They might even hurt me. I'm just going to lock

00:31:53.450 --> 00:31:59.690
my doors and sit here and cower. Okay. Another

00:31:59.690 --> 00:32:03.789
thing is, you know, some people have bad days.

00:32:03.829 --> 00:32:06.710
It's not that bad. I'm just going to get out.

00:32:07.369 --> 00:32:10.829
It's fine. We'll exchange our contact info, exchange

00:32:10.829 --> 00:32:15.460
insurance. It's fine. So then you get out. What

00:32:15.460 --> 00:32:18.000
do you do? Well, first, now you've gotten out

00:32:18.000 --> 00:32:21.400
of the car. You're somewhat neutral. It's OK.

00:32:21.859 --> 00:32:26.000
You walk up, hey, I'm sorry. My name is James.

00:32:26.640 --> 00:32:29.759
We can take care of this. Doesn't look too bad.

00:32:31.640 --> 00:32:33.599
Hopefully, this is kind of the worst thing that

00:32:33.599 --> 00:32:37.619
happens to us across a given year, right? And

00:32:37.619 --> 00:32:42.960
the person's like, yeah. Yeah. OK, sure. Have

00:32:42.960 --> 00:32:46.569
a good day. Thanks, bye. Right. Or you've got

00:32:46.569 --> 00:32:49.390
some options. If you're like me, you get out

00:32:49.390 --> 00:32:53.369
of the car and you basically say, I guess we

00:32:53.369 --> 00:32:57.609
were supposed to meet each other. Tell me about

00:32:57.609 --> 00:33:00.890
you because the universe really put us together

00:33:00.890 --> 00:33:06.390
in an unusual way. And then the person's like

00:33:06.390 --> 00:33:11.170
looking at me like, who are you? Well, I think

00:33:11.170 --> 00:33:14.539
I'm someone you're supposed to meet. You know

00:33:14.539 --> 00:33:20.640
And and I've never had a bad reception I mean

00:33:20.640 --> 00:33:22.480
some people are friendlier than others and some

00:33:22.480 --> 00:33:24.660
people are like let me just look at my car and

00:33:24.660 --> 00:33:28.779
I mean Okay, but the point is you see how you're

00:33:28.779 --> 00:33:32.460
creating how the world shows up for you Right,

00:33:32.460 --> 00:33:35.799
and there are so many nuances, because someone

00:33:35.799 --> 00:33:38.380
who feels shame, they're going to show up with

00:33:38.380 --> 00:33:40.339
shame, and shame is going to get reinforced right

00:33:40.339 --> 00:33:42.680
back. How could you have done this? You're useless.

00:33:43.240 --> 00:33:45.740
Of course, right? And you're going to think,

00:33:46.059 --> 00:33:48.319
of course, I did this. I'm the sort of person

00:33:48.319 --> 00:33:50.339
who has all these issues, and I create all these

00:33:50.339 --> 00:33:55.539
problems. So think about it. Shame is going to

00:33:55.539 --> 00:33:58.579
have a scene. There's guilt. Guilt is going to

00:33:58.579 --> 00:34:02.349
have its own scene. um there's neutrality it's

00:34:02.349 --> 00:34:05.950
going to have its own scene uh there's love there's

00:34:05.950 --> 00:34:08.769
givingness there is contribution i am a vessel

00:34:08.769 --> 00:34:11.550
like me personally this is how i feel i don't

00:34:11.550 --> 00:34:14.389
have an ego or well i probably do in some form

00:34:14.389 --> 00:34:19.250
but i was pretty young when i decided i just

00:34:19.250 --> 00:34:21.710
was here to observe others and study how we show

00:34:21.710 --> 00:34:25.469
up so like i'm a vessel through which these sets

00:34:25.469 --> 00:34:29.280
of ideas are getting out into the world So if

00:34:29.280 --> 00:34:32.320
you show up like that, what is there to fear?

00:34:33.099 --> 00:34:37.400
And then you create through joy, through giving,

00:34:38.119 --> 00:34:41.940
through curiosity. Who are you that I'm supposed

00:34:41.940 --> 00:34:43.579
to meet you? I've never bumped someone's car

00:34:43.579 --> 00:34:47.059
in a parking lot. How did this actually, how

00:34:47.059 --> 00:34:49.619
did the world design this whole scenario? Like

00:34:49.619 --> 00:34:55.489
what's, you know? So I hope that people inherently

00:34:55.489 --> 00:34:57.849
know this. I'm not telling anybody what they

00:34:57.849 --> 00:35:01.110
don't know, but sometimes pulling this out and

00:35:01.110 --> 00:35:04.110
painting a visceral picture where you can start

00:35:04.110 --> 00:35:09.329
to envision it, it ends up actually contributing

00:35:09.329 --> 00:35:12.909
to, huh, what am I choosing to do right now?

00:35:13.369 --> 00:35:16.809
How would I handle that? And I'm about to walk

00:35:16.809 --> 00:35:19.329
into a meeting, and how am I choosing to show

00:35:19.329 --> 00:35:25.929
up? What do I want to create here? This is great.

00:35:26.150 --> 00:35:31.949
This is so fascinating for me because A, you

00:35:31.949 --> 00:35:34.869
know, we're here on, we're live on a few different

00:35:34.869 --> 00:35:37.949
platforms, but we're also live on ChatterSocial.

00:35:38.130 --> 00:35:41.929
And thank you, Joseph, for being here. And Joseph

00:35:41.929 --> 00:35:45.019
and I do the debate the news true crime. podcast,

00:35:45.059 --> 00:35:47.239
which is interesting. I mean, I absolutely love

00:35:47.239 --> 00:35:50.280
it. Our algorithms are probably filled with true

00:35:50.280 --> 00:35:53.480
crime, but I still am very positive. But on this

00:35:53.480 --> 00:35:56.559
app, it's so interesting when you said self -reflected

00:35:56.559 --> 00:35:59.219
universe. Boy, do you, when you're listening

00:35:59.219 --> 00:36:02.260
to people's voices and you're hearing them and,

00:36:02.260 --> 00:36:04.679
you know, I love, there's a room called debate

00:36:04.679 --> 00:36:08.519
the news, which in the evening is really interesting,

00:36:08.739 --> 00:36:11.519
but you can hear people. And sometimes when I

00:36:11.519 --> 00:36:15.860
go to, Even have the answer my own mind i can

00:36:15.860 --> 00:36:19.599
hear my own cuz i'm so positive and i just can't

00:36:19.599 --> 00:36:22.699
help but see the world positive and and i'm like

00:36:22.699 --> 00:36:24.900
oh i'm not gonna say anything cuz it's gonna

00:36:24.900 --> 00:36:27.570
come out like. you know, like, oh, Adrienne's

00:36:27.570 --> 00:36:29.829
so positive when she thinks these things. But

00:36:29.829 --> 00:36:32.769
I just love that because you really can tell

00:36:32.769 --> 00:36:35.650
that self -reflective universe who's angry, who's

00:36:35.650 --> 00:36:38.389
got something stirring in them, who's not really

00:36:38.389 --> 00:36:41.250
saying exactly how they feel, but yet you can

00:36:41.250 --> 00:36:44.030
hear it with the anger. So I absolutely love

00:36:44.030 --> 00:36:46.750
this. And the book sounds fascinating. So wait,

00:36:46.829 --> 00:36:48.849
so I want to go into two things before we go,

00:36:48.929 --> 00:36:51.679
though, because A, you said, so the two talks

00:36:51.679 --> 00:36:55.300
that you did with TEDx, which is not an easy

00:36:55.300 --> 00:36:58.920
feat to accomplish. So to get in twice. And then

00:36:58.920 --> 00:37:00.659
you were saying these were a little bit before

00:37:00.659 --> 00:37:03.420
the book. So can you share a little bit about

00:37:03.420 --> 00:37:06.360
that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And the TED talks were,

00:37:06.699 --> 00:37:11.079
for me, somehow were extremely easy. I sent 18

00:37:11.079 --> 00:37:12.920
applications in in three weeks and I had two

00:37:12.920 --> 00:37:15.559
yeses. And I probably, you know, and I'm thinking

00:37:15.559 --> 00:37:17.260
about doing another one because showing up has

00:37:17.260 --> 00:37:20.500
matured in so many and evolved because, you know,

00:37:20.539 --> 00:37:23.860
I'm constantly doing research. I do evergreen

00:37:23.860 --> 00:37:28.280
surveys that I send out around the world. And

00:37:28.280 --> 00:37:30.659
I ask a set of the questions that are the same

00:37:30.659 --> 00:37:33.099
so that I've got longitudinal data going back

00:37:33.099 --> 00:37:36.460
to 1999, asking the same questions are filled

00:37:36.460 --> 00:37:40.079
with open text boxes in addition to kind of checkboxes.

00:37:40.840 --> 00:37:46.599
And then I also evolve a few questions. So I

00:37:46.599 --> 00:37:50.059
would like to probably do another few TED Talks

00:37:50.059 --> 00:37:54.440
that kind of bring in the newer data, but also,

00:37:54.500 --> 00:37:57.099
you know, people talk to me about showing up

00:37:57.099 --> 00:37:59.139
and how it changed their lives and what's helpful

00:37:59.139 --> 00:38:06.139
and what's not. Yeah, so, and I think that, you

00:38:06.139 --> 00:38:08.710
know, people ask me how... why do I think it

00:38:08.710 --> 00:38:12.909
was so easy to secure to Ted talks? And they

00:38:12.909 --> 00:38:15.010
were recent, by the way, they were in 2022. So

00:38:15.010 --> 00:38:16.789
it isn't like I did this before, you know, this

00:38:16.789 --> 00:38:20.570
whole massive ramp of people applying. I think

00:38:20.570 --> 00:38:25.829
that the topic is applicable to everything on

00:38:25.829 --> 00:38:29.110
the planet, big and small, you can apply it to

00:38:29.110 --> 00:38:31.050
across your whole life, you can apply it to a

00:38:31.050 --> 00:38:34.630
given meeting or interaction, you can apply it

00:38:34.630 --> 00:38:38.630
to a three second choice of You're rushed to

00:38:38.630 --> 00:38:40.409
get out of the house to get to work. You've got

00:38:40.409 --> 00:38:44.730
to drop your kids off at school Three year old

00:38:44.730 --> 00:38:47.230
is struggling to tie her own shoes and right

00:38:47.230 --> 00:38:51.530
then in there How are you choosing to show up?

00:38:51.530 --> 00:38:56.730
Do you say? And I'm just for this morning and

00:38:56.730 --> 00:38:59.150
mommy's gonna do it because we just have to get

00:38:59.150 --> 00:39:04.170
out the door or Do you say? You're so close take

00:39:04.170 --> 00:39:09.079
your time I know you can do it and take your

00:39:09.079 --> 00:39:13.659
time. And you just sit there and glow out of

00:39:13.659 --> 00:39:20.260
awe and wonder that she even exists. I do with

00:39:20.260 --> 00:39:23.980
my kids and boy, my almost 16 year old teenage

00:39:23.980 --> 00:39:27.219
daughter, boy, does she not like it. I just look

00:39:27.219 --> 00:39:32.760
at, I just absorb she's here. I named her Victoria

00:39:32.760 --> 00:39:34.659
because she was the seventh pregnancy. I have

00:39:34.659 --> 00:39:38.239
two kids. Seven pregnancy so there were five

00:39:38.239 --> 00:39:41.900
that opted out of their own accord and I just

00:39:41.900 --> 00:39:45.260
look at her and I mean my Zoe my older one I

00:39:45.260 --> 00:39:47.199
you know Zoe means life I've life and victory

00:39:47.199 --> 00:39:50.579
the first Conception and the seventh conception.

00:39:50.980 --> 00:39:56.760
Anyway Yeah, so I Think that it was my topic

00:39:56.760 --> 00:40:01.860
was chosen because of the topic And also, the

00:40:01.860 --> 00:40:04.440
way I write about it is powerful. I mean, if

00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:06.039
I can read, like, you know, I haven't actually

00:40:06.039 --> 00:40:10.739
chosen a quote, but if I read this, it's existential.

00:40:11.000 --> 00:40:13.739
I mean, I make it a day -to -day thing. You get

00:40:13.739 --> 00:40:15.820
up, what are you doing? Like, I make it a practical

00:40:15.820 --> 00:40:18.400
thing and I'm endless, you know, little, little

00:40:18.400 --> 00:40:21.699
quick snippet interviews. It's very day -to -day

00:40:21.699 --> 00:40:28.929
and real, but it's existential. Here. Let me

00:40:28.929 --> 00:40:30.789
see, because I've got a whole bunch of quotes

00:40:30.789 --> 00:40:37.809
here. Showing up unites us as humans, transcending

00:40:37.809 --> 00:40:42.869
race, ethnicity, education, ability level, social

00:40:42.869 --> 00:40:46.849
strata, gender identity, categories too often

00:40:46.849 --> 00:40:53.460
used to divide us. Where are some other quotes?

00:40:53.619 --> 00:40:56.239
Showing up isn't a peripheral feature of our

00:40:56.239 --> 00:40:59.960
operating system. It's our defining characteristic.

00:41:01.019 --> 00:41:05.340
Let us fortify, understand, and profit from it.

00:41:06.519 --> 00:41:12.820
So the way I write, I think, also probably helps

00:41:12.820 --> 00:41:18.119
me to secure those TED Talks. But I definitely,

00:41:18.280 --> 00:41:23.360
I mean, the book is existential. And it actually

00:41:23.360 --> 00:41:25.340
ends with something I did on the Ted stage. I

00:41:25.340 --> 00:41:26.840
didn't, I didn't know if they were going to throw

00:41:26.840 --> 00:41:29.340
out my video and not elevate it to the, to Ted.

00:41:29.519 --> 00:41:32.699
My, it was pulled up to Ted .com, which is, I

00:41:32.699 --> 00:41:34.639
mean, what I learned is like this very big deal.

00:41:34.639 --> 00:41:36.480
When you do a Ted talk, it can either stay on

00:41:36.480 --> 00:41:40.300
the Ted X Omaha, like whatever Ted X you did,

00:41:40.300 --> 00:41:43.679
or when Ted looks at it, they can decide this

00:41:43.679 --> 00:41:46.179
is worthy of the big stage. So it's also on Ted

00:41:46.179 --> 00:41:53.949
.com and I took a huge risk. which felt authentic.

00:41:54.489 --> 00:41:55.809
You know, everything I do is authentic. I take

00:41:55.809 --> 00:41:57.289
a ton of risks. They don't feel risky. They're

00:41:57.289 --> 00:41:59.130
just like, damn it, this has to get done. I'm

00:41:59.130 --> 00:42:02.190
doing this now. And what I did is I walked off

00:42:02.190 --> 00:42:07.150
the red dot. I stepped off the carpet and I didn't

00:42:07.150 --> 00:42:09.449
know it was the good, it was the camera going

00:42:09.449 --> 00:42:11.630
to be staring at it like an empty stage. Now

00:42:11.630 --> 00:42:15.550
I had no idea. It turns out it did follow me.

00:42:15.550 --> 00:42:18.170
And what came out of my mouth is, is what's in

00:42:18.170 --> 00:42:22.139
this With the last few sentences of the book

00:42:22.139 --> 00:42:26.159
and my my tone was just one -on -one And I said,

00:42:26.199 --> 00:42:33.199
I hope you accept this invitation tonight To

00:42:33.199 --> 00:42:38.820
show up just a little bit kinder a little with

00:42:38.820 --> 00:42:42.579
a little bit more choice and only as individuals

00:42:42.579 --> 00:42:49.739
and Accomplices in our collective Can we steer

00:42:49.739 --> 00:42:53.300
the world into a healthier, happier place? The

00:42:53.300 --> 00:42:58.500
choice is yours. I can't wait to see what you

00:42:58.500 --> 00:43:05.400
do with them. So everyone needs to understand

00:43:05.400 --> 00:43:08.139
the fundamental beliefs of showing up. Number

00:43:08.139 --> 00:43:11.820
one, you deeply matter. Number two, you're impacting

00:43:11.820 --> 00:43:15.000
the world at every moment. Therefore, you are

00:43:15.000 --> 00:43:18.119
accountable to do what? To choose how you show

00:43:18.119 --> 00:43:23.219
up. level one, two or three, being a situation

00:43:23.219 --> 00:43:27.760
member at every moment. You can never not be

00:43:27.760 --> 00:43:32.760
showing up in a self and a societal member at

00:43:32.760 --> 00:43:41.800
every moment. I know I'm being quiet just because

00:43:41.800 --> 00:43:44.800
I'm just, it's, it's, wow. I'm definitely going

00:43:44.800 --> 00:43:49.719
to be rewatching this. Wow. Wow, it's so funny

00:43:49.719 --> 00:43:52.420
because I'm looking at Joseph's picture here

00:43:52.420 --> 00:43:54.539
and I'm thinking to myself, you know, we show

00:43:54.539 --> 00:43:58.559
up every Tuesday and Thursday night ready to

00:43:58.559 --> 00:44:01.420
ready, but then there is so much more to it.

00:44:01.639 --> 00:44:04.630
You know, we are showing up. you know, in a good

00:44:04.630 --> 00:44:08.289
mood and ready to deliver a story and ready to

00:44:08.289 --> 00:44:11.090
have a conversation regarding whatever that true

00:44:11.090 --> 00:44:13.909
crime is. And Joseph, I don't want to bother

00:44:13.909 --> 00:44:15.869
you, but if you have a second just to say hi

00:44:15.869 --> 00:44:18.449
to Marcy so she can hear another voice. So she

00:44:18.449 --> 00:44:23.110
does, she... Take it away, Joseph. Hi, Marcy.

00:44:23.750 --> 00:44:26.650
Hi, nice to meet you. Welcome to... Is she on

00:44:26.650 --> 00:44:28.710
Chatter or are you streaming to other platforms?

00:44:29.210 --> 00:44:31.250
Streaming, multi -streaming and then on Chatter.

00:44:32.309 --> 00:44:38.590
Amazing. So we can meet you. And here is just

00:44:38.590 --> 00:44:42.309
so you can see how it looks. And so it's Christmas

00:44:42.309 --> 00:44:44.849
week, so there's not as many people on. So it

00:44:44.849 --> 00:44:48.590
just depends on the time of the day. But Marcy,

00:44:49.309 --> 00:44:52.849
take us downstairs. Oh, to see the art, yeah.

00:44:53.130 --> 00:44:56.250
And I would love for those people who are watching,

00:44:56.550 --> 00:44:59.710
I'm always looking for data and how this is landing.

00:45:00.170 --> 00:45:02.630
What's useful? What's not? What's confusing?

00:45:02.789 --> 00:45:05.170
What should I never say again? What should I

00:45:05.170 --> 00:45:08.389
explain more deeply? Okay, so I'm coming down.

00:45:08.969 --> 00:45:10.889
That's really a good question. I always think

00:45:10.889 --> 00:45:14.289
of, you know, a lot of people are asked for advice

00:45:14.289 --> 00:45:18.719
or giving advice or... Is that your doggy? Yes,

00:45:18.940 --> 00:45:23.440
there are two dogs. Hi. It's totally fine. I

00:45:23.440 --> 00:45:28.019
love dogs. OK, so this. Am I correct? You're

00:45:28.019 --> 00:45:30.820
a sculptor? Oh, you are. I'm a sculptor. Well,

00:45:31.159 --> 00:45:35.219
I sculpt. This is just a small piece that you

00:45:35.219 --> 00:45:39.599
can see. I sculpt and I do also massive pieces.

00:45:39.699 --> 00:45:44.679
I was in the penthouse of an Aqua Art Miami with

00:45:44.679 --> 00:45:51.269
about 10 feet, 10 by 6 feet. Here is another

00:45:51.269 --> 00:45:54.550
one. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. What's behind you?

00:45:54.949 --> 00:45:57.630
So remember, I started out, we're flow systems.

00:45:57.690 --> 00:45:59.730
So doesn't it make sense? This is show up art,

00:45:59.869 --> 00:46:03.989
right? Because it's, this is dynamic flow. It's

00:46:03.989 --> 00:46:06.550
resin. It is very three dimensional. I don't

00:46:06.550 --> 00:46:09.250
know if you can, uh, how to show you that. Oh,

00:46:09.250 --> 00:46:12.670
I see it. Oh my gosh. It's gorgeous. Oh, wow.

00:46:13.030 --> 00:46:17.889
Very, wow, wow. Where do you sign those? How

00:46:17.889 --> 00:46:21.750
do you sign those? There's another piece up here.

00:46:22.449 --> 00:46:28.389
Hard to see. There's that. Yeah, and I can quickly

00:46:28.389 --> 00:46:31.789
show you some other photos from the whole Art

00:46:31.789 --> 00:46:35.449
Basel Miami. So wait, what was the question?

00:46:36.150 --> 00:46:38.070
The question was, how are you signing them? Are

00:46:38.070 --> 00:46:41.789
they signed? I sign them. Yes, I sign the resin

00:46:41.789 --> 00:46:46.920
itself. And I just find a place that's not too

00:46:46.920 --> 00:46:51.360
obvious and sign it. But I mean, my art is very,

00:46:53.260 --> 00:46:56.480
it spans a wide range here. I'm gonna show you

00:46:56.480 --> 00:47:00.079
a photo of the abundance that I created for Miami.

00:47:00.360 --> 00:47:04.840
Think pink flamingo and glowing fluorescent color.

00:47:04.940 --> 00:47:08.059
So here, this is what I did. I just put it on

00:47:08.059 --> 00:47:14.480
my website, which is Marcy Axelrod Art. Uh here.

00:47:14.679 --> 00:47:16.280
Oh wait, I could go I could go on the website.

00:47:16.400 --> 00:47:20.760
Can I go on that website? Uh here here are Can

00:47:20.760 --> 00:47:24.559
you can you see that? Yes, is it on your website

00:47:24.559 --> 00:47:27.739
though? Yeah, the reflects behind it. So there

00:47:27.739 --> 00:47:30.960
were two of them And they were actually hanging

00:47:30.960 --> 00:47:33.059
from the ceiling. I can't really tell what you're

00:47:33.059 --> 00:47:35.820
seeing and not seeing so no I can't but i'm wondering

00:47:35.820 --> 00:47:43.519
if I could just So is it? It's just Marcy Axelrod

00:47:43.519 --> 00:47:47.559
art. OK, hold on, hold on, hold on. Let's go

00:47:47.559 --> 00:47:49.480
to the website if that's OK with you. Yeah, and

00:47:49.480 --> 00:47:51.920
then this one was also there. This is a large

00:47:51.920 --> 00:47:55.480
piece, full feet. This was also there. I really

00:47:55.480 --> 00:48:01.400
want to see it. We go Marcy. Wait, hold on. I

00:48:01.400 --> 00:48:04.780
really want to go on your website and see it.

00:48:06.559 --> 00:48:12.239
Marcy Axelrod. OK. Yes. Let me share the tab.

00:48:15.019 --> 00:48:19.300
Yes. That's a purple. Yeah. And that, yeah. So

00:48:19.300 --> 00:48:21.159
I'm going to be at the Grand Palais in Paris

00:48:21.159 --> 00:48:24.559
in February at art capital. And then I'll be

00:48:24.559 --> 00:48:30.809
at the Venice Biennale or what me, my art. This

00:48:30.809 --> 00:48:34.170
is so oh my gosh, I love I told you I grew up

00:48:34.170 --> 00:48:36.329
in me and my parents have where we have two art

00:48:36.329 --> 00:48:40.969
galleries left and Look at these pieces. It's

00:48:40.969 --> 00:48:43.510
this purple and blue piece was also in a different

00:48:43.510 --> 00:48:50.469
room at art ball ball And oh, I love this. Oh

00:48:50.469 --> 00:48:55.130
Wow Yeah, if you move your mouse off of the purple

00:48:55.130 --> 00:48:58.869
piece, it'll come back or yeah, it's so pretty

00:48:59.650 --> 00:49:05.269
Oh, I'm loving this. Oh, wow, wow, wow. Is that

00:49:05.269 --> 00:49:08.469
a mirror? It's on a mirror. Yeah, that's a three

00:49:08.469 --> 00:49:11.230
foot round mirror. And I brought that to the

00:49:11.230 --> 00:49:13.429
Boston Affordable Art Fair and I got a whole

00:49:13.429 --> 00:49:15.230
bunch of commissions. Okay, can you do it in

00:49:15.230 --> 00:49:17.050
red, orange and yellow? Can you do it in this?

00:49:17.250 --> 00:49:20.670
So now it's in corporate offices. Now it's in

00:49:20.670 --> 00:49:23.090
a bunch of different places. Not that specific

00:49:23.090 --> 00:49:27.369
piece, but commissions of different colors of

00:49:27.369 --> 00:49:30.090
that piece. Yeah, I would like to see that one

00:49:30.090 --> 00:49:36.349
in real life. Oh wow That that that piece is

00:49:36.349 --> 00:49:39.110
at my house, which is also a gallery so people

00:49:39.110 --> 00:49:44.570
are invited Where are you now? Right now. Oh

00:49:44.570 --> 00:49:46.769
and that piece that's glowing we go back up a

00:49:46.769 --> 00:49:49.050
teeny bit. Yes, the one that's that's shining

00:49:49.050 --> 00:49:54.969
go back It's on the left the clear on no the

00:49:54.969 --> 00:49:59.050
one right below it the clear on black That is

00:49:59.050 --> 00:50:04.449
going to be in the Miami Dade Museum of Art and

00:50:04.449 --> 00:50:06.610
Design. It may be there already. I don't know.

00:50:06.650 --> 00:50:08.650
I sent it off a couple of weeks ago. I don't

00:50:08.650 --> 00:50:11.690
know if it's hung yet. Oh my gosh. The packaging

00:50:11.690 --> 00:50:16.369
of this must be incredible. Look at how sweet

00:50:16.369 --> 00:50:19.630
you look right there. So when you told me, when

00:50:19.630 --> 00:50:22.449
you called me last week and we were talking and

00:50:22.449 --> 00:50:27.289
I had to cancel due to my stupid cough, You were

00:50:27.289 --> 00:50:31.289
saying that it really, so like when did you start

00:50:31.289 --> 00:50:35.170
with your artwork and how long has it been? So

00:50:35.170 --> 00:50:37.889
I've created art my entire life, but I didn't

00:50:37.889 --> 00:50:40.570
do it to sell. I didn't do it to put it out there.

00:50:40.610 --> 00:50:42.630
I just, I just kind of did it and people saw

00:50:42.630 --> 00:50:44.570
it and I would do it for them. And then I would

00:50:44.570 --> 00:50:46.590
get calls from their friends. So I was doing

00:50:46.590 --> 00:50:52.090
commission work on and off for a long time, but

00:50:52.090 --> 00:50:58.199
I'm only June 12th was the Hampton for the Fine

00:50:58.199 --> 00:51:01.360
Arts Hamptons. And that was the first show I

00:51:01.360 --> 00:51:04.480
did. And that was June. That was six months ago.

00:51:05.260 --> 00:51:07.780
So wow. And then I got in from there. I got invited

00:51:07.780 --> 00:51:09.239
to the Boston Affordable Art Fair. From there,

00:51:09.239 --> 00:51:11.780
I got invited to Miami. From there, I got invited

00:51:11.780 --> 00:51:16.980
to Paris and then from the end, Venice. Yeah.

00:51:18.119 --> 00:51:22.360
The artists doors are opening. Wow. Yeah, I don't

00:51:22.360 --> 00:51:25.420
have a word. I don't think it's showing the glowing.

00:51:25.599 --> 00:51:29.599
It's not showing this yet. And I don't know why

00:51:29.599 --> 00:51:34.139
it was supposed to anyway. So this is this is

00:51:34.139 --> 00:51:37.599
the side of the piece that went to Miami. Anyway.

00:51:39.179 --> 00:51:42.219
Absolutely beautiful. And now I want to show

00:51:42.219 --> 00:51:45.300
this to just before we go. I want people to see,

00:51:46.039 --> 00:51:50.000
um, see your, your choose to show up .com site,

00:51:50.320 --> 00:51:53.059
which is really, really interesting. I was, I

00:51:53.059 --> 00:51:55.679
was thinking that we were going to talk about

00:51:55.679 --> 00:51:58.159
art, but I like, because I don't, I don't know

00:51:58.159 --> 00:52:01.280
my guests. I'm like, this is amazing. So, okay.

00:52:01.320 --> 00:52:02.980
So here's the book where you can get the book,

00:52:03.000 --> 00:52:06.420
you guys. I love it. The testimonials, I know

00:52:06.420 --> 00:52:09.079
you've got a lot of them. Oh, you have free download

00:52:09.079 --> 00:52:11.260
show up summary. Oh, let's just look at this.

00:52:11.519 --> 00:52:15.699
This is interesting. Even know that that works.

00:52:16.280 --> 00:52:18.019
Because I'm still working on the summary. And

00:52:18.019 --> 00:52:19.960
I don't remember maybe I did put something up

00:52:19.960 --> 00:52:23.739
there. I don't remember. Yeah, I spend as little

00:52:23.739 --> 00:52:26.659
time online as possible. And, you know, that's

00:52:26.659 --> 00:52:29.380
just me. I choose to show up to the moments of

00:52:29.380 --> 00:52:30.840
my life a little bit differently. I don't like

00:52:30.840 --> 00:52:34.179
to be online. I don't like to post. I have easily

00:52:34.179 --> 00:52:37.559
50 podcasts and, you know, incredible reviews

00:52:37.559 --> 00:52:40.780
and comments from people that I don't post any

00:52:40.780 --> 00:52:45.500
of it. Someone may convince me that they should

00:52:45.500 --> 00:52:48.469
just get it done for me at some point. all year.

00:52:48.630 --> 00:52:50.710
None of it's been put up because it's not who

00:52:50.710 --> 00:52:53.570
I am. I'm not seeking, I'm not seeking fame.

00:52:53.650 --> 00:52:55.190
I'm seeking to make the world a better place.

00:52:55.510 --> 00:52:58.010
So anyway, the website is probably extremely

00:52:58.010 --> 00:53:02.530
dated because I don't look at it. It's just how

00:53:02.530 --> 00:53:06.130
it's fine. No, it's just, it's people just want

00:53:06.130 --> 00:53:09.230
to get an idea of who you are. So that's great.

00:53:11.010 --> 00:53:14.469
On your game. You didn't mention this book. This

00:53:14.469 --> 00:53:17.000
is great. So on your game. Can you just give

00:53:17.000 --> 00:53:20.300
us a little synopsis of? Yeah, so online game

00:53:20.300 --> 00:53:25.099
was really my training wheels book. I wrote that

00:53:25.099 --> 00:53:30.559
I came out, I think, in 2016 or 28 around there,

00:53:30.699 --> 00:53:33.239
maybe 2018. And then how we show up came out.

00:53:34.780 --> 00:53:36.519
Anyway, it doesn't matter when they came out,

00:53:36.519 --> 00:53:38.760
but it was a few years prior as the first book

00:53:38.760 --> 00:53:41.360
that I wrote. And, you know, some sometimes you

00:53:41.360 --> 00:53:43.320
have to write five books. And then the sixth

00:53:43.320 --> 00:53:45.360
book is the one you were really designed to write.

00:53:45.400 --> 00:53:50.800
I think I think this is definitely a book that

00:53:50.800 --> 00:53:54.239
is designed to help meet the world where we are

00:53:54.239 --> 00:54:00.119
now. People are living at a level of consciousness

00:54:00.119 --> 00:54:02.300
that I believe is substantially below the level

00:54:02.300 --> 00:54:04.760
of consciousness that we're designed to live

00:54:04.760 --> 00:54:08.519
at. And I think that without using those words

00:54:08.519 --> 00:54:11.179
and that phrasing, the ideas that are in the

00:54:11.179 --> 00:54:17.500
book about we are impacting each other at every

00:54:17.500 --> 00:54:22.420
moment. We are interwoven energies. We change

00:54:22.420 --> 00:54:24.840
each other. I mean, we inherently know this.

00:54:24.960 --> 00:54:28.320
I mean, you see someone who's elated and filled

00:54:28.320 --> 00:54:31.360
with joy and you are uplifted. Like, we know

00:54:31.360 --> 00:54:35.340
this. You see someone who's just dour and hurt

00:54:35.340 --> 00:54:38.599
and living in shame and your whole body shifts.

00:54:38.619 --> 00:54:42.639
Like, we know these things. And yet we aren't

00:54:42.639 --> 00:54:46.199
living day to day in a way that makes us accountable

00:54:46.199 --> 00:54:50.519
for how we are changing those around us necessarily.

00:54:50.840 --> 00:54:54.139
I mean, some people are, and that's great. But

00:54:54.139 --> 00:54:56.360
there's a whole lexicon of showing up that when

00:54:56.360 --> 00:54:59.059
you understand it's like, this is exactly how

00:54:59.059 --> 00:55:04.360
the world works. This makes sense. And the beliefs

00:55:04.360 --> 00:55:08.280
are... they change behaviors without effort,

00:55:08.420 --> 00:55:10.400
right? There are a lot of people, especially

00:55:10.400 --> 00:55:12.719
this time of year, they wanna change certain

00:55:12.719 --> 00:55:18.960
behaviors in certain ways. Having a behavioral

00:55:18.960 --> 00:55:21.400
approach to behavior change doesn't work. Look

00:55:21.400 --> 00:55:24.679
at your underlying belief and start with the

00:55:24.679 --> 00:55:28.119
basic thing. How does the world work? What am

00:55:28.119 --> 00:55:32.400
I doing here? And then the change in your behavior

00:55:32.400 --> 00:55:35.440
will just naturally flow. Why? Because you'll

00:55:35.440 --> 00:55:37.400
see the world differently, think differently.

00:55:38.619 --> 00:55:41.500
That's my recommendation. So resolutions aren't

00:55:41.500 --> 00:55:45.000
really the way to go. Look at your beliefs and

00:55:45.000 --> 00:55:48.420
who you are, and you will start to flow differently,

00:55:48.639 --> 00:55:53.500
more in line with who you want to be. Marcy,

00:55:53.820 --> 00:55:56.980
so it's so interesting to me, because I actually

00:55:56.980 --> 00:56:00.280
really needed this conversation. And I don't

00:56:00.280 --> 00:56:01.820
do New Year's resolution, but I did a couple

00:56:01.820 --> 00:56:04.400
years ago. No excuses. I didn't want to be the

00:56:04.400 --> 00:56:07.119
person to show up and give everyone an excuse.

00:56:07.340 --> 00:56:09.699
Like, I just, it just never felt good. Like,

00:56:09.860 --> 00:56:12.199
oh my God, I'm this, this, this, this. And I,

00:56:12.360 --> 00:56:14.820
the other day I ended up saying, I went against

00:56:14.820 --> 00:56:18.059
my own, and I'm like, oh, I was questioned on

00:56:18.059 --> 00:56:21.400
how I was acting. And I was like, oh, I'm not

00:56:21.400 --> 00:56:22.940
feeling that great. And then I was like, I'm

00:56:22.940 --> 00:56:24.820
mad at myself. I'm like, oh my God, what? Like,

00:56:24.860 --> 00:56:28.079
no, Adrienne, no excuses. Like, you know, you

00:56:28.079 --> 00:56:30.539
are who you are. But on the other hand, I'm a

00:56:30.539 --> 00:56:33.440
mother, so thank you for reminding me of what's

00:56:33.440 --> 00:56:36.239
important. But I actually have been questioning

00:56:36.239 --> 00:56:39.300
the way I've been showing it. Just for the last

00:56:39.300 --> 00:56:42.219
24 hours, am I showing up too positive? Am I

00:56:42.219 --> 00:56:45.480
being annoying? I remember at the workplace,

00:56:45.599 --> 00:56:47.820
the family business, we had an employee who was

00:56:47.820 --> 00:56:50.820
always like Tigger, always so happy, always bouncing.

00:56:51.219 --> 00:56:53.420
And it was shocking. And I loved it. And it was

00:56:53.420 --> 00:56:55.119
shocking to me how many people had something

00:56:55.119 --> 00:56:57.860
negative to say about her. Oh, there she's always

00:56:57.860 --> 00:57:00.619
so happy. And it got me like thinking, oh my

00:57:00.619 --> 00:57:02.539
God, are we not allowed to be happy? Like, what

00:57:02.539 --> 00:57:06.139
does that look like? Why? I never studied like

00:57:06.139 --> 00:57:09.760
you have, but I was actually questioning myself.

00:57:10.440 --> 00:57:13.219
and how I show up. And you know what? I'm not

00:57:13.219 --> 00:57:15.300
going to do that anymore. I'm so glad that you

00:57:15.300 --> 00:57:17.760
were here today to help me to know there's nothing

00:57:17.760 --> 00:57:21.780
wrong with my being positive and showing up and

00:57:21.780 --> 00:57:24.019
wanting to make others feel good about themselves

00:57:24.019 --> 00:57:27.079
too and putting that together. And even though

00:57:27.420 --> 00:57:30.099
I'm not going to be liked by everyone. Thank

00:57:30.099 --> 00:57:32.159
you for giving me the courage to say, you know

00:57:32.159 --> 00:57:34.920
what, it is a context for. And that's how I play

00:57:34.920 --> 00:57:37.800
this game. And it's just who I am. I mean, you

00:57:37.800 --> 00:57:39.639
could take me on the worst day, and I'm still

00:57:39.639 --> 00:57:41.760
going to find something beautiful about that

00:57:41.760 --> 00:57:44.679
day, beautiful about people. You know, my son

00:57:44.679 --> 00:57:46.679
questioned me one day. He said, Mom, you're always

00:57:46.679 --> 00:57:48.480
telling people that they're beautiful. And you

00:57:48.480 --> 00:57:50.880
can't mean it. Not everyone is. And I was like,

00:57:51.199 --> 00:57:54.320
Sam, are you kidding me? There is so much beauty.

00:57:54.619 --> 00:57:58.119
I mean, your smile just gives me like it's like

00:57:58.119 --> 00:58:00.579
oh i can't explain it i just want i have to be

00:58:00.579 --> 00:58:03.519
like a kid and clap when i see your smile so

00:58:03.519 --> 00:58:07.400
no sam i'm i'm this is who i am your mom just

00:58:07.400 --> 00:58:10.119
happens to be someone who just is very positive

00:58:10.119 --> 00:58:13.400
and because of marcy i'm going to continue to

00:58:13.400 --> 00:58:17.179
show up positive and not let some of the negative

00:58:17.179 --> 00:58:20.619
thoughts that can tend to like swirl and they

00:58:20.619 --> 00:58:23.820
have been for 24 hours And then you come into

00:58:23.820 --> 00:58:26.840
the show. So amazing. Amazing. And thank you

00:58:26.840 --> 00:58:29.679
so much. We spent an hour together. I loved every

00:58:29.679 --> 00:58:32.539
minute of it. I'm so excited that you called

00:58:32.539 --> 00:58:35.119
me and understood that I wasn't feeling well

00:58:35.119 --> 00:58:38.420
last week, and I feel so much better. And that's

00:58:38.420 --> 00:58:40.039
another thing, you know, going through when you're

00:58:40.039 --> 00:58:42.619
an illness. like how you show up when you're

00:58:42.619 --> 00:58:45.380
sick. That's a whole other discussion. I'm going

00:58:45.380 --> 00:58:48.019
to order your book. And do you want us to order

00:58:48.019 --> 00:58:51.480
it through your website or through Amazon? What

00:58:51.480 --> 00:58:52.739
is best for you? It doesn't matter. It's the

00:58:52.739 --> 00:58:54.619
same thing. You go to my website. It goes straight

00:58:54.619 --> 00:58:59.139
to Amazon. Yeah. Yeah. If it's OK, may I comment

00:58:59.139 --> 00:59:04.019
on something you said? I'm wondering if showing

00:59:04.019 --> 00:59:07.769
up as Tigger each day might be a negative. A

00:59:07.769 --> 00:59:13.570
big part of truly showing up to others is asking,

00:59:14.650 --> 00:59:18.670
how is it for you when I do this? Or how was

00:59:18.670 --> 00:59:20.829
that for you if someone mentioned something?

00:59:21.449 --> 00:59:25.809
There is always a curiosity that is really authentic.

00:59:26.050 --> 00:59:29.710
How is it for you? when I'm so positive every

00:59:29.710 --> 00:59:33.010
day, or even like right now, because what you

00:59:33.010 --> 00:59:34.710
want to be is open. And we didn't talk about

00:59:34.710 --> 00:59:36.510
the hemispheres of the brain, that'll be for

00:59:36.510 --> 00:59:41.190
another show, but it's a very big deal which

00:59:41.190 --> 00:59:45.389
mode of attending you're showing up in, because

00:59:45.389 --> 00:59:48.690
the left hemisphere get it done mode will only

00:59:48.690 --> 00:59:52.130
let you just show up, which is that kind of mechanical

00:59:52.130 --> 00:59:58.190
human doing sleep walk through life mode. while

00:59:58.190 --> 01:00:01.590
what you really want to do in your joy and in

01:00:01.590 --> 01:00:05.630
everything else is to sense the environment around

01:00:05.630 --> 01:00:11.670
you, sense what the group of humans are, how

01:00:11.670 --> 01:00:15.550
they're responding. And simply, if maybe you're

01:00:15.550 --> 01:00:18.610
not sure if it's too much energy, you can just

01:00:18.610 --> 01:00:20.929
say, hey, how is it for you that I just kind

01:00:20.929 --> 01:00:24.369
of walk in with all this joy? Because maybe they'll

01:00:24.369 --> 01:00:30.179
say like, I need a little bit less today. No,

01:00:30.260 --> 01:00:33.739
thank you for that. That is great advice, actually.

01:00:34.179 --> 01:00:37.239
I should do that more. I think I really like

01:00:37.239 --> 01:00:40.000
that idea because I want to be thoughtful because

01:00:40.000 --> 01:00:42.800
I've witnessed how people don't always like Tigger.

01:00:44.460 --> 01:00:48.099
I'm a ticker girl. So thank you so much. Is there

01:00:48.099 --> 01:00:49.860
anything, anything that I missed that you did

01:00:49.860 --> 01:00:53.019
want to share today that I didn't ask the question?

01:00:53.900 --> 01:00:56.039
I would just like to leave, I shouldn't say just,

01:00:56.139 --> 01:00:59.920
what I'd like to leave people with is know that

01:00:59.920 --> 01:01:02.719
you're showing up at every moment and that you're

01:01:02.719 --> 01:01:06.019
changing the world. So choose how you're showing

01:01:06.019 --> 01:01:10.219
up. And if you want something to go and do, take

01:01:10.219 --> 01:01:12.980
out a piece of paper. and a pen and write down

01:01:12.980 --> 01:01:16.699
what you believe about how the world works. Is

01:01:16.699 --> 01:01:19.940
it self -reflective? Is it positive? Are we here

01:01:19.940 --> 01:01:23.059
to help others or are we here to be competitive

01:01:23.059 --> 01:01:26.260
and acquire stuff? Like, which is it, right?

01:01:26.320 --> 01:01:28.179
Do we really need stuff? Do we need to believe

01:01:28.179 --> 01:01:31.699
the lies of society that success looks like this

01:01:31.699 --> 01:01:36.179
instead of like that? Okay, I can do that homework.

01:01:37.179 --> 01:01:39.400
That is really great. Thank you so much. And

01:01:39.400 --> 01:01:41.239
thank you Consuela for being in the room and

01:01:41.239 --> 01:01:43.599
Joseph, I really appreciate it. I know there's

01:01:43.599 --> 01:01:46.260
other rooms out there. So thank you so much.

01:01:46.460 --> 01:01:49.300
Marcy, Marcy, you're also just a very, very beautiful

01:01:49.300 --> 01:01:53.639
woman. So thank you. I really am so glad that

01:01:53.639 --> 01:01:57.840
we connected. So, yes, I want to get on your

01:01:57.840 --> 01:02:01.199
email list so I know where your shows are. Is

01:02:01.199 --> 01:02:03.579
there a place to sign up? How does that work?

01:02:03.840 --> 01:02:05.800
There is. There is. There's a way to contact

01:02:05.800 --> 01:02:08.119
me and there's a way to join the email list,

01:02:08.159 --> 01:02:09.840
although I can't say I've ever sent an email.

01:02:18.090 --> 01:02:19.929
or the next show. I just want to stay up to date

01:02:19.929 --> 01:02:21.570
with what you're doing, so that's great, but

01:02:21.570 --> 01:02:24.369
I will, I can follow you. So, I mean, wait, are

01:02:24.369 --> 01:02:28.090
you on any social media platforms? Yeah, maybe

01:02:28.090 --> 01:02:30.030
once a month I discipline myself to spend five

01:02:30.030 --> 01:02:33.210
minutes and I click photos. I love it. Yeah,

01:02:34.530 --> 01:02:36.730
I love it. Think of me, think of me. So thank

01:02:36.730 --> 01:02:39.289
you, thank you for all the art. I loved it. I

01:02:39.289 --> 01:02:42.329
love your pieces are absolutely beautiful and

01:02:42.329 --> 01:02:45.789
and have a great holiday season. Enjoy your holiday

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and and this will be produced maybe next year

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or maybe before next year. I love this time of

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year. I love love love even as a kid. See you

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next year. Oh. I would giggle just like a little.

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It's so cute. See you next year. I love it. All

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right, Marcy, thank you so much for your time

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and being bold and brave and beautiful. And I

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will end the live stream. And that was fantastic.