Episodes

Six years after leaving an abusive relationship, Tiffiny Newton turned her pain into purpose. As founder of New Tide Consulting LLC and co-founder of Ignite Her Inc. , she now empowers women to recognize emotional abuse, create safe exit strategies, and rebuild their confidence and independence. In this powerful episode of Bent Not Broken , Tiffiny shares her experience with love bombing, gaslighting, coercive control, trauma bonding, financial abuse, and the five times she tried to leave before...

After my powerful conversation with Paquita Reddish, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on what it truly means to be refined—not ruined—by life’s hardest seasons. In this coaching-style bonus episode, I talk about why healing and building don’t happen in separate chapters. They grow together. You don’t have to wait until you feel “fully healed” to start rebuilding your life, your confidence, or your purpose. We explore: Why fear often shows up right before transformation The difference between...

What if the fire meant to break you actually refined you? In this powerful episode, I’m joined by Paquita Reddish , a survivor of domestic violence, depression, and deep personal struggle who transformed pain into purpose through faith, healing, and entrepreneurship. Paquita is the CEO of Blessed Divine Creations, LLC , a motivational speaker, and a devoted mother of three who is building legacy-centered spaces for Black women in business. Paquita shares the pivotal moment with her daughter that...

In this bonus coaching episode, Deborah expands on key insights from her conversation with Karen and explores how the stories we carry—often shaped by divorce, illness, trauma, and people-pleasing—can quietly keep us stuck. This episode focuses on awareness, breath, and gentle mindset shifts that help women reconnect with themselves and begin rewriting limiting beliefs such as “it’s too late,” “I can’t,” or “I should be further along.” Deborah offers a grounding reflection and simple coaching pr...

In this episode, I’m joined by Karen Theimer , a Freedom Coach, Breathwork Facilitator, and wellness expert with nearly 20 years of experience helping women reclaim their confidence and sense of self. Karen shares her journey through divorce, a cancer diagnosis, burnout, and feeling stuck—and how those wake-up calls led her to healing through breathwork, mindset shifts, and holistic wellness. We explore confidence after 50, letting go of guilt and people-pleasing, regulating the nervous system, ...

In this bonus episode of Bent Not Broken , Deborah offers grounded coaching for anyone navigating high-conflict divorce, legal abuse, or parental alienation. Building on the conversation with Lisa Johnson, this episode explains why high-conflict divorce is not “normal” divorce and how trauma responses, self-doubt, and exhaustion often show up during custody and court battles. Deborah shares practical insights on regaining strategic oversight of your case, working with an attorney without giving ...

In this episode of Bent Not Broken , Deborah speaks with Lisa Johnson , co-founder of Been There, Got Out and a leading voice on high-conflict divorce and legal abuse. Lisa shares insights from lived experience and landmark legal work—her self-represented case, published in the Connecticut Law Journal , is now legal precedent, and her testimony helped expand domestic violence laws to include coercive control . Together, they unpack red flags of high-conflict divorce, financial abuse and hidden a...

In this Bent Not Broken bonus episode, Coach Deborah goes deeper into the themes sparked by her conversation with Kira Hartley Klinger —exploring what really happens when your voice has been silenced for years and how self-trust is rebuilt after toxic relationships. This episode is for anyone who resonated with Kira’s story of emotional shutdown, self-silencing, and learning to “keep the peace” at the expense of their identity. We unpack why losing your voice is often a survival strategy, not a ...

Today’s guest is Kira Hartley Klinger , an entrepreneur, author, and creative force whose journey proves it’s never too late to reinvent your life. Kira shares her powerful story of spending 23 years in a toxic marriage where she slowly lost her voice—learning to stay quiet to keep the peace. In this honest and inspiring conversation, she opens up about the moment she finally said “I’m done,” and what it took to rebuild her life, her confidence, and her sense of self. We talk about reclaiming yo...

In this bonus coaching episode of Bent Not Broken , Deborah reflects on her conversation with Linda Grizzley , host of the Real Money Real Life Podcast , and helps listeners integrate the emotional and financial realities of life after divorce. Divorce doesn’t just change relationships—it impacts confidence, self-trust, and our relationship with money. In this short coaching session, Deborah explains why financial avoidance is so common after divorce and why awareness—not fear—is the first step ...

In this episode, Deborah sits down with Linda Grizzely , a financial wellness speaker, personal finance educator, and host of the Real Money, Real Life podcast. After divorcing following 23 years of marriage, Linda found herself navigating finances she hadn’t managed in years—conflicting advice, financial stress, and survival mode. That experience reshaped how she now supports women through a judgment-free, human-centered approach to money . Together, they explore why financial healing must be p...

In this Bent Not Broken bonus coaching episode , Coach Deborah expands on key themes from her conversation with Chris Cushing , a US Air Force veteran and entrepreneur, focusing on intuition, self-trust, and living authentically . This episode explores why so many people ignore early red flags, say yes out of obligation, and follow societal expectations instead of their inner knowing. Through trauma-informed coaching, Deborah explains why pausing is a powerful act of healing and how listening to...

In this powerful episode of Bent Not Broken , Coach Deborah sits down with Chris Cushing , a US Air Force veteran , entrepreneur, and founder of VA Victory , to discuss living authentically after divorce , navigating military life , and breaking free from societal expectations . Chris shares her honest journey of entering a marriage she knew wasn’t right, serving in the Air Force overseas in England , becoming an instant stepmom , and ultimately coming out and choosing truth over comfort. She op...

In this Bent Not Broken bonus coaching episode, host Deborah Griffiths builds on her conversation with Gail Showalter , offering practical guidance for women navigating life after divorce and emotional betrayal. This episode reframes betrayal as trauma—not failure—and focuses on how real healing happens through small, intentional steps. Deborah shares insight on stabilizing after heartbreak, rebuilding self-trust, and using clarity—not confidence—to move forward. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, s...

In this inspiring episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce , host Deborah Griffiths speaks with Gail Showalter about divorce recovery, single motherhood, and reinvention after betrayal. Gail shares her powerful journey from a picture-perfect life to becoming a single mom of three after infidelity shattered her marriage. Through grief, financial uncertainty, and emotional isolation, she rebuilt her life step by step—returning to college, becoming a teacher, and later founding Single Moms Em...

In this powerful episode, Coach Deborah sits down with Jonathan Aslay , one of America’s leading midlife self-love and life coaches. After surviving divorce, financial collapse, and the heartbreaking loss of his 19-year-old son, Jonathan discovered a truth many of us struggle to see: Most people aren’t struggling with dating. They’re struggling with self-worth and self-love . Jonathan shares how grief reshaped his understanding of love, why so many women date from a wounded place, and how traum...

In this bonus coaching session, Coach Deborah unpacks the most powerful insights from her conversation with self-love coach Jonathan Aslay . Together, they explored how grief, divorce, trauma, and identity loss can disconnect us from our self-worth—and how rebuilding begins from within. This episode gives you simple, practical coaching tools to help you strengthen your emotional foundation and reconnect with your voice, boundaries, and inner clarity. In This Episode You’ll Learn: • Why rebuildin...

In this bonus coaching session, Coach Deborah breaks down the key insights from her conversation with author and filmmaker Nikki Allen , whose story of emotional erasure and recovery resonates with so many women healing from toxic relationships. Deborah explores how emotional manipulation, love bombing, the charm–harm cycle, and self-doubt slowly silence a woman’s voice. She offers practical coaching steps to help you reconnect with your intuition, examine old wounds, release shame, and begin wh...

In this powerful episode, author and filmmaker Nikki Allen shares how a relationship with no bruises—but deep emotional damage—nearly erased her identity. Her novel Loved You, Hated You began as a song, became a screenplay, and ultimately became the story she needed to tell to reclaim her voice. Nikki opens up about the charm–harm dynamic , emotional manipulation, isolation, love bombing, and the slow erosion of self-trust that so many women experience in unhealthy relationships. She reveals how...

In this bonus episode, Deborah breaks down the most powerful lessons from her conversation with award-winning strengths coach and author MaLinda Perry . This short coaching session guides listeners through the emotional recovery process after divorce, especially for women healing from toxic relationships or emotional abuse. Deborah explores the red flags MaLinda ignored, the manipulation that slowly eroded her confidence, and the small steps she took to rebuild her identity. Listeners will learn...

In this inspiring episode, Deborah sits down with MaLinda Perry —KBIS award-winning leader, Gallup Certified Strengths Coach, bestselling author, and founder of Happy Girls Don’t Do That . MaLinda shares her powerful divorce story, from ignored red flags and emotional manipulation to rediscovering her identity through strengths-based healing. MaLinda opens up about the moment her bonus daughter told her to run, the unpredictable meanness she lived with, and the “gut feelings” she pushed aside. S...

In this bonus episode, Coach Deborah breaks down the most transformative insights from her conversation with Dr. Robin Buckley—executive coach, clinical psychologist, and author of Marriage Incorporated . If you’re navigating divorce recovery, emotional abuse, or starting over after a toxic relationship, this episode gives you practical tools to rebuild with clarity and intention. You’ll learn why your next relationship needs a strategy , how to balance red flags and green flags , and how defini...

In this episode, Coach Deborah sits down with Dr. Robin Buckley , executive coach, PhD in clinical psychology, and author of Marriage, Inc. Dr. Robin blends business strategy, cognitive behavioral tools, and lived experience from two divorces to help people heal after separation and create intentional, healthier relationships. We explore how to move from emotion-driven reactions to strategic thinking, how to evaluate red flags and green flags, and why role clarity and communication are essential...

In this Bent Not Broken bonus coaching session, Coach Deborah expands on the powerful insights shared with therapist and author Oona Metz, LICSW , diving into the emotional and identity shifts women face during gray divorce . This episode explores how long-term marriage shapes a woman’s identity, why the “wasted years” narrative keeps women stuck, and how to release guilt and reframe the past with compassion. Deborah also unpacks the hidden losses of gray divorce—retirement dreams, changing trad...