Life in Bloom: How Executive Coach Debbie Longo Helps Businesses Thrive from the Inside Out

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recording. Hi, everyone. Oh, Debbie was asking

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me questions. So Debbie, yes, we're going live

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right now. You look great. We are going to have

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a recording. This will be turned into a podcast.

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Debbie, thank you for rescheduling so quickly

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and so lovely. That's nice of you. Sometimes

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things happen. So I really appreciate your thanks.

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Sure. Of course. And I just want to say you're

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brave, you're bold, you're beautiful, not easy

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to go live, because I can't do any editing if

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you slip and say the wrong word. That's on you.

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I guess I could delete it right away. I get it.

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Okay, so we are live. So who do I have in front

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of me? Debbie Longo, which by the way, I just

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love your name. Am I pronouncing it right? Yes.

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I love it. Debbie, who are you? We need to know.

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You have to introduce yourself because I have

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no clue who you are. Right. So I'm an executive

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behavioral coach and I focus on helping business

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owners and small business owners, managers, executives,

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help to increase sales and profits. Okay. And

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how I do that is a hundred different ways. But

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really to sum it up is I help the team. and the

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executive change their behavior. And when that

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happens, there's a lot of things that can happen.

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So I feel that what's the issue is what's happening

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inside the company, okay? Not the fact that there's

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a recession. So therefore, my business went bankrupt.

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Okay, when I do that, I'm focusing on what's

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outside of me and I'm using that as a reason

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or an excuse, right? Call it what you want, okay?

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To justify whatever is going down. In my business

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right or you know, I didn't make a profit this

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year So I had a higher fire a whole bunch of

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people and now I'm not going to make a profit

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the next year because I don't have enough people

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now Okay, so you could call it poor managing,

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right? It doesn't matter what you call it, but

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the point is that if I change the person and

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I changed their behavior, right? And that, like

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I said, that happens a hundred different ways,

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which obviously we're not gonna get into in a,

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you know, a podcast, but the point is that when

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I do these things, right, this will increase

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sales and profits. And not only that, it carries

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to my home, it carries to my family. To my neighbor

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when I'm driving in the car when I'm in the store

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Okay, and also I've been a life coach for a very

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long time over 25 years So and I've been doing

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this type of work helping all kinds of people

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right executives and families and do all kinds

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of things So I'm gonna be starting a podcast

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life coach for anybody. Okay, so we're gonna

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combine it life coach and business coach and

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to me that's very important because i'm trying

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to help you know as many people as i can and

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it's going to be a free podcast anybody could

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go on you know there's like a six question survey

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or whatever but you know i don't i don't want

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to turn this into a sales thing but the point

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is that um i really want to help people And I

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want businesses to succeed and I know any business

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can succeed way over what their dreams are. I

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love that. I could see life coach for humans.

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If you haven't already created your artwork,

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then for anybody, I like humans better. I think

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it makes it fun. Cause when you said, I'm like,

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well, like you're not going to do life coach

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my dog or my gecko. But, um, but I want to say

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this. So Debbie, I love what you do because this

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is so interesting. Uh, in October 14 and 15th,

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I have a two day SWAT summit. I'm bringing back

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the SWAT and I have a new like podcast myself

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coming out SWAT and order. And my. A lot of my

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community is on chatter social. Chatter social

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is an interactive audio, video platform that

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allows us to do something like this where we

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stream. So we're going to be streaming from StreamYard

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and chatter social. And I'm very excited. And

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there's just a lot of people are on it. And if

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you like, if you know, if you follow Grant Cardone

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or Cindy Stumple, you've got some amazing leaders.

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that are on this app and teaching other people.

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So you would be amazing. But the reason why I'm

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bringing this up is going back to the swap, strength,

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weaknesses, opportunities and threats. A lot

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of people don't even think about that as a threat.

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Of course, it's a weakness, right? But you could

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turn it into an opportunity. And I love this

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because I think that when you are in the situation

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where things are trickling down from the top,

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you don't even realize that you're in a toxic

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workforce, and you're right. And you're now just

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waking up and getting out of bed, stumble out

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of bed, pour myself like a pot of coffee, pour

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it over my head, because I got to go to work

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now, where everyone is miserable and unhappy.

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And I probably won't even get anything done.

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I'm not even gonna like, I could see where people

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will need you. So I have a committee that is

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picking the speakers, but I definitely would

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like to add you. And if you're interested, please

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go on chatter social. It's chatter social. Let

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me put it into the thing because chatter social

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has very much feels like an Instagram. By the

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way, I'm not, I don't get paid or anything like

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that. I just love helping people too. And I know

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that. when you're on an app like ChatterSocial,

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just it can change your life. It changed my life,

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like amazing. I am actually now just to brag

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for a second, we just launched on Tuesday yesterday,

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our true crime, debate the news true crime edition,

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because I am a co -host. We do true crime. We

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have 40 episodes. We've already done since March,

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we recorded two and we record them live. So there's

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an audience. So you could do your podcast interview,

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but you could record it live on ChatterSocial

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where people can, it's not like a TikTok, it's

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a little different. People can ask you the question.

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So because this is huge, I also can see you doing

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a hundred, like you use that number a hundred

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ways. And maybe you should do a hundred days

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of because, and just teach one point a day. Wouldn't

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that be awesome? So I love what you do. So we're

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going to share your computer. I mean, I'm not

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sharing your computer. I'm going to share your

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website. First of all, 25 years you are a life

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coach. You know what's crazy Debbie is that I

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wish that I knew about life coaching when 25

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years ago I would have been 63 so do the math

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so in my late 30s and 40s, I needed a life coach.

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I didn't even know the term. So for those of

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you that are in the younger generation and you've

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got access to life coaches, my gosh. And look

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at Debbie, cause now you're getting your work.

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And I love when you said that in the car, in

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the store, cause I think a lot of people would

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be like, well, what does she mean? No, carry

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that, carry, carry yourself, right? Carry the

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behavior that you want to see in others. Is that

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what you're saying? It'll automatically happen.

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It's not something that you have to you have

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to try to in the beginning You know to to do

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the coaching and you know what I teach and everything

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You know the plan the outline but it once we

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do that it'll automatically happen because what

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I do at work carries to my home No matter what

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it is negative or positive people don't even

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realize that but eventually that's what happens

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And if you are having troubles at work, right,

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you're going to just bring home the frustrations.

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And so how was your day? And then it's going

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to be, ah, you're going to kind of like throw

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up on that person, all the negative things. And

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then that leads to a negative evening, which

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is going to lead to a negative morning the next

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morning. So I love this. I love websites like

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this that are very clear. So book a strategy

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call right there. Cannot miss it, you guys. And

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book this. Is it a, let's see how long is it?

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Oh, you don't tell us. It's the small contact

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form. That's all it is. Is it 30 minutes? Oh,

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the strategy call? Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's probably

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around 30 minutes. Yeah, maximum. I just wonder

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why people do strategy calls for like 10 minutes.

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I'm like, what? No. I need to know. a little

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bit of information so it could be between 15

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and 30 minutes. It depends on the person, the

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situation, you know, how I'm going to get the

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information because I need to know a certain

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amount in order for me to make and outline a

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plan, you know, a general one and then that way

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we could talk about exactly how we're going to

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do it, the sessions, different things because

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I do group. I do a lot of stuff. I can do one

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on one. So that's all included. I have packages

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there. But I mean, you know, the packages, yeah,

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the packages are just general because it really

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is tailor made to the company, to the client,

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you know, whatever, because it could be a million

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different situations. I'm not selling, you know,

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a pair of sneakers, you know, where, right, where

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you like the sneakers and you go online and,

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you know, you like the brand, then you buy it.

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You know, that's not what this is. So it's a

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lot more detailed than that. So that's why there's

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a lot of information on that website. There might

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be too much TMI, but I've been working on that

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website for a while. So, I mean, you know, it's

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really the call and for me to talk to somebody

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would really be the best way to do it. You know,

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it's funny. There's all you know funnels funnels

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packages packages links links You have a lot

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of links to link you back to the about I I don't

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know how I feel about all of that because I just

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like first of all I love that what you just said

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about like we have to tailor packages to people

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you can't just and you know I don't think you'd

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want like I wouldn't necessarily want to work

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with someone who's just got the solid package

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and no where does it say that I can Taylor it

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because maybe there's a couple pieces. I don't

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know. Maybe maybe you're offering something and

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I'm like, I don't really need marketing and branding.

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It's in my blood. So what else, you know what

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I mean? Like there's no, there's the menus get

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confusing. So I love what you said. Just like,

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let's, let's meet and figure out what you need.

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Not what I can sell to you. So I love that. So

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awesome. I just love everything about this. Yeah.

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So the thing is, most people are specific on

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one thing, you know, or they sell a product,

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you know, like websites or marketing or whatever.

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But I don't do that because I have so much experience

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in all different things, people, situations.

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So I could make anything, anything. And everybody

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has a personality, a behavior, like you said,

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a human, you know, I could say human, you know,

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that would be that's a great suggestion, you

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know, because I mean, dogs really, I mean, they

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have their own personality, but, you know, it's

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not that big of a deal. You know, you just said

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dogs. Wait, what is this? What is this all dog

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going by? That's hysterical. I play it. Yeah.

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So guys, I'm on. I'm on Debbie Longos. If you're

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listening and you are not following us live,

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I'm on Debbie's podcast. And so let me make sure

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that you can see this. Okay, hold on, hold on,

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hold on. It looks fun to hold on. I'm going to

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go back to where's your LinkedIn. Okay, nope.

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Nope. Nope. Wrong. Wrong one. Here we go. This

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one right here. Let me make it larger. Let me

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go. And I have to mute this. I know I don't have

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to mute this. Okay, hold on. And then he said,

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who's a good boy? I was like, obviously me. Dude,

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classic. They always ask the obvious questions.

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And then he said, who's a good boy? Oh my God,

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I can watch that for days. The worst, the worst.

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I love it. I love it. Debbie, that just made

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my whole day. Wait, how do I go down there? Is

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that hysterical? Oh my God, it's awesome. It's

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awesome. Okay, hold on. I got it. Let me go back

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it up. That is so much fun. So I was looking

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at Debbie. You guys know me, right? I got to

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go to the LinkedIn. Debbie, you have a, so you

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already have a podcast conversations that shift.

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Um, I have behavioral profit, which has about

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25 episodes. The conversations that shift is

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going to be the new podcast that life coach for

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anybody. And that's why I put that because I'm

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going to promote it. I have to share with you.

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And if you're interested in this, I have $50

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off. So for $200, we have a, I'm the chief marketing

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officer. So I don't mean to make it, but I will

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just share with you that, and my book is coming

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out September 15th. You can turn those podcasts

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into a book, let that be your foundation, your

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manuscript for $200. You can pick 15 episodes.

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The book, it writes it's so beautiful. It has

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over 600 hours of developing work. So it's like

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a masterpiece. And then you have like the rest

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of the stuff that you do. But if you ever thought

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of doing a book, you've already got it written.

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So just wanted to tell you that I was actually

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planning on doing that, believe it or not. Oh

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my God. So if you do it with a pod to book our

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company, you'll see how easy it is. But we could

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do a chapter. So if you want to send me and just

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say this, if you want to send me an RSS feed

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of your favorite chapter, I will do a book. I

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will do a chapter for you. We offer free previews,

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but it's not that big. Let me do a full chapter

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so you can see what it looks like. Yes, and that's

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me. Okay. So now Debbie's got this Debbie. We

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need to get you I'm just I'm going in for a second.

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Let's get life in bloom. Let's crab you create

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your company page right here, right? You need

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your gonna make up. Yeah, I'm gonna make a web

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page a you know, a landing page. Yep, you know

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how to do it. Go right here to the nine dots

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and create a company page. Oh It'll take, you

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know, right here, yeah, create your company page.

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You see this up here, create a company page.

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When you click that and put in your company name,

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you may need to claim it. If not, you go like

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that company and then boom, it'll literally will

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take you like not even 10 minutes. And then that

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way you're going to go back here and you're going

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to add it and it'll pop right up into your life

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in bloom. And then you could add like a sub of

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your thing. And one other thing, Debbie, You're

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about sucks. You are way more than three sentences,

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not even full sentences. You have a lot to offer.

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At the very least, take your about, put it into

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first person and put it here because you're losing

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out on so much SEO. This is actually 2 ,500 characters.

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So you're like using nothing of them. So and

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then also right here, I love that you have more

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information than also your life in blue and add

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more information Okay, sorry guys. Just wanted

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to say that also I think this could be more colorful

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and correct otherwise I Debbie you're in Port

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Orange Yes, I just moved here Florida do I'm

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in Daytona Beach. I totally know very cool I'm

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right on the border. No. Well, I don't want to

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say my address, but yeah, I'm off of Clyde Morris,

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um, Orman Beach side. So I'm like, what was that?

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You're right around the corner. I know, I know

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guys, we, everyone, we were doing a match. This

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is a match made in heaven. Debbie Longo, we're

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so close. We're close. Yep. Clyde Morris is right

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here. I like the Joy Luck buffet. I'm just going

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to say it is a buffet I love. What is it called?

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The Joy Luck Buffet. If you like buffets, we

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don't have a lot in our area. We literally don't,

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like there's a couple, there's like Indian buffet

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and another Asian buffet, but the Joy Luck Buffet

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is delicious. Oh, actually that's right on my

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corner. That's my public. If you haven't gone

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there, it's nice. No, I never went. It's good

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though. Oh my gosh. I heard. And if you have

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any questions for me regarding places, welcome.

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Where did you move from? What state? New York,

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Long Island. I'm a Connecticut girl. My mom was

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Long Island. That's funny. This is really familiar

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to me too. I was like, Debbie Longo, that's so

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funny. Are you going to, which I would recommend,

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I'm not a member, but the poor orange chamber,

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I am a, I did go through poor orange leadership

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program. And I will tell you, I recommend the

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chamber leadership programs. And when you move

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to a new community, because I know like you can

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work with anyone anywhere. And that's the beauty

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of a life coach and behavioral coach. On the

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other hand, meeting those local connections,

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are really wonderful and they'll sustain you

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too, just in meeting new friends. And when I

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was younger, I always recommend it for people

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that are a little younger or have kids in school

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because it's one way to meet the principals and

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the superintendent. I did go to one meeting because

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she invited me as a guest. I wasn't really sure.

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I'm still actually thinking about it. The meeting

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was like a few weeks ago, but I'm not really

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sure if it's something that is really going to

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Follow the website, follow the Facebook page,

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go to a couple more meetings. You should be able

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to go to as many meetings as you want. You're

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just paying the non -member fee and don't bite

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until you actually are ready to eat because also

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you don't want to, like that's one thing that

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people waste money and that is always a threat.

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how much memberships are you are you belong to

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that you're not even utilizing right and wasting

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money and or the people these and I love this

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and behavior so let's ask this question I see

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it all the time really employees that are networking

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wrong because they only have one goal. And that's

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to bring back leads to their sales manager that

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is saying to them, go to that chamber meeting

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and bring me as many leads as you can. And now

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they're there. And instead of making and building

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relationships, they're like, can I have your

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business card? And they're like walking away.

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And they're like literally And especially if

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they're young and not like have the wisdom, so

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how would you address that? And I'm sure, can

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you share like where you've seen that in action

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where the manager, the leader is just making

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a, you know, making it very difficult for the

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salesperson to have to create relationships,

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time, rush, rush, rush. You met them on Monday.

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Do you have the order yet? Like that kind of

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thing. Right. Well, the thing is I noticed that

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when I go into a store. And that's a very common

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thing. But if you're talking about somebody coming

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to me or asking for help or whatever, that would

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have to be part of what our... solution would

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be and what our end result would be. So if they

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have a problem, I just say the opposite. So if

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they say I have negativity that I want to get

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rid of, I say we're going to turn that into positive.

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So they say if I'm controlling my employees like

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you were talking about, right? if they're rushing

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a lot, then I would say we're not gonna focus

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on not controlling. appreciating you know the

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employees more which there's a hundred ways to

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do this and we're not going to rush we're going

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to be calm we could do breathing did you ever

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do a breathing meditation or just breathing i

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teach that you could do it right in the middle

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of work you take deep breaths you breathe in

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through your in through your solar plexus right

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which is your gut and then you breathe out through

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your nose so you go long breath and then you

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could do that three times you could do it while

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you're working anytime like you could like you

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know run in the back and You know so as soon

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as I get stressed out if I do that You know what

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that does is that changes the level of my energy

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at that time? Because if I'm stuck in that rut

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whether it's controlling or going fast or whatever

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That's good. I can't get out of that because

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I'm doing the same thing over and over it's like

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a big circle So I need something to get get out

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of that mindset to get out of that level of energy

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So the so the breathing is easy because you can

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do that anytime but I mean there's more to it

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than that but we want to try to totally want

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to get rid of it, right? You have to remember

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to breathe like it's so funny. I hear you say

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that and my daughter was just saying that to

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me like mom you need to learn to breathe and

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I'm like but then I have to remember and then

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as you were talking it hit me like giving like

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a band like I could see you doing something that

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people would have to remind them to breathe like

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on their computer a sticker breathe or a little

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frame that says don't forget to breathe because

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I I could see That that's probably if you if

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you did a little focus group. What's that? I

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mean the easiest and simplest and freest thing

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to do And yet in the midst of being so upset,

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you gotta remember, wait, I just gotta take a

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second to breathe, excuse me. So I love that.

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So I think you're teaching that and training

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yourself so it becomes more natural is huge and

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simple. Give us a story with no names, but give

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us a story of, I wanna hear the most toxic. Culture

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that you've ever witnessed in real life. That's

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not a that's not a lifetime movie network. That's

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real real the manager. and the executives whoever

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they are you know the owners of the company the

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highest up you can possibly go are completely

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controlling the employees 100 % and the employees

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are so unhappy that they wake up in the morning

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and they literally dread to go to work okay like

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they're gonna go there and meet like you know

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the devil. You know, they hate it. He's controlling

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them because he's telling them when they can

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he's not following the job duties at all. He's

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not following the contract that they that they

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signed when they first work there when they first

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started working there. He's controlling when

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they come to work when they leave right when

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they eat lunch so he's changing it every single

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day. So it's not like you know you go to lunch

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at 12 o 'clock some days it's 12 right. Some

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days it's one so you know they get into work

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and they don't they have no idea You know what's

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gonna happen that day? That's just one thing

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right? There's a lot of things so he's controlling

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what people say Okay, and when they say it so

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some of the business was like a phone business

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like a kind of like a call center kind of thing

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right and So then They wouldn't necessarily follow

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the script. Okay. So it's difficult for them

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to really learn anything. Okay. So when you do

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something like that. What happens is, well, the

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big thing is that you're burning out the employees

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and the employees dread to go to work because

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they have no system, right? There's nothing that's

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regimented, right? And the manager or the business

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owner just goes on a whim and says, you know,

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today we're going to do this. Today you're going

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to go to lunch here and he's constantly changing

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it as the days go on. And then what happens?

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People are popping. And they're just quitting

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they get burnt out. They have to go to work because

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they need a paycheck, okay? And you know, they

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have bills, right? They have mortgages to pay,

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you know what I mean? They have to buy food so

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they can't now they can't quit until they find

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another job. Okay, they can't go without a paycheck

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for weeks and weeks and weeks. So they suffer

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through this. But now the company is losing a

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lot of money, not only because people are quitting,

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right? First of all, they're losing money because

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this guy is so controlling that he's changing

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everything every five seconds. That's the first

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thing. The second thing is that when people quit

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a lot of people, right, especially within a short

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period of time, the company's going to lose money

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because they don't have enough employees to run

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their business. Doesn't matter what kind of business

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it is. And then they have to hire new people

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and then they're spending more money on training.

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And that's a waste of money because in two months

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the person's going to leave again. And then they

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have to hire more people and then they're going

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to spend more money on training. And that's a

00:25:16.809 --> 00:25:21.009
cycle. But the manager needs to know how to get

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rid of that. And like what you said, when you

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brush your teeth in the morning, Do you think

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about it? I just wake up and I brush my teeth.

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I don't think about it. That's how this has to

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be. It's an unconscious thing, right? Where I'm

00:25:35.160 --> 00:25:39.039
so used to it, I do it automatically, whether

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it's the breathing or whatever. And that can

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happen. It sounds like it might not. you know,

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it sounds like it's a lot, you know, what I mean,

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especially if somebody's really that far away

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from this, but that's not true. It can happen

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because I know how to teach that person. And

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a lot of times it doesn't take that long. So,

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so if you're listening, you're like, no way,

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nobody's that controlling at work. First of all,

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I just want to address one of the things oftentimes

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these are companies that pay very well. They

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pay very well because they believe that I'm paying

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you well enough that you need to take my call

00:26:15.609 --> 00:26:20.289
at 10pm. You need to follow what I say. Why are

00:26:20.289 --> 00:26:22.509
you caring about a schedule? I'm paying you well.

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It's like at the end of the day, this is what

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I believe and I have 35 years in the business

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and growing up in a family business. I really,

00:26:30.869 --> 00:26:34.049
from what I've witnessed, that is really clearly.

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because that's where you get caught, right? If

00:26:36.700 --> 00:26:40.099
you're not paid very well, then there's really

00:26:40.099 --> 00:26:42.460
nothing you say, okay, I'm gonna do it for a

00:26:42.460 --> 00:26:44.279
couple of weeks, you say to your family, I've

00:26:44.279 --> 00:26:46.680
got, you know, I've got Indeed and I've got LinkedIn,

00:26:47.079 --> 00:26:48.500
you know what I mean? I've got a career coach

00:26:48.500 --> 00:26:50.759
helping me. I'm going to get out of here, but

00:26:50.759 --> 00:26:53.299
when you're paid really well, then it's different.

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Honey, I know it's driving me crazy. I know I'm

00:26:55.619 --> 00:26:57.359
coming home miserable every day, but look at,

00:26:57.619 --> 00:26:59.140
I'm able to support the house, we're able to

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take our vacation. I gotta just let him be who

00:27:01.599 --> 00:27:04.289
he is. And because one of the hardest things

00:27:04.289 --> 00:27:05.950
that I would imagine when you're sitting down,

00:27:06.109 --> 00:27:07.990
you're telling someone, you know, your personality

00:27:07.990 --> 00:27:10.950
sucks and you need to develop this personality.

00:27:11.069 --> 00:27:13.150
And I know you're not saying it that way, obviously,

00:27:13.650 --> 00:27:17.250
but in essence, it's like, you got to do a reality

00:27:17.250 --> 00:27:19.309
check. You can't be narcissistic or you can't

00:27:19.309 --> 00:27:21.230
be controlling or now you got to find out why

00:27:21.230 --> 00:27:25.109
they're controlling it. And so, wow, but I love

00:27:25.109 --> 00:27:28.819
that that falls into the whole SWAT too. And

00:27:28.819 --> 00:27:32.079
the owners usually are not as involved either,

00:27:32.279 --> 00:27:34.380
right? So the owners, or it could be the owner,

00:27:34.380 --> 00:27:36.579
obviously, but sometimes the owner, when you

00:27:36.579 --> 00:27:40.079
have a missing owner, right, then that leader

00:27:40.079 --> 00:27:42.220
can get a little bit more aggressive, the manager

00:27:42.220 --> 00:27:45.420
and what they feel. Am I talking out of my mouth

00:27:45.420 --> 00:27:48.740
or my butt and I have no idea? Or do you agree

00:27:48.740 --> 00:27:51.690
with what I'm saying? Right. Yeah. So, oh, I

00:27:51.690 --> 00:27:55.390
agree 100 % and another thing he did was he said

00:27:55.390 --> 00:27:58.009
to his employees Oh, you know, you could forward

00:27:58.009 --> 00:28:01.470
the number the company number to your cell phone

00:28:01.470 --> 00:28:04.569
like while you're working and stuff But the problem

00:28:04.569 --> 00:28:07.549
with that is they never unfolded the number so

00:28:07.549 --> 00:28:10.450
people were calling at night and they were calling

00:28:10.450 --> 00:28:13.430
on the weekends and they would answer the phone

00:28:13.430 --> 00:28:15.970
for their business, you know for the company

00:28:15.970 --> 00:28:18.549
and they would never get paid for that and then

00:28:18.549 --> 00:28:21.160
they forwarded their e -mail to their personal

00:28:21.160 --> 00:28:23.599
e -mail, the company's e -mail, and then they

00:28:23.599 --> 00:28:25.859
were answering e -mails. Like on the weekend,

00:28:25.980 --> 00:28:27.680
like they were a doctor. You know, it was like

00:28:27.680 --> 00:28:34.299
crazy. So managers just, well, so you got to

00:28:34.299 --> 00:28:36.319
go in and you in essence have to be a doctor.

00:28:36.480 --> 00:28:39.799
You got to teach them how to change their behavior,

00:28:39.920 --> 00:28:42.039
because how it can affect. And that's really

00:28:42.039 --> 00:28:44.000
a trigger, right? Because what, as we said, it's

00:28:44.000 --> 00:28:46.880
not just a fitting the employee. It's everyone

00:28:46.880 --> 00:28:48.740
that that employee. So you're right, the store

00:28:48.740 --> 00:28:51.740
and the car. I mean, the stress that you're under.

00:28:52.460 --> 00:28:56.480
Wow. You know, this is so, this is so fascinating

00:28:56.480 --> 00:28:58.859
because it's like, we all kind of know it, but

00:28:58.859 --> 00:29:01.640
we don't think about it and how, so what do you

00:29:01.640 --> 00:29:05.119
recommend for employee that's like, oh my God,

00:29:05.240 --> 00:29:06.980
I really, or you're a family member and you're

00:29:06.980 --> 00:29:09.529
like, oh my God, this is like. Like do they just

00:29:09.529 --> 00:29:11.910
reach out to you and say can they get the strategic?

00:29:12.250 --> 00:29:15.470
Like I think I could talk my employer or or my

00:29:15.470 --> 00:29:18.410
my direct manager is fantastic But all the other

00:29:18.410 --> 00:29:21.890
ones are bringing everyone down, you know Like

00:29:21.890 --> 00:29:24.829
do they can get a cry to you for help? Did you

00:29:24.829 --> 00:29:29.009
ever hear of everybody must hit bottom? so what

00:29:29.009 --> 00:29:32.869
happens is like to me I don't want this to happen

00:29:32.869 --> 00:29:36.150
to anybody, right? But the perfect scenario is

00:29:36.150 --> 00:29:41.309
um the you know my whole entire company is completely

00:29:41.309 --> 00:29:44.789
out of control and I don't know what to do and

00:29:44.789 --> 00:29:47.950
I already filed bankruptcy one time and now I'm

00:29:47.950 --> 00:29:50.190
getting ready to go out of business and if I

00:29:50.190 --> 00:29:53.690
do that I will not have money to feed my family

00:29:53.690 --> 00:29:56.789
and I will have no company right and I will have

00:29:56.789 --> 00:30:00.410
no job so if you wait to get to that point I

00:30:00.410 --> 00:30:03.430
don't want anybody to get to that point but if

00:30:03.430 --> 00:30:06.809
somebody's there then they're going to be extra

00:30:06.829 --> 00:30:10.089
Dreamly willing to do anything because they'll

00:30:10.089 --> 00:30:12.349
tell me well, you know, I'll do anything. Just

00:30:12.349 --> 00:30:15.250
tell me what to do and I'll do it But if the

00:30:15.250 --> 00:30:18.029
company is not if the company is doing good,

00:30:18.049 --> 00:30:20.369
there were other problems like I said the employee

00:30:20.369 --> 00:30:25.930
turnover, okay But if the company realizes, okay,

00:30:25.990 --> 00:30:30.240
what that there is, you know friction or you

00:30:30.240 --> 00:30:33.079
know, people controlling people or negativity

00:30:33.079 --> 00:30:36.859
or fear or different things. If the company realizes

00:30:36.859 --> 00:30:40.400
this way before, you know, there's bankruptcy

00:30:40.400 --> 00:30:43.579
or, you know, they're spending extra money on

00:30:43.579 --> 00:30:46.460
training or they're losing a lot of money, then

00:30:46.460 --> 00:30:49.779
that's a good thing because then they will, you

00:30:49.779 --> 00:30:52.680
know, seek out the help. Right. And then they

00:30:52.680 --> 00:30:55.680
will try to say to themselves, you know, I'm

00:30:55.680 --> 00:30:57.880
going to do this. I don't want to do it. And

00:30:57.880 --> 00:30:59.779
the other thing too is, you know, I'm going to

00:30:59.779 --> 00:31:02.759
tell some you guys something. Okay. That a lot

00:31:02.759 --> 00:31:06.039
of people don't know. Okay. Take big companies,

00:31:06.299 --> 00:31:08.039
very big companies. I'm not going to say the

00:31:08.039 --> 00:31:11.660
company's names. Okay. Tech companies, the biggest

00:31:11.660 --> 00:31:14.680
tech companies in the world. Think of one because

00:31:14.680 --> 00:31:17.920
not that difficult. Okay. The reason why these

00:31:17.920 --> 00:31:21.009
tech companies do so well is because They have

00:31:21.009 --> 00:31:26.250
coaches, okay? They have mentors. They have coaches

00:31:26.250 --> 00:31:29.890
that coach the whole entire business, the managers,

00:31:30.230 --> 00:31:33.549
the supervisors, the employees, everybody down

00:31:33.549 --> 00:31:36.150
to the janitor, all the way down to the person

00:31:36.150 --> 00:31:39.900
that sweeps the floor. Okay, and that's the reason

00:31:39.900 --> 00:31:43.420
why they're this successful and they have lectures

00:31:43.420 --> 00:31:47.259
Okay, a coach will go into this company and they

00:31:47.259 --> 00:31:49.759
will do a lecture one lecture. They charge a

00:31:49.759 --> 00:31:52.880
hundred thousand dollars These coaches for one

00:31:52.880 --> 00:31:56.980
lecture Okay, and this is the reality. So these

00:31:56.980 --> 00:32:00.240
companies did not I'm not doing this well because

00:32:00.240 --> 00:32:03.920
You know, they're lucky, you know, they have

00:32:03.920 --> 00:32:07.079
the greatest product. That's not the reason why

00:32:07.079 --> 00:32:11.000
it's because they constantly pump this positive

00:32:11.000 --> 00:32:15.660
energy this positive attitude into the employees

00:32:15.660 --> 00:32:19.819
and the supervisors and the managers every single

00:32:19.819 --> 00:32:24.220
day All right. And whether that person's negative

00:32:24.220 --> 00:32:27.940
or not, I can't control what that person does

00:32:27.940 --> 00:32:31.599
when they leave the office, right? I'm hoping

00:32:31.599 --> 00:32:34.579
they'll carry that over. I'm saying it's automatic,

00:32:35.140 --> 00:32:37.099
which, you know, nine times that a 10 it is,

00:32:37.279 --> 00:32:39.359
you know, and I just know that from experience,

00:32:39.359 --> 00:32:41.720
but that's not every single person on earth.

00:32:41.980 --> 00:32:44.460
All right. Some people that doesn't happen to,

00:32:44.740 --> 00:32:48.740
okay, which is rare. Okay. But now. What's gonna

00:32:48.740 --> 00:32:51.539
happen is that they're gonna go to work and they're

00:32:51.539 --> 00:32:54.019
gonna be negative Okay, because their family

00:32:54.019 --> 00:32:56.420
is negative. Let's say they wake up in the morning

00:32:56.420 --> 00:32:59.000
and their kids are fighting They're throwing

00:32:59.000 --> 00:33:01.700
you know before school. They're throwing stuff

00:33:01.700 --> 00:33:04.299
at them at each other, you know, and they're

00:33:04.299 --> 00:33:07.940
like really really super You know like unbelievable,

00:33:08.319 --> 00:33:12.480
right and then so she goes into work the the

00:33:12.480 --> 00:33:16.069
employee whether it's a he or she goes into work

00:33:16.069 --> 00:33:19.430
with this negativity. So now they have to change.

00:33:19.849 --> 00:33:22.009
You know what I mean? They have to do this every

00:33:22.009 --> 00:33:24.650
single day. That's not easy, right? That's why

00:33:24.650 --> 00:33:27.329
I teach it where they're going to work on it

00:33:27.329 --> 00:33:29.970
and they're going to do it all day long where

00:33:29.970 --> 00:33:31.829
it becomes automatic like it's brushing your

00:33:31.829 --> 00:33:34.950
teeth. Not all coaches do it this way. I do something

00:33:34.950 --> 00:33:38.470
completely different than the way other coaches

00:33:38.470 --> 00:33:42.480
work. Okay, and I do it this way and I have this

00:33:42.480 --> 00:33:46.200
type of specific experience for this and this

00:33:46.200 --> 00:33:49.819
is the most 100 effective way because listen,

00:33:49.880 --> 00:33:53.200
I love everybody and I think everybody's fantastic

00:33:53.200 --> 00:33:55.740
But if I teach you something I never want to

00:33:55.740 --> 00:33:59.539
hear from you again because if I am you're constantly

00:33:59.539 --> 00:34:02.220
coming back to me Okay, I'm not like a therapist,

00:34:02.500 --> 00:34:04.680
right? You know where you need to come back to

00:34:04.680 --> 00:34:06.819
me, you know in order for me to make money Okay,

00:34:06.819 --> 00:34:08.619
I don't want to say, you know, I don't want to

00:34:08.619 --> 00:34:10.900
say anything bad about therapists, but you know,

00:34:11.039 --> 00:34:13.239
in my experience, a lot of them did that, right?

00:34:14.340 --> 00:34:16.260
because I'm going to put food on their table,

00:34:16.320 --> 00:34:20.079
right? But if the idea is for them, for me to

00:34:20.079 --> 00:34:22.360
teach them and they practice it in their life

00:34:22.360 --> 00:34:24.400
and then they don't come back to me. And then

00:34:24.400 --> 00:34:26.699
you know what happens then? That enables me to

00:34:26.699 --> 00:34:29.519
get more clients. You know why? Because I'm producing

00:34:29.519 --> 00:34:33.159
this type of energy into the atmosphere, into

00:34:33.159 --> 00:34:36.000
the universe where I truly am doing something

00:34:36.000 --> 00:34:38.960
that I want people to help that that's going

00:34:38.960 --> 00:34:40.860
to be a positive thing where people are going

00:34:40.860 --> 00:34:43.909
to help each other. Okay. And I'm not doing it

00:34:43.909 --> 00:34:47.030
from my own selfish ends. I'm not doing it so

00:34:47.030 --> 00:34:50.349
I can make money and I can make a paycheck. That's

00:34:50.349 --> 00:34:53.670
not you know, I need money, you know what I was

00:34:53.670 --> 00:34:56.289
saying? You know, I have bills, you know, just

00:34:56.289 --> 00:34:59.250
like everybody else does, right? But that's not

00:34:59.250 --> 00:35:02.269
why I'm doing it. And when I produce that type

00:35:02.269 --> 00:35:05.750
of energy, okay, and I, you know, give money

00:35:05.750 --> 00:35:08.710
away, I do I give to charities, you know, all

00:35:08.710 --> 00:35:11.590
these different things, all these unselfish acts,

00:35:11.869 --> 00:35:15.309
okay, I give my employees bonuses, or there's

00:35:15.309 --> 00:35:17.289
a million things that I could think of. Okay,

00:35:17.289 --> 00:35:21.010
when I do these things, I'm not putting myself

00:35:21.130 --> 00:35:23.170
first, I'm putting myself be the second or third,

00:35:23.409 --> 00:35:26.170
right? And I'm putting my employees and my family

00:35:26.170 --> 00:35:28.769
and all these different things first. And then

00:35:28.769 --> 00:35:32.420
I will get that I will get That will give me

00:35:32.420 --> 00:35:34.880
more business. That will give me the clients

00:35:34.880 --> 00:35:37.619
and they'll all be positive. But here's the problem

00:35:37.619 --> 00:35:41.400
with that is that I have to learn how to change

00:35:41.400 --> 00:35:44.719
myself in order for me to do that. I'm not I

00:35:44.719 --> 00:35:47.460
can't be a negative person where my my company

00:35:47.460 --> 00:35:49.739
is like, you know, going to go bankrupt tomorrow

00:35:49.739 --> 00:35:52.300
and then all of a sudden I wake up one morning

00:35:52.300 --> 00:35:54.400
and I'm like, okay, I'm not going to be selfish

00:35:54.400 --> 00:35:56.800
anymore. You know, I'm going to give a bonus.

00:35:57.139 --> 00:35:59.059
You know what I mean? That's not how it works.

00:35:59.260 --> 00:36:01.510
You know, I want to be able to to do this all

00:36:01.510 --> 00:36:04.369
the time where this is now going to become the

00:36:04.369 --> 00:36:07.090
way I practice my business. And in order for

00:36:07.090 --> 00:36:10.170
me to do that, that my whole entire behavior,

00:36:10.429 --> 00:36:14.949
every single thing I do has to change. And that's

00:36:14.949 --> 00:36:19.039
why somebody who really has a bottom. who's really,

00:36:19.380 --> 00:36:23.079
their business is gonna go down tomorrow. Those

00:36:23.079 --> 00:36:25.420
are the best people to work with, not saying

00:36:25.420 --> 00:36:29.820
that anybody's easy to work with, but as long

00:36:29.820 --> 00:36:32.360
as they want it, but those are gonna be the most

00:36:32.360 --> 00:36:34.579
willing. And that's just from my experience,

00:36:34.679 --> 00:36:39.690
but anybody's really willing. I love it. So you

00:36:39.690 --> 00:36:43.010
guys heard exactly who Debbie's avatar is. So

00:36:43.010 --> 00:36:46.389
we know how to recommend her. If you are an employee

00:36:46.389 --> 00:36:49.909
in the situation of toxic, you can reach out

00:36:49.909 --> 00:36:52.369
to Debbie for life coaching, which will really

00:36:52.369 --> 00:36:55.309
help you to determine if you should stay or go.

00:36:55.530 --> 00:36:57.570
I think really, and what's going to make you

00:36:57.570 --> 00:37:00.570
more fulfilled and successful. So Debbie, you're

00:37:00.570 --> 00:37:02.510
awesome. I'm so glad that you're like, I literally

00:37:02.510 --> 00:37:04.070
can throw it. Well, I can't throw them rock that,

00:37:04.130 --> 00:37:07.679
but I can meet you at My favorite place, Kings

00:37:07.679 --> 00:37:11.280
Donut, just FYI, I love donuts. I would love

00:37:11.280 --> 00:37:12.860
to come and meet you. If you've been there, it's

00:37:12.860 --> 00:37:15.860
amazing. No, where is it? Oh, one last thing.

00:37:16.300 --> 00:37:19.960
So before you go, follow the Foodie review. Let

00:37:19.960 --> 00:37:22.559
me get it exactly right. Tricia Phillips. in

00:37:22.559 --> 00:37:25.960
that area does an amazing, amazing job. And it's

00:37:25.960 --> 00:37:28.280
all positive. I mean, the reviews are really

00:37:28.280 --> 00:37:31.340
lovely, but you won't see a review. Because you

00:37:31.340 --> 00:37:32.800
know how reviews are, right? Someone could go

00:37:32.800 --> 00:37:35.579
in and insult something because they don't like

00:37:35.579 --> 00:37:40.559
peas and like taste, but she has it looks like

00:37:40.559 --> 00:37:46.800
this. And it's called foodie review 386 Daytona

00:37:46.800 --> 00:37:50.219
pour orange or men pants inlet New Samurna Beach

00:37:50.219 --> 00:37:53.739
in DeLand. She's got how many she's got 51 ,000

00:37:53.739 --> 00:37:56.460
followers, but you like so you can search if

00:37:56.460 --> 00:37:59.400
you're looking for Chinese lians. So we all got

00:37:59.400 --> 00:38:01.420
it for you if you like to go out or shopping

00:38:01.420 --> 00:38:03.780
or whatever you'd like to do. And I think you

00:38:03.780 --> 00:38:06.840
have a trader Joe's coming. And yeah, well, yeah.

00:38:07.260 --> 00:38:10.219
And but I do love Paris. All these owners. Oh,

00:38:10.239 --> 00:38:12.980
it's out. It's Aldi. Oh, all these. Oh, all these

00:38:12.980 --> 00:38:15.960
is coming. We've got like three right here. Close

00:38:15.960 --> 00:38:19.650
to me. But otherwise. I know it's just so much

00:38:19.650 --> 00:38:22.389
fun. Oh, Sprouts is coming to Port Orange. So

00:38:22.389 --> 00:38:25.050
excited about that. The beach is amazing. You're

00:38:25.050 --> 00:38:27.230
gonna love it. Oh, I'm so excited that you're

00:38:27.230 --> 00:38:30.929
here. So good move. Good move. And I know that

00:38:30.929 --> 00:38:33.030
in the dead of the winter up north, you'll be

00:38:33.030 --> 00:38:36.489
calling going, oh, it's snowing. I'm in the pool.

00:38:37.199 --> 00:38:40.940
I know I did that last year. I know I've been

00:38:40.940 --> 00:38:43.320
jealous. Yeah. I've been here two years. Oh,

00:38:43.360 --> 00:38:46.300
yeah. Oh, so I recognize your name. So I'm thinking,

00:38:46.460 --> 00:38:49.340
I feel like maybe I saw it or something. So,

00:38:49.380 --> 00:38:52.380
uh, but I love it. Okay. Everyone, time to say

00:38:52.380 --> 00:38:54.599
goodbye. I love this interview. It'll be turned

00:38:54.599 --> 00:38:58.619
into a podcast and you're awesome Debbie. I'm

00:38:58.619 --> 00:39:01.820
so excited to meet you. I'll send you information

00:39:01.820 --> 00:39:04.800
on the SWAT and order because I do have a committee.

00:39:05.340 --> 00:39:07.219
That is working on it. And I think you should

00:39:07.219 --> 00:39:10.219
get on chatter social. I think it would be perfect

00:39:10.219 --> 00:39:12.260
for you. You actually have the setup already.

00:39:12.539 --> 00:39:15.219
You could go live, you could stream and you can

00:39:15.219 --> 00:39:17.420
make money on the first day. Yeah, I'm gonna

00:39:17.420 --> 00:39:21.480
as a creator. I actually just got paid at the

00:39:21.480 --> 00:39:24.019
first of the month. So it's one of the few that

00:39:24.019 --> 00:39:27.440
actually will pay you and hopefully you'll come

00:39:27.440 --> 00:39:29.760
in and meet a lot of people. I'm Adrienne Barker

00:39:29.760 --> 00:39:32.440
on there. So just my name you'll find me sign

00:39:32.440 --> 00:39:35.019
up with your real name. And, uh, and you'll enjoy

00:39:35.019 --> 00:39:36.760
it. There's onboarding rooms. So you get a kick

00:39:36.760 --> 00:39:39.380
out of it. And other than that, have a great

00:39:39.380 --> 00:39:41.480
rest of the day. Debbie, I love that you're brave

00:39:41.480 --> 00:39:43.199
and you're bold and you're beautiful and you're

00:39:43.199 --> 00:39:46.159
right next to me. Amazing. Is there anything

00:39:46.159 --> 00:39:47.900
else you want to add before I end the stream?

00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:50.320
No, they can get in touch with me on life in

00:39:50.320 --> 00:39:52.320
bloom. You had the website and everything up

00:39:52.320 --> 00:39:55.059
there. It's life in bloom and why .net. That's

00:39:55.059 --> 00:39:57.920
where all my information is going to be. Perfect.

00:39:58.119 --> 00:40:00.300
Perfect. I love it. Thank you. All right. I'm

00:40:00.300 --> 00:40:01.380
going to end the stream. You have a homework

00:40:01.380 --> 00:40:02.920
to do. I want to see your company page.